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[Guest countryboywny]

Hi Guys,

I'm new to this forum and this is my first post. I would like to discuss why escorts put answers like "prefer not to say" and "top-versatile" or "bottom-versatile". For me personally, when I see these responses on a profile, I generally move on to the next. The reason is that I would be too embarassed to call the guy and ask such questions. For instance, does "top-versatile" mean that the escort prefers to top, but will bottom on request, or bottom for more money, or bottom only for certain clients?? Same with sexual preference.. does the "prefer not to say" mean that the escorts preference is of no consequence to the meeting (no anal sex) or that there will be no sex or the escort wishes to decide upon meeting the client??? "prefer not to say" is especially troubling as a response to the safe sex question. Is there anyone who can help me figure this all out?? Thanks :-)

[+ Charlie]

"Versatile" means anything from "I enjoy both roles" to "I will bottom for some people" to "I will do anything for money" (and many escorts demand more money to bottom). I seem to remember someone explaining in an earlier thread that "Prefer not to say" in the Rentboy profile is simply a default statement when the escort hasn't answered a particular question.

 

And you should never be embarrassed to ask an escort those intimate questions--if they are at all professional, they expect it and even welcome it, and may well ask you the same questions.

[Guest ript4hire]

I think it would be a mistake to infer anything about those "prefer

not to say" answers without asking the escort directly. Rentboy's

profile set-up does leave a little to be desired - the first few times

I filled out a travel ad for myself, I was later informed by a client

that I was listing myself as "prefer not to say" for safe sex - and I

am a 100% safe sex kind of man. I had never even seen that option

when I was filling out the form - you had to go BACK and select it.

 

As for "prefer not to say" about orientation - that could simply be a

marketing strategy. I get asked all the time by prospective clients

if I am straight or bi - in their fantasy they don't want to hook up

with a gay escort. So an escort may try to be ambiguous on that front

simply to appeal to a broader market.

 

Lastly, the whole vers/top vers/btm issue. There are many guys out

there who charge more for bottoming, but there are just as many

guys out there who are vers, but may be better at one or enjoy one

more. A vers guy may simply be telling you that "hey I am a great

top, but if you are a top too then don't rule me out - we can still

have fun."

 

Basically - ASK the guy if you find him appealing. Those profiles are

so damn short it is impossible to really get a feel for someone. You

have nothing to lose by starting a dialogue.

 

Have a blast with whoever you pick!

 

Eric

[Steven_Draker]

> "prefer not to say" is especially troubling as a response to the safe sex question.

 

Blame it to the system, but 99% "prefer not to say" in that field is an invitation for unprotected sex.

 

Realistically yours,

Steven Draker ~

[Guest josephga]

I look at all that stuff in ads if i was to ever hire an escort and i saw prefer not to say next to the safe sex question id move on to the next ad

[Vincent_Michael]

I have a hard time thinking that escorts would get an appointment with someone without going into some detail about what each other likes or dislikes before a meeting.

 

I have seen some pretty bare ads and I think hey if there up and escorts are making a habit of it and not changing them in a hurry then they must not be hurting for clients and the ad is working.

 

As for the prefer not to say on safe sex I think it is safe to say that it can either be a mistake or there open to um unsafe sex, however I think that no matter what and escorts prefrence you need to be safe always and assume everyone has some sort of STD.