"SHOW" business

BigD · April 7, 2006

This is a carry over from another thread about the difficulty

a client had with two escorts because of his disability. I

stated there that escorts are in "show business." A favorite

escort here in Dallas always refers to his client contacts as

"shows." I have grown to understand and enjoy that term.

Good escorts are actors who never let you know they are acting.

Do you agree?

I always inform potential escorts that I am too overweight

and 57 years of age, but I am keenly aware that the escort is

not spending time with me because of my appearance, but because

of the cash. I give the personal information about myself

upfront because I want to avoid escorts who might not be able

to "function" adequately because of my appearance.

But I espouse that the good escorts don't care what you look

like. Yes, escorts are human too, but if you are doing a

"show" you need to be a very good actor. Am I wrong?

BigD

uwsman2 · April 8, 2006

Definite agreement here. My biggest disappointments have been with escorts who did not understand that they were being hired to play a role and that just laying back and letting the client do all the work is not automatically the role unless that's what was requested. (Of course there are undoubtedly clients who want a completely passive beautiful boy, but even that is a role of course, since the completely passive beautiful boy has to respond sexually to the client's ministrations or the scene fails...) Communication is damned important in advance of the appointment so that the escort knows what role he is being hired to play.

This is generalizing, because undoubtedly there are clients who want something different, but I imagine much of the time the client is looking for the escort to convincingly act is if he finds the client a turn-on and is convincingly simulating having a real hot time with the client. Now, it may be true occasionally, or even frequently, that the escort is having a hot time, loves having sex with a wide variety of guys in terms of ages, physical condition, etc., and doesn't need to consciously "act" in order to project this, but I think much of the time escorts will find themselves with clients with whom they would not think of having sex purely for the escort's own emotional gratification, so acting is a necessary component.

And then the difference between the "professional" escort and the part-timer, student or otherwise, who's just looking to pick up some extra cash, is very much to the point, as observed in the other thread. I would imagine that to be successful as a professional escort - i.e., somebody who is making it their primary occupation and source of livelihood - you have to be somebody who loves having sex with a wide variety of people and who is capable of finding something to eroticize in any man you meet. I remember Aaron Lawrence's books about escorting -- there's a name from the past -- in which his advice to people contemplating escorting included the idea of conditioning oneself to find something erotic about every potential client in order to be able to get turned-on and render satisfactory service. He claimed that he could always find something to focus in on that would make him get hot and bothered - if the client's face was unappealing but he had a nice chest, then focus on the chest. If the client was not in good physical shape, maybe he had a big fat cock to focus on, or a really tight ass. Whatever it was, there was always something that could provide the turn-on...

April 8, 2006

Show business ... I like that!

I was going to weigh in on the Alex & Rob thread in the other forum,

but I think I'll put my thoughts down here instead. While I

completely feel for their client, I was actually disappointed in

both the client's decision not to inform the escorts about his

deformity, and the escorts' handling of the situation after the fact.

We may be in a sort of show business, but it is a very intimate

performance and there are certain things that are very hard to fake

(Viagra not withstanding). We are playing a role, and to a large

part it is an improvisational task, but I know that as a

professional I like to come to that role as prepared as I can be.

If there are going to be challenges, I prefer to know about them

ahead of time.

In short – I feel that clients should always tell an escort if there

is something that may get in the way of our pulling off our "show."

It is really a "no lose" situation for the client when you think

about it. If the escort decides to pass on the gig, well then the

client just saved himself from what would have been an unsatisfying

encounter. If the escort says it doesn't matter and meets with the

client … well then the client knows he is in for a good time and can

let go of the anxiety he might be feeling when that door opens for

the first time …

Eric

JT Brooklyn · April 9, 2006

Eric.. is Definitely Physically Goodlooking, Great Bod..BUT also he is definitely One Class "ACT".. since "Show" Biz is the Topic!

There's "No Surprises". What you Read-Hear-See is what you get!

:P

Juan Vancouver · April 15, 2006

What if you WERE enjoyable?

BigD,

This is the third time that I attempt to answer to your post. My computer has chickened out in the last minute, and I have lost my resposens. Every single time that I re-write another response the approach is much simpler and much more direct. So, here I go:

When I am working, there is no acting.

None at all.

I cannot pretend that I would hook up with most of my customers in a bar. However, once together, I have always found them enjoyable in different ways. Some are really good in bed, some are really nice, fun, gentle, admiring, intelligent, pretty, fit, hung, talented, unique...

If I don't like someone I simply don't go ahead with the meeting. Not to mention that I would never see a client that I didn't like for a second meeting. No matter how amazing a trip he might be wanting me to share with him, or how big the tip was the last time.

I am sure that the good escorts that you have met with before have TRULY enjoyed being with you. Perhaps not because of your good looks, as you say, but maybe because you are fun, or nice, or sexy, or have a nice soft skin, or a nice ass or are a great kisser... or something.

Sure, there are also the guys that are only looking for the bucks, and they will do anything to get them. Even lying.

I would advise (even if you didn't ask for it) that the next time that you are with an escort and he is "apparently" having a good time, that you attempt to own that and realize that he is in fact enjoying YOU. Not your money. Money is just another detail in the transaction. He chose that profesion because he knows that he can have a great time while making money.

Stop abusing yourself assuming that young men only see you as something that they have to "endure" in order to make money.

I don't know you, but I can tell you something: You ARE enjoyable. In your own personal way.

If you believe that, you will begin to truly enjoy the good sessions, when the real magic of companionship is happening. Because you are creating half of it.

And sure, you can go back to think that we are all liars, and that all that is worthy in you is the green, old bucks, and totally discard me as a schmoozer latino liar who just wants to make a living. I know as a fact that many in here -both escorts and clients- will assume that I am just saying the "right thing". So be it. I couln't care less...

But woulnd't be more enjoyable if I was right... and a few good escorts out there actually ENJOYED you?

it's all about the choices that we make in this life, and the way in which we decide to interpret our experiences. I choose to only have fun while working. But that's just me.

sashek · April 16, 2006