escorts who don't return e-mail

[Guest heybuddy]

This week I sent e-mail to several escorts asking about appointments, rates, etc. I don't think I said anything offensive in the notes I sent. I am usually very polite and I only asked their rate and availability. I also complimented them on the photos I saw on the web.

 

How long should I expect for a response since I haven't heard from any of the escorts.

 

Perhaps the escorts reading this board could tell me if they prefer to be contacted via telephone rather than e-mail.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Greetings~

 

I find, personally, that working initially through email and gradually getting into that first phone conversation usually works best. Gradually meaning a couple of emails, but usually just enough time to feel things out for safety and sanity.

 

Potential escorts who don't respond within 12 hours of an initial email would be considered 'dead in the water' in my book, but from what i've seen, some escorts have a pecking order when it comes to clients and how they're handled. Your best bet is to simply keep moving if an escort doesn't bite~ there are HUNDEREDS of others out there who are just as intelligent/goodlooking who would probably love to set somthing up with you.... Don't let it phase you.

 

 

Besides, who wants a guy who takes immense amounts of time to respond initially... Not exactly a good way to make someone feel important.

 

 

Best wishes on your hunt and hope things turn out well~

 

 

Warmest Regards,

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

Escort@ChiKindaKid.com

http://www.ChiKindaKid.com

[Guest lipstick]

Hey there,

 

Also consider this; some escorts are on multi-day trips with a client, or are outside the country, and they may not have access to email. So it sometimes is good to also call. Their voice mail might have a message....

 

I discovered this delay factor when I was on a 5 day getaway in Monterey with an escort. We've known each other for over a year, so I had no problem with him taking phone calls when we were touring in the day time. Of course, his cell phone was off during the evenings, etc. He would periodically check his email at the hotel, but he obviously didn't take the time to respond to most of them (out of courtesy to me, I hope!!!). I respected his business privacy so didn't pry, but I suspected he had a lot of emails piling up during those 5 days we were together....

 

However, there are those who just don't have the courtesy to call back, or they are so sloppy with their time, that they are "too busy" to tend to these business obligations.

 

But if you've read some glowing reviews on some of these guys, and the delay is not typical (per their reviews), then I recommend you give them the benefit of the doubt.

 

Hope this helps.

[alanalt]

I guess my comments fall somewhere in between Benjamin's and lipstick's.

 

Personally, I don't think you're going to find too many escorts who meet Benjamin's standard of 12 hours (mind you, I don't think you're going to find too many escorts who meet Benjamin's standards, period ;-) )

 

My own level of expectation is probably more along the lines of 48 hours to respond to an initial e-mail. With respect to lipstick's comments about escorts on extended trips, then those escorts should be using an auto-reply to let potential clients know that they's not available to do bookings.

 

If, after 48 hours, I haven't heard back, I may consider a follow-up e-mail or maybe a phone call if the number is published. But I may not as well, as Benjamin says, there are plenty of guys out there!

 

One final comment about this week, because of the 9/11 anniversary, some escorts have indicated that they might be taking time off (which is perfectly valid in my books). But again, if they're taking that time off, they should be using auto-reply to let potential clients know that.

 

Just my (non-escort :-) ) $0.02,

 

Alan

[Guest dstud4hire]

> Potential escorts who don't respond within 12 hours of an

>initial email would be considered 'dead in the water' in my

>book, but from what i've seen, some escorts have a pecking

>order when it comes to clients and how they're handled.

>Your best bet is to simply keep moving if an escort doesn't

>bite

 

WHEW, THX GOD YOU HAVEN'T HIRED ME....I WOULD NEVER HAVE GOTTEN PAST THE FIRST E-MAIL WITH YOU!!! HEHEHEHEHEHE

 

PLZ PLZ KEEP IN MIND GUYS, WE ARE NOT ALL FULL TIME ESCORTS....WHEN I'M OUT OF TOWN WITH MY OTHER JOB, I TRY VERY HARD TO CHK EMAILS FREQUENTLY, BUT I AM NOT ALWAYS LUCKY TO TRAVEL TO A PLACE THAT HAS A KINKOS NEARBY, AND I THINK IT IS CRIMINAL WHAT HOTEL BIZ CENTERS CHARGE, SO I WILL HAVE TO WAIT TILL I GET HOME. MANY TIMES IT CAN BE NEARLY 3 DAYS. THE BEST BET I THINK , IS TO DO 1 E-MAIL, THEN A FOLLOW UP 3 DAYS LATER, AND IF AFTER A WEEK OR SO, HE DOESN'T CONTACT YOU, DON'T CONTACT HIM. HOWEVER, IF HE DOES RESPOND, PERAHSP 2 WEEKS LATER OR SOMETHING, AND HE STILL INTERESTS YOU, WHY HOLD YOURSELF BACK FROM SOMETHING YOU WANTED? GO FOR IT....THERE MAY BE A VERY GOOD REASON (LIKE AWAY OUTTA TOWN WITH A CLIENT, SICK, WORKING HARD AT ANOTHER JOB, MAYBE HE JUST WANTS A BREAK OF A COUPLE WEEKS) ANYWAY, I'M SURE BEJAMIN THAT YOU ARE A GREAT GUY, BUT PLEEEEAAAAASE GUYS, DON'T TAKE THAT ONE BIT OF ADVICE OF HIS TO TASK.....I WOULD NEVER GET HIRED THAT WAY!

 

(THOUGH I WILL SAY ACTUALLY, AFTER ALL IS SAID AND DONE, I DO BELIEVE THAT ONE SHOULD DO THEIR BEST IF THEY ARE GOING TO BE OUT THERE AS A SCORT, AND SO I DO HAVE A PRETTY GREAT TRACK RECORD ON THAT!)

 

BE WELL

[Guest Chazzz69]

From my perspective as a client, I allow 24 hours for a response to an initial e-mail. If I do not get a response within that time period I move on.

 

I recently hired an escort from the West coast for an extended stay this summer. We had an agreement that he would need to check his email and voice mail. We made several trips to the local kinko's for him to check his messages and he checked his voice mail when necessary. During his stay with me he linked up with one client in the area. This was perfectly fine with me and we had negotiated this aspect of the trip before I paid for his ticket.

 

So, I look at it this way, even if an escort is on travel visiting a client or traveling for his "real job" he still can find the time to check his messages and respond. Even a short, "I recieved your e-mail and on travel until xxxx. I will contact you when I return." This is much better than no response at all or one a week later.

 

 

Chazzz69

[Guest bottomboykk]

Gabriel: I hope you don't reply in your e-mails the way you just replied here...turn off the CAPS LOCK, OK? Very hard to read, and is the equivalent of shouting.

 

Thanks. :*

[BuckyXTC]

If escorts receive as much spam and junk email as I do, I can understand why it may take some time to respond. And my luck with using "spam filters" has been abysmal.....it usually just filters out the mail I want to receive, and lets the crap move right through.

 

If I really had my heart set on seeing a particular escort, I think I'd be willing to exercise some patience. Many reasons why they might not respond right away, as others have already stated.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Here's how i look at things~

 

We as escorts are in a service-based industry, plain and simple. All excuses aside, it shouldn't be too much of an issue to check you email once or twice a day, or let any incoming messages know that you'll be out of comission due to travel, etc through an auto-response system. It's really very simple in fact and keeps your client (or potential client) in the know at all times.

 

Like i've said before, being an escort doesn't afford you much leway in terms of excuses. A client who's willing to shell out decent money for your time isn't willing to sit around and wait for you~ whether it be travel, being sick, not having an internet connection or whatever the problem may be. He'll simply walk over to the next hot hunk and guess what... you've just lost business. Why? Because you weren't prepared and on your toes at all times.

 

 

That's the difference between professionalism and just 'going to work.' While i point no fingers in saying this, it's just the honest truth. It's always 100% about your client~ no questions asked. If i wanted admiration and my ego stroked, i'd hire them for an evening

 

 

Warmest Regards,

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

Escort@ChiKindaKid.com

http://www.ChiKindaKid.com

[Guest dstud4hire]

>Gabriel: I hope you don't reply in your e-mails the way you

>just replied here...turn off the CAPS LOCK, OK? Very

>hard to read, and is the equivalent of shouting.

>

>Thanks. :*

 

I realized after I had written the whole thing that I was in cap mode....oooops, sorry guys! I wasn't about to re-write it though, I thought, I've posted on here so often, that most guys on here know I wouldn't intentionally shout or write stupid stuff....

 

but thx for the pointers, always good to be reminded.

[Guest desertdaddy]

I except the same response time with escorts as I allow for other business related e-mails - three working days. Later...Buck

[AaronScottDC]

Hi all,

 

I certainly agree that we escorts should be able to get back to client's with an email reply within a reasonable amount of time. Of course, everyone has a different opinion about what "a reasonable amount of time" actually is. I try my very best to reply within 12 to 24 hours of the time the email was sent to me. As soon as I read it, I make sure to send some kind of response. There are those times that I am traveling or without my computer that a day or two may go by before I can check my mail, but that is pretty rare. Unfortunately, I am not so sure that all escorts treat their work as a real "job" and therefore are not as responsible about responding to their email messages. If you are really interested in seeing a particular escort, then I am sure you will be willing to wait a little while to set something up with them. If, however, you are just testing the waters and have sent out a few emails to several escorts just to see who is around and answering their messages, then you will probably go with who ever replies first - or at least who ever replies within a reasonable amount of time. Or at least I certainly would!

 

Aaron Scott DC

http://www.erados.com/boys/AaronScottDC

[Boston Guy]

If I'm sending an email to an escort who I have not communicated with before, I'll often add a simple line indicating when I hope to hear from them.

 

If the email is sent in preparation for a trip to some city, I might add "I hope to hear from you before 9/21 so I can plan my schedule for this trip." If I'm already in the middle of a trip and am sending an email in the morning regarding that evening, I might add "If you will be available this evening, please let me know prior to 5:00 pm today."

 

It's simple and gives the escort additional information that can help him plan his own time. Escorts get lots of email and lots of IM's. Responding to it all in a timely basis can be difficult. Letting them know our expectations simply helps to improve the communication.

 

BG

[alanalt]

>If I'm already in the

>middle of a trip and am sending an email in the morning

>regarding that evening, I might add "If you will be

>available this evening, please let me know prior to 5:00 pm

>today."

>

Hey Boston Guy,

 

Does that work for you on a regular basis?? (using e-mail to setup a new appointment on the same day)

 

I'm just curious because its never worked for me, though I admit I've only tried it a few times. Generally, I prefer to schedule well ahead in advance and have found e-mail to be very useful in that. But I have never been able to arrange a short-notice engagement by e-mail, the only successful short-notice encounters have been as a result of a phone call(s).

 

BG or anyone have different experiences to report?

 

Alan

[Boston Guy]

>>If I'm already in the

>>middle of a trip and am sending an email in the morning

>>regarding that evening, I might add "If you will be

>>available this evening, please let me know prior to 5:00 pm

>>today."

>>

>Hey Boston Guy,

>

>Does that work for you on a regular basis?? (using e-mail to

>setup a new appointment on the same day)

>

>I'm just curious because its never worked for me, though I

>admit I've only tried it a few times. Generally, I prefer

>to schedule well ahead in advance and have found e-mail to

>be very useful in that. But I have never been able to

>arrange a short-notice engagement by e-mail, the only

>successful short-notice encounters have been as a result of

>a phone call(s).

>

>BG or anyone have different experiences to report?

>

>Alan

 

Yes, I've definitely had this work for me. By doing this, you're letting the escort know that you're interested in that evening and that you need to know by a certain time.

 

If he wants to get together, he'll get back to you by then. Otherwise, you're free to contact someone else.

 

I often don't like to use IM's as a mechanism for making a first contact; I prefer email. But AOL will let you see if the person you're interested is online or if they've gotten your email. If they read it and don't get back to you within the time you specify, assuming you gave them sufficient time to make a decision, then you know they're probably not interested. Otherwise they'd at least get back to you with a "Sorry, can't do it tonight, how about tomorrow?" message.

 

This may be another advantage of using AOL, at least with AOL-based escorts.

 

BG

[Guest Dan]

RE: escorts who don't return e-mail:

 

Hey, what about prospective clients who e-mail and don't reply in a timely fashion? I've had guys e-mail me, saying that they want to meet and that they are staying at a hotel, but only for a night or two. They know the info having seen me here or on another site, so I ask for their name and number so taht we can hook up and....

 

NADA???

 

kind of like the ones that say they want to meet a certain day and you have an e-mail dialogue going and then...NADA!!!!

 

Could it be my punctuation and grammar??????

 

:

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

RE: escorts who don't return e-mail:

 

But honestly...

 

Unless a guy is abusive or a relative schmuck, having a client not return email is truly no big deal~ it's their right to shop around and if they find something more to their liking then so be it.

 

Like i've always said, it's up to the escort to keep a prospective client's attention, through thick and thin. This is an advertising-based industry and clients are always looking for the BBD (Bigger, Better Deal). They want to experiment with new guys and different sizes and types... it's up to you to KEEP their attention and get that initial meeting scheduled (or the followup on a repeat encounter for that matter).

 

 

You can't really take it personally if a client is a little slower on getting back to you~ it's the nature of the beast. We're catering to the client, not the other way around...

 

 

 

 

 

Warmest Regards,

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

Escort@ChiKindaKid.com

http://www.ChiKindaKid.com

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Auto Response

 

I think Gabe's point about travel is very valid. I just spent $2,000 of my hard earned (trust me folks, based on the follow up and other things I do for my clients, even those who may never ever hire me again, it is HARD earned) escort earnings on a lap top. I also, thus far, have traveled on my own dime all year.

 

I would ask a client if I might bring my lap top with me and check mail while he was sleeping, while he was in the bathroom or at mutually agreed upon times. I would never think it was appropriate to take a call while traveling with another client, unless that was an agreed upon component of the price break he received. Even then, I would be hard pressed personally to make such an arrangement.

 

I am otherwise fully with Benjamin Nichols, I do respond to my emails within 24 hours. The only exception was that when I was in the Hood River area one hour outside of Portland, I could not get my dial up service to work and was only able to check my emails for any duration after a one hour visit with a client who had a cable modem access and even then I felt totally uncomfortable asking him. It is a small town of 5,000 people and there were no such things as Kinko's around.

 

So I think a reasonable exception should be made, depending on reputation, reviews and your own interest.

 

Finally, as an "AOL whore" I do not wish to auto respond to every Viagra offer, picture of Jessica Alba nude offer, etc. with an auto response. That will just create more spam.

 

If anyone knows of a way to auto respond with Yahoo mail, please private message me. Rick Munroe uses Hot Mail, Matt Vancouver also is on Yahoo, so not everyone has that ability. I know Matt has auto response, as we have communicated with each other, but if I was that computer literate, I might even learn how to shorten my posts.... I'll spend the money on a plug in.

 

 

UPDATED 09/04/2002 - http://www.gaydar.co.uk/francodisantis

[Chuck50]

Gabe I know it is important but drop the caps. Love YA. HUgs Chuck

[Chuck50]

In and Old Navy term Belay my Last" sorry didnt see the response till after it responded. HUGS Chuck

[Chuck50]

RE: escorts who don't return e-mail:

 

One of My favorite Escorts is European (French) to him it is not a big deal to not answer for 3-4 days I can accept that now that I know it. Another is american from Arkansas he does well some or most of the time but he is really popular and sometimes takes more time I understand that as I know it. The bottom line I guess when we dont know the persoanal situation of " our Boys" so to speak HUGS Chuck

[Boston Guy]

RE: Auto Response

 

Forty years ago, it was ok to send important documents by mail for delivery in a few days. Today we expect and almost demand virtually instantaneous responses from everyone, even on personal or relatively mundane matters.

 

If I were traveling with an escort, I would most certainly want and need to check my email and voice mail regularly. I see no basis for denying my traveling companion the same right.

 

We're all busy. Voice mail and email are a fact of life and we all have friends and family -- not to mention business contacts -- who need to hear from us. Guys who engage escorts for extended periods of time and then want to cut them off from their lives by keeping them from voice mail or email are simply not being realistic or fair.

 

BG