Advise for 1st time with an Escort

[Guest banditdallas]

Guys,

 

I've just made my first appt with an escort and I wanted to know what I should expect. He's meeting me at my hotel. Should I supply condoms and lube or should I expect him to bring it? Any other advise is greatly appreciated.

[alanalt]

Good escorts are like boy scouts -- they come prepared! Nevertheless, it's always a very good idea to have your own supplies on hand so you can't be disappointed. As for the rest, prepare yourself as you would for a date, be clean with good dental hygiene etc. I also recommend taking a few moments at the start of the session to get to know the escort a bit, make sure he knows that this is your first time with an escort so he understands any 'nervousness' he picks up coming from you.

 

Above all, be honest, open and communicate your wants with him and enjoy what he has to offer!

 

You'll have a great time, I'm sure!

 

Alan

[+ purplekow]

Would advise you to take a deep breath when that knock on the door happens.

Make it clear to the escort that you are a bit nervous.

Show that you have the fee but do not pay until after the session.

Don't be afraid to ask for what you want. No matter how unusual your request may seem to you, experienced escorts have heard and probably done stranger things.

Always have condoms and lube just in case.

Don't be cajoled or embarrassed into doing something that you are uncomfortable doing.

On the other hand don't be so rigid that you miss out on an opportunity to expand your sexual horizons.

Have fun.

Get off.

Write a review.

[Guest Merlin]

In my experience, most escorts do not bring lube and condums. You should always have them on hand. You will feel very nervous before he comes to the door. Much of that is simply anticipation. Enjoy it, it is part of the experience. Don't be surprised if he is a half an hour late or so. It is not always easy for escorts to judge time of travel and traffic veries. Don't build up too perfect a mental image of your escort unless you have recent photos. You are likely to image too much perfection and then be disappointed. If you have discussed fee before hand, no need to bring up the subject. If he asks, then show him it is available for later. Don't worry about how you will perform etc. Once he shows up, smiles, and you get close or he starts undressing, the ol' hormones will kick in and you will feel what to do. You might suggest soaping him in the shower as a way to start. It is fun and you will feel both more comfortable knowing you are both clean. Have some breath freshener available. Applying moisturizer to his body is another way to start, especially if he is muscular. Some people like to have a conversation to start, explaining what you want, etc. But not everyone. Do what you feel like. I don't want to spook you about the cops, but a policeman would want to start with a conversation in which you agree to pay a fee for sex before there is any physical contact. For that reason I think is best for you not to start with a discussion of fees and specifically what you want. At a minimum get a lttle physical first and see if he insists on talk first. It is probably not a problem. You very seldom hear about a cop problem with call outs. It is too much trouble for them to set up a sting. They ususally concentrate on street hustlers.

[Epigonos]

We were all been in your current situation and survived to hire again, and again, and again. I sincerely hope that you have selected an escort who has several excellent reviews on this site and/or on MER. If you have you should have no problem. The bit of advise that I would like to echo is BE HONEST. This is a guy who has, most likely, heard it all and nothing you will say is going to shock him. Tell him what you want to do, do it, and enjoy it. One of the really fun things about being with an escort is that you can explore and do many of the things you have always dreamed about doing with another guy. That can be just as little as touching him and allowing him to touch you or as much as fucking him or allowing him to fuck you. Damn the first time was fun. Relax and you will have a great time.

[Louis]

Don't think the escort is a mind reader. You may thing you are sending him strong signals on what you want, but you are best to be verbal and talk about what it is you want. A lot of escorts will do what a person wants, but there are escorts that will not do things unless they are asked. I have a tough time talking about what I expect from an escort. I was with one escort who gets excellent reveiws and is an excellent escort, however he did not bottom for me, and its because I never asked. Yet I have been with escorts who just automatically go into the deliver the goods mode. Don't assume he knows what you expect from him.

Be safe and explain what you expect. You don't have to be graphic either.

[Guest Merlin]

If you have definite wants, you should discuss them before you hire him. But once he shows up there will be plenty of time to tell him what you want as you go along. No need to start off with a conversation setting our you agenda. If you want to, fine. But the new comer should not feel that is necessarily what he is supposed to do.

[lookin4hotties]

Here's a link I found on Patrick Bogan's

website, having to do with escort etiquette:

 

http://www.patrickbogan.com/escortetiquette.html

 

Its a great read. To me, hiring an escort

really is like having a dream date with a

really hot guy. The differences are:

 

 

1) You usually know when the date will end

(in my case its usually 1-2 hours)

 

2) Most of it will be in your hotel room

(starting with the escort knocking on the

door and ending with him leaving)

 

3) Unlike a blind date, open up and talk if

you feel like it. If you've had a bad day

or are stressed out, he will listen and

maybe even offer some insight or

encouragement.

If I am in a talking mood, I begin by

offering them something to drink

(see below).

 

4) Other than a text message or email

thank-you, that's it for contact

unless you re-hire.

 

5) Before they leave, I hand them an envelope.

I make sure to NEVER EVER do that up front.

Not only prevents scamming, but also want

the escort to feel they have earned it at

the end, rather than deserved it at the

beginning.

 

I think if there's anything else extra you want,

I would bring it. Unless its some wierd fetish

thing, no need need to mention it to the escort

before he arrives. I usually like to bring a

little CD player and good music with me, plus

a little tube of body lotion, condoms, etc.

 

Also, I do like to ask the escort in advance if

they will want anything to drink. This is by

all means not required, just a little thing

I like to do. I make sure I know WHAT they

want & have something on hand that I serve

ICE cold (soda/water/beer/etc.) If they say

they don't want anything, that's fine too.

 

Lookin4hotties

[+ newatthis]

Projecting back to what I was like just before my first escort encounter, I find these responses -- well-meaning as they are -- making me more and more anxious...so many instructions, caveats, things to remember!

 

If you have a good feeling about your interactions so far and he's been recommended positively, do your best to relax and don't sweat the details. And try not to invest the occasion with cosmic significance -- there will be other meetings with him or other escorts in the future, and you'll learn and enjoy different things from each of them.

[+ Oliver]

I still get nervous (apprehensive (?), keyed-up (?) – whatever) before the escort arrives. And that’s true whether I’ve see him before or not. As the song goes – “An-ti-ci-pa-tion” … Once he’s there, just relax and enjoy. If he’s as good as most all I’ve seen, he will know how to make that happen.

 

Have fun!

[lookin4hotties]

lol..i totally agree. but i think

some people actually need to think

things out in advance or they start

to get way too nervous.

 

i have no problem but a lot of guys

tend to not know what to do their

first time..even though its just

really obvious. I am assuming

that's why the question was

brought up.

 

someone in an earlier post talked

about the nervous anticipation. i

always like that part. kind of

like Christmas morning before you

know what your presents actually

will be! you might get a perfect little

catcher's mitt or a really large bat...

you never know! the bat could even

come with a neat little cover with

a nice little handle on the end :O)

ohh, the anticipation!

 

Lookin4hotties

[+ newatthis]

Yeah, I know what you mean, b/c I'm that kind of person. I tried to plan everything out my first time, but missed the most important thing, due to a combination of inexperience and eagerness to get on with it -- I ignored that little voice in my head that kept whispering (following a couple of phone conversations with this well-reviewed escort) "this guy is not right for you."

 

The result? A lousy first experience with an overrated guy. (How do I know he was overrated? Because sometime later, I discovered through postings and private messages that quite a few people who had bad experiences with him had not posted reviews.)

 

If it hadn't been for some wise and comforting words from a MC acquaintance, now a friend, I might have given up hiring right on the spot.

 

Like you and Oliver, I've come to enjoy the nervousness and anticipation beforehand.