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Juan Vancouver Collaborator

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RE: Just don't combine it with ...

 

Well.... hey guys!

 

I have never before answered to what apparently is a "personal" debate, but this time I really feel like I want to.

I have to say that I shared Rick's astonishment when I read Benjamin's statements. To me, it did sound as a well thought and discreete way to let clients know that his way is THE way, and that other escorts (who dont do the same) are "unprofessional and a ripp-off".

 

I come from a culture in which the important thing is not "the money shot", but the miracle of intimacy achieved by two (or more) human beings. I have found that some general ideas about closeness in us westerners, is very much influenced by Porn. The important thing IS "that pearly glossy man-jizz dripping from the engorged throbbing uncontrolled rod".

 

The way I look at it,I dont belong to a sex-based industry. To me this is an intimacy/closeness/humantouch-based industry. And dont misunderstand me... I have LOTS and LOTS of sex in the process, and thats my main tool to achieve intimacy, of course. But the important thing to me is that spark of recognition, that wholehearted touch, fulfilling a fantasy and releasing all the stress by absolute freedom in one's body. And sure, I LOVE having an orgasm, and I have them all the time when they happen... and for me my clients culmination is very very important, unless it is not important for him/her.

 

But this is MY personal way, dictated by my background, culture, up bringing, personal choice, etc. I am so gratefull that there are other escorts out there that look at it in some other ways. Because there is a need for everything in the world. The are clients that NEED a cocky escort who wont let them do anything but worhisp them.... and they are worth every penny, if thats what the client needs... There are clients who NEED a big glob of cum all over their chest.... And thats what they should get by communicating their personal needs.

I am a bit off the subject here... There is no better way, in my opinion. There is a personal particular way... and the sun shines for all of us. Doesnt it?

 

What I do think it should be mandatory is plain simple honesty. Nothing else. (But again that's my personal fallible opinion).

 

Happy agreeing and disagreeing... but over all, happy intimacy!

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BenjaminNicholas Grand Master

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Thanks Juan! Your pics get me standing at attention as well :)

 

As for this thread, it's always good to have people who are passionate about what they believe in and have the balls to speak up and be heard. Rick's always been a voice of reason around here and someone i enjoy reading. He's got the uncanny ability to be humorous, yet still deadly serious at the same time. Hell if i wouldn't love to see him on Bill Maher's 'Real Time.'

 

Added, when we disagree like this, it's always that much more fun when it comes to the makeup sex. He's got a tongue of magic and enough vibration to make hummingbirds jealous ;)

 

... Will Derek be joining this time Rick?

 

 

*evil grin*

 

 

Warmest,

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

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Benjamin Nicholas - the voice of reason and the finest escort on the face of the planet.

 

Rick - Please don't put words in his mouth - there are other things you can put there.

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Rick Munroe Mentor

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>I have never before answered to what apparently is a

>"personal" debate

 

Hey Juan, it wasn't personal; feel free to join in anytime and add your 2¢ (or 8"). This is an open forum for everyone, otherwise we'd use email.

 

By the way, speaking of 8" (or is it 9"?)...has everyone seen Juan's? :9

 

http://www.gaydar.co.uk/newphotos/15/f/secondary/funlatinvan139gun.jpg

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>Rick's always been a voice of reason

>around here and someone i enjoy reading. He's got the uncanny

>ability to be humorous, yet still deadly serious at the same

>time.

 

I enjoy reading you, too. I don't know how you manage to always be in such a good mood (genuinely good, not phony-good). You really are the Dolly Parton of Hooville (this is coming from a big-time Dolly fan).

 

>it's always that much more

>fun when it comes to the makeup sex.

 

Yeah, the sex is good but I hate it when my makeup smears. :+

 

>... Will Derek be joining this time Rick?

 

Sure you can handle us? }(

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Guest Don Cast

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'Fraid I find it hard to conceive any question that would be "improper" to ask when setting up with an escort. Shyness on the client's part is one thing, but this is a structured transaction and so in my book it's always best to set out exactly what you want and have the escort respond by letting you know BEFORE whether anything on your list is off his list. Perhaps it might be easier to do this in an email, but I always seem to be luckier with those escorts who discuss matters forthrightly on the phone.

 

That said, I certainly share your liking for a mutual cumming -- in fact, an encounter without one is usually a good deal less than complete. So I put that on the line up front. Some escorts will be honest and tell you that sometimes it just doesn't happen -- but some (including one gorgeous young escort I know) seem to make a principle of not cumming themselves . At first (in this case) I figured it was his way of remaining true to his steady-guy, but then I realized it was also his way of keeping his distance from his client. Not too surprisingly, this guy also had trouble staying or keeping hard. When he told me at the outset that he didn't cum with a client I (now) know I should have immediately asked if he had any trouble with a good hard-on, and I'm pretty sure he'd have been honest with his answer and that that would have probably have sent me elsewhere.

 

There's one last point. With the best will in the world, there'll be times when an escort (or even you!) simply won't make it over the brink. As long as that's the exception rather than the escort-rule, that's an acceptable risk for me . But a mutual cumming is important enough for me so that with a new guy I'll always put high on the laundry-list the fact that I want to see HIM cum and him to see ME cum. Seldom is there a problem after that...

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This question is absolutely within reason. I consider it of enough importance, that if a prospective client does NOT ask it, I will ask him if he desires it.

 

Beyond being a "structured transaction" (as I read in another response to this question), I view my time with clients as their time to have their needs and desires met; in fact, some clients NEED to have me "cum" in order to achieve THEIR desired level of excitement...... 'nuff said.

 

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It's a proper question, completely. If there's something a client really wants I always appreciate it when he lets me know ahead of time. That way I can decide if I want to see him or it's something I want to do. While asking if I will cum sounds pretty innocuous, it's a deal breaker for me. If I feel like I have to do something, I don't want to do it. Don't assign me the book because I'll never read it. One client was pressuring me so much I made sure to cum right in his eye. Yeah, that Benjamin never knew what hit him.

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