First approach

[Herse]

Hello everyone! First of all, thank you for this community and for keeping it alive. It feels great to have this space and be able to ask questions.

I have hired a few times before (4, I believe) but have always struggled with what the first message should be and the flow of the conversation, English is not my mother tongue so there´s an additional layer of wondering if I´m being too formal or clear enough. Usually, it goes something like this:

Hey man, I hope it´s going well! I am looking for a BFE and looking to top. Kissing is important to me. Are you available on ______ ?

Depending on the response, I will follow up with more concrete questions. 

What are your thoughts? When do you discuss rates? How do you ask for a face pic if the provider isn't posting one on their public profile? How do you mention your health stats and ask for theirs (if you do)? Lastly, do you mind sharing your first approaches?

 

As always, thanks!

[56harrisond]

Take a look at:

 

[CuriousByNature]

9 hours ago, Herse said:

Hello everyone! First of all, thank you for this community and for keeping it alive. It feels great to have this space and be able to ask questions.

I have hired a few times before (4, I believe) but have always struggled with what the first message should be and the flow of the conversation, English is not my mother tongue so there´s an additional layer of wondering if I´m being too formal or clear enough. Usually, it goes something like this:

Hey man, I hope it´s going well! I am looking for a BFE and looking to top. Kissing is important to me. Are you available on ______ ?

Depending on the response, I will follow up with more concrete questions. 

What are your thoughts? When do you discuss rates? How do you ask for a face pic if the provider isn't posting one on their public profile? How do you mention your health stats and ask for theirs (if you do)? Lastly, do you mind sharing your first approaches?

 

As always, thanks!

For what it's worth, your command of English seems great!

[Herse]

On 9/5/2023 at 1:12 PM, 56harrisond said:

Take a look at:

 

Thank you! 

[Herse]

22 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

For what it's worth, your command of English seems great!

Thanks, I appreciate it!

[ICTJOCK]

Let me say, most initial openers from potential clients haven't ever been an issue for me.    Most are polite,  going direct to the point never offends me either.

I think your approach sounds fine.     Most initial contacts are brief,  asking about the totality of service and asking rates at the end of that initial contact seems totally appropriate.      I would hope most clients show the professionalism that you do.    

[Herse]

Thanks for everybody's perspectives, I think it comes down to being direct, respectful and brief until the provider communicates availability 

[TopBunk]

I enjoy a bit of conversation (5-8 texts I guess) starting with general greetings. I say what I'm into, ask what they're into, and also ask about donations. If someone doesn't have the patience to chat a tiny bit, I am not the right client for them.

[+ Axiom2001]

On 9/5/2023 at 12:03 PM, Herse said:

Hello everyone! First of all, thank you for this community and for keeping it alive. It feels great to have this space and be able to ask questions.

I have hired a few times before (4, I believe) but have always struggled with what the first message should be and the flow of the conversation, English is not my mother tongue so there´s an additional layer of wondering if I´m being too formal or clear enough. Usually, it goes something like this:

Hey man, I hope it´s going well! I am looking for a BFE and looking to top. Kissing is important to me. Are you available on ______ ?

Depending on the response, I will follow up with more concrete questions. 

What are your thoughts? When do you discuss rates? How do you ask for a face pic if the provider isn't posting one on their public profile? How do you mention your health stats and ask for theirs (if you do)? Lastly, do you mind sharing your first approaches?

My communication has primarily taken place in the "CHAT" at Rent.men.com.  "I've viewed your encouraging ad on Rent.men.eu and truly liked your photos and wording.  I'll be in San Francisco on_________, and would like to have some hot play.  I prefer the "bottom bunk" and would liked to be "dick(ed) down." Regarding the preceding comment, I've received some highly encouraging responses if the escort is a 9 or 10.  "What is your current fee for an hour?"  

Almost all of my interested escorts have had photos; thus I have not had to request them.  In fact, I have never asked and hope what they'd posted will not be a let down.  And when I've been asked for photos, I have declined, for I DO NOT HAVE ANY to send. 

I can't recall what I did when I first began to engage the services of escorts.  I remember prior to the internet, I'll engage the services via ads in gay newspapers.  The only conversation prior to the play sessions would be to make an appointment via telephone and hope in one's NOT being disappointed in any way. 

 

 

As always, thanks!