Buying escort a gift?

[Juan Vancouver]

hey stud,

I must say that I admire a lot your braveness to come clean here. I hope we all take it easy and stick to real advise.

 

You say that you want to find out if the feeling is reciprocated... And since you are asking for our opinion here I go:

 

I must confess that I do feel a lot of caring and affection for some of my clients; Our relationship is of a true caring nature and I am very excited by the posibility of seeing them again. Sure, sex is fun, sure, business is great, but the most important component in those cases is having the chance to see a person that you truly enjoy being with.

Even in those cases, with clients that are amazingly hot, intelligent, understanding, fun to be with, and so on, it is my duty to stay in the safe side and help them stay there too. I think that it is very unlikely that your escort is feeling "love". And if he was, I think that the chances for this kind of love to evolve into something healthy are even scarcer. In my personal opinion, love with an escort is almost as risky and unlikely as love with your therapist; both are relationships that are uneven when it comes to power, and we know what uneven power does to relationships.

I have seen a few examples in which that magic sparkle of a good session has been confused with love, and sadly I have to say that I have never seen that kind of relationship ending happily. In some cases both the escort and the client were amazing guys, in a few cases they were even very compatible... But the way in which the relationship began always gave it a very specific quality.

 

As a rule, it seems that the possibilities of success are inversely proportional to the lenght of the commercial relationship. (Meaning that if you only saw him in a commercial setting once, you have more chances to erase the commercial quality of the relationship than if you hired him ten times.)

 

I do believe that a shrink and a patient, a teacher and a student, an escort and a client can fall in love... as long as that's not the way their relationship began. I myself have tried two out of those three posibilities, and I have to say that it does get very messy in the end.

 

I really hope that you make the right choices that will keep your emotions healthy and alive. I know that nothing is written in stone, so all I can do is wish you the best of lucks... and hope that you do find real love soon! (With whomever is right for you, with your escort, or somebody else.)

 

And in the meanwhile receive a tight hug...

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

The Gift That Keeps On Giving

 

Contrary to popular belief, some escorts do have presents meant especially for their particular clients.

 

I, myself, have a "whole mess" of t-shirts that I had printed up that read NOBODY KNOWS I'M A STALKER, which I give out after every session, although I will own up to the fact that, as of yet, all of my clients have forgotten to take it with them when they leave . . . .

[+ Oliver]

RE: The Gift That Keeps On Giving

 

Where's my t-shirt? :-(

[male2male]

Thanks Juan...very much. It is unique. I developed these true caring feelings for the guy.I mean...wanting him to be successful, happy, doing what he wants. Im beyond the purely sex thing. The way I can show it is to be a friend, and I really have in alot of ways, and , to me, do nice things. That ususally means buying things I can afford and that the guy likes. Im not "buying" him...he probably would continue to see me even IF I were not so generous...He really hasnt "bought" me anything. but he has been a real friend and gave me advice on a few things. We even talk about both of us being "comfortable" about doing things like purchases and extra money. (I know what you are thinking....whats the big "concern" he has for GETTING more money???)...Yes it is not 2 way....he cant afford it, I can....but....I do have those feelings. I know I am "looking", "needy" (I hate that word) and know it has weak potential. I may just have to admit no long term possibility but, until the real guy comes along, have fun with my friend. I really have the best in mind for him....Thanks so much.

[rocky]

Interesting. I have a fondness to be generous.

And I often like to thank my pleasure partner

with something nice and unexpected. A book,

a candle, I don't know. But I often feel that

sometimes it's not appreciated. But then I

try again, that's who I am...

[latinolover]

This is a very well-worn thread, isn't it, but it doesn't make it any less interesting. I've been seeing the same escort for four years, I fell in love with him the first time I saw him, and since then our lives have become rather intertwined, even though we live 1500 miles apart. He's stayed in my house, I've stayed in his, I'm friends with his mother and his brother and acquainted with several of his other friends, but we argue and bicker about sex and money all the time, mainly because he has rather expensive tastes and a very inaccurate view of current escort rates. Last April, in a mad burst of generosity, I bought him, as a present, a Mazda MX5, when he received it he said it was very beautiful but he'd really have preferred an Audi TT.......... However, since then the sex has notched up from fantastic to completely sensational, my most recent session with him last Friday night was far and away the best of my life, and judging by the grin on his face that was still there in the morning he quite enjoyed it too.

[Txpaytoplay]

Well I guess a Mazda defiantely trumps the $100 gift card to STARBUCKS that I gave the escort I have been seeing for a while when he started back to school. To each their own I suppose.

[JT Brooklyn]

The "Best Gift" a Workin Guy could ask for..A "Repeat" Client..Without them, "This life" isn't going to be so Smooth...:+