Erickhandsome in NYC

[TakeOneForTheTeam]

A couple of other things about Eric. He has four different names at the same time on the site. One is badngrooming. Very clever how he has only two pictures and one is of his lips. He is trying to hide the fact that he has several ads on here at the same time. Same person. I will also tell you that he told me he hates escorting but he owned four air nb's and 2 months ago they all failed and he had put all his eggs and one basket and he lost everything which is why he has to resort to be on an escort. I did not ask to hear any of this. Nor did I want to hear it I don't like a lot of conversation with these guys because it's time on the clock and I'm not here to be your counselor although I like some chit chat possibly I don't want it to be total silence but I don't need to hear your drama. He showed up wearing a black hat black pants black shoes black pants. The best was leather. This is not the look of the guy you would see in a leather bar. He is probably 37-38 if not 40 years old.  If I think of it I will look them up later to see what his other names are that he uses.

[KeepItReal]

27 minutes ago, TakeOneForTheTeam said:

A couple of other things about Eric. He has four different names at the same time on the site. One is badngrooming. Very clever how he has only two pictures and one is of his lips. He is trying to hide the fact that he has several ads on here at the same time. Same person. I will also tell you that he told me he hates escorting but he owned four air nb's and 2 months ago they all failed and he had put all his eggs and one basket and he lost everything which is why he has to resort to be on an escort. I did not ask to hear any of this. Nor did I want to hear it I don't like a lot of conversation with these guys because it's time on the clock and I'm not here to be your counselor although I like some chit chat possibly I don't want it to be total silence but I don't need to hear your drama. He showed up wearing a black hat black pants black shoes black pants. The best was leather. This is not the look of the guy you would see in a leather bar. He is probably 37-38 if not 40 years old.  If I think of it I will look them up later to see what his other names are that he uses.

Wow. The guy spends time with you,  tells you personal details, that I am sure was painful to share, and the very next day you put it on a public forum? And you berate others for not having respectful discourse by your definition...so tell me how is this behavior respectful?  🤔 

He asked about your health and was probably trying to put you at ease, show empathy...but instead you take offense and insisted on treating him like a dildo - no talking please, just make me feel good. Did he express disgust at your scars? No. But you throw him out and then claim to be disgusted. 

There is a reason why companions so rarely participate on this forum...and this discussion is a great example. 

If you didn't have a good time with him, why not just say: "I met him yesterday and didn't enjoy myself. He is older than indicated and too chatty. I don't recommend him." No, you have to spill all the details of a personal conversation without accounting for the companions perspective. In multiple posts, no less. Shame on you, sir. 

[CuriousByNature]

5 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

Wow. The guy spends time with you,  tells you personal details, that I am sure was painful to share, and the very next day you put it on a public forum? And you berate others for not having respectful discourse by your definition...so tell me how is this behavior respectful?  🤔 

He asked about your health and was probably trying to put you at ease, show empathy...but instead you take offense and insisted on treating him like a dildo - no talking please, just make me feel good. Did he express disgust at your scars? No. But you throw him out and then claim to be disgusted. 

There is a reason why companions so rarely participate on this forum...and this discussion is a great example. 

If you didn't have a good time with him, why not just say: "I met him yesterday and didn't enjoy myself. He is older than indicated and too chatty. I don't recommend him." No, you have to spill all the details of a personal conversation without accounting for the companions perspective. In multiple posts, no less. Shame on you, sir. 

I have to respectfully disagree with your assessment here.  Nobody else was in the room with them, so none of us can say what motivated the provider to keep asking about health matters.  Whether or not he genuinely cared, or was instead overly curious and unable to mind his own business, the main point is that it caused the client unnecessary pain. 

And with respect to the client revealing private information about the provider on this forum - information that you are 'sure was painful (for the provide) to share' - I have to wonder how concerned the provider was about his private information if he was willing to share it so freely with someone he just met.  It doesn't sound like this information was shared with the expectation of complete confidentiality. 

But regardless, there is nothing wrong with a client not wanting to spend their time with a provider engaging in idle chit-chat.  Given the circumstances the client finds himself in, and his reasons for engaging a provider, I would hope more grace could be extended to him.  I would like to extend that same grace to you, and believe you are only trying to be helpful by suggesting how his post could have been written instead.  I think we also have to remember that the poster is relatively new to the forum, and that every person who posts here does so differently.  Peace 🙏

Edited March 12 by CuriousByNature

[d.anders]

12 hours ago, TakeOneForTheTeam said:

I also apologize

No need to apologize to me. My social media skills are pitiful. Without clear and correct information, I can easily get lost and confused.

I have a very dear friend who endured several brain surgeries due to cancer. He is now wheelchair bound. The guy was a very talented, much loved professor, so to witness the effect that cancer has had on him is very traumatizing and painful.

I don't have cancer, but in my elder years, I now consider myself a special needs customer. The days of being handsome, lean, and muscle defined are over for me. I no longer have hair on my head, and I hate being bald. My health issues are serious, but they are not obvious to strangers. I must explain to providers before a service begins to avoid disaster. I require a patient guy who is caring and understanding. Not easy to find.

Most guys in this business are not prepared to service special needs customers. Most guys don't want us. I find it is very unfair to expect special consideration without giving someone a chance to absorb the challenges, and come to term with those challenges in their own way.

I don't want to identify as an old man, but ignoring the reality does me no good. It's now a part of who I am. That is why I send a nude photo to providers I am interested in. I appreciate the ones who say "no thanks," but most never respond to my queries. Luckily for me, there are enough who do respond. Life can still be good and pleasurable, and those feelings are important to me.

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[TakeOneForTheTeam]

18 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

Wow. The guy spends time with you,  tells you personal details, that I am sure was painful to share, and the very next day you put it on a public forum? And you berate others for not having respectful discourse by your definition...so tell me how is this behavior respectful?  🤔 

He asked about your health and was probably trying to put you at ease, show empathy...but instead you take offense and insisted on treating him like a dildo - no talking please, just make me feel good. Did he express disgust at your scars? No. But you throw him out and then claim to be disgusted. 

There is a reason why companions so rarely participate on this forum...and this discussion is a great example. 

If you didn't have a good time with him, why not just say: "I met him yesterday and didn't enjoy myself. He is older than indicated and too chatty. I don't recommend him." No, you have to spill all the details of a personal conversation without accounting for the companions perspective. In multiple posts, no less. Shame on you, sir. 

Same on me? Perhaps I shouldn't have revealed much about his personal situation but why the fuck not? He's a goddamn thief. He took $325 for being there for 10 minutes to tell me how to handle cancer I had already paid him. That was a mistake I made I had the right to say I don't want this conversation. You don't know me so back the hell off. I don't mind conversation with providers but when there's a particular conversation that it's sensitive to me and I said I don't want to hear it then that should be respected I don't give a damn that I told people about what he is really like this form is forced to share our experience and I did. Go hire him if you want it's your loss.

[TakeOneForTheTeam]

13 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

I have to respectfully disagree with your assessment here.  Nobody else was in the room with them, so none of us can say what motivated the provider to keep asking about health matters.  Whether or not he genuinely cared, or was instead overly curious and unable to mind his own business, the main point is that it caused the client unnecessary pain. 

And with respect to the client revealing private information about the provider on this forum - information that you are 'sure was painful (for the provide) to share' - I have to wonder how concerned the provider was about his private information if he was willing to share it so freely with someone he just met.  It doesn't sound like this information was shared with the expectation of complete confidentiality. 

But regardless, there is nothing wrong with a client not wanting to spend their time with a provider engaging in idle chit-chat.  Given the circumstances the client finds himself in, and his reasons for engaging a provider, I would hope more grace could be extended to him.  I would like to extend that same grace to you, and believe you are only trying to be helpful by suggesting how his post could have been written instead.  I think we also have to remember that the poster is relatively new to the forum, and that every person who posts here does so differently.  Peace 🙏

Curious by nature you right beautifully. I am more grateful than you know. Thank you so very much.

[mike carey]

8 hours ago, d.anders said:

I don't want to identify as an old man, but ignoring the reality does me no good.

What you said there is a powerfull thought. In these days of identity consciousness and identity politics, 'identify as' has become something of a loaded term. It's usually used as a term for aggressively claiming 'an identity' or to denigrate people for wanting to claim an identity that the accuser disputes.

I don't want to identify as an old man either, but that is not a way to claim that I am not one, I clearly am. Nor is it in any way analogous to someone not wanting to 'identify as gay', as a way either to evade or deny their acceptance of what they are or to avoid opprobrium.

What I want to do is say it isn't central to my identity, I'll still freely admit that I am one if asked, and I'm making small allowances for it all the time, but I still don't think of myself as 'old', I'm just me. Unlike some other 'identities', I don't need to claim it, it's obvious. My politics, sexuality or religion can't be seen when you look at me, but my age is clear and your assumption about my gender and racial identity is correct.

What you identify as, and what it means is nuanced, sometimes identifying is important, sometimes not, and sometimes it's irrelevant to the rest of your life. If you don't want to identify as 'an old man' you don't have to, and even if you do so, that doesn't have to affect your lived experience.

[+ FrankR]

4 minutes ago, mike carey said:

Unlike some other 'identities', I don't need to claim it, it's obvious. My politics, sexuality or religion can't be seen when you look at me, but my age is clear and your assumption about my gender and racial identity is correct.

 

Don’t dispair @mike carey  I know the best Botox guy in NYC - he will take 30 years off of ya! You will be as smooth as Matt Bomer’s peach!! 😉

[d.anders]

1 hour ago, mike carey said:

What I want to do is say it isn't central to my identity

I don't know what "central" means. Is it 40%, 50%, or 60% of my identity? Even if I live to 100, I'm in the last 1/4 of my life. So if my math skills are worth anything, I'm 75% old, and that seems a hell of a lot more than "central" to me.

There was a time when I had hair, could stand up straight, and no one could guess my age. Soon after 50 that changed. Now, it's impossible to hide or pretend, no matter how rested or energetic I am. Way too many strangers offer me their seat, and considering I live in NYC, it's very touching to me. I don't want to be one of those narcissists who lives in denial. Old now is the majority of my identity, and when I solicit provider help, I want to be upfront and truthful about it.

(Edit) Gay guys don't like being tricked or left to guess.

Edited March 13 by d.anders