first time

[Guest peternic1]

I am thinking about meeting an escort for the first time and want to know some guidelines. Are fees for first time meetings negotiable? Are tips always expected? What is the usual percentage for a tip? If you meet the guy the first time and after a few minutes you decide it isn't working, what are the financial obligations? Thanks. I've never used an escort but am beginning to think it's the only way.

[Guest Thunderbuns]

>I am thinking about meeting an escort for the first time and

>want to know some guidelines.

 

Here are my views on the subject - others may or may not agree.

 

>Are fees for first time meetings negotiable?

 

Somewhere between "no" and "probably not"

 

>Are tips always expected?

 

I would hope not. Bloody nervy if they are.

 

>What is the usual percentage for a tip?

 

See above.

 

<If you meet the guy the first time and after a few minutes you >decide it isn't working, what are the financial obligations?

 

You still owe him for the full session time. He has made the time commitment and deserves to be paid - unless he has turned out to be a total scam artist and does not even begin to live up to his advertising. Just because the chemistry isn't working for you doesn't mean it's his fault.

 

>Thanks. I've never used an escort but am beginning to think it's >the only way.

 

Good luck - don't be nervous - you'll probably have a blast!

 

Thunderbuns

[CT Dick]

I totally agree with TB.

 

I'd add the same statement I've posted before: be sure to use an escort reviewed on this site. There is no sense in going with an unknown when you can trust us to have done the test drives.

 

Be sure to pick one who has been reviewed by guys with more than a few reviews. Many / most of the first time reviewers appear to be the escort reviewing himself.

 

We'd love to hear the details of that first encounter.

 

Dick

[Will]

Yes, yes, a thousand times yes to both of the above. To address some of your concerns further:

 

1. A fee is a fee. You pay what the escort asks. You don't expect a lawyer or accountant to give you a special rate because you've never hired one before. And you should not expect an escort to do it, either.

 

2. Beyond the fee for his time, you do not owe him another red cent. I've sometimes wondered how Miss Manners would write a chapter about contemporary etiquette for escorts and their clients. However, so far as I know she hasn't done it yet, and thus there aren't any widely accepted rules-of-thumb regarding escorts' professional category. However, as TB rightly points out, they are hardly under-compensated laborers, like waiters or bellhops, who depend on tips for the greatest portion of their income. In my personal view, escorts sell a professional service -- expertise, if you like -- and the very best of it is usually expensive. So is the professional service or expertise of your interior designer, your lawyer, your therapist, or anybody else you pay by the hour to look after your best interests. You don't tip your lawyer or your therapist because they are professionals earning a very handsome fee for their time. Don't tip your escort either. If you want to take him out to dinner, or to the theater, or whatever, that's different. I have done the same for my lawyer or accountant.

 

3. Finally, I can't stress too much how important it is to follow the advice of hiring an escort who's been well-reviewed here. When I use the reviews for selecting an escort, I try to find reviewers who remind me in some way of myself. Let's face it: a goodlooking, self-confident 35-year-old stock broker who works out in the gym five times a week to preserve and even improve on the treasure-house of genetic material he inherited, along with an 8" dick from his dad, is almost certain to report that the escort was really turned on. But if a flabby old coot says the escort was really turned on, well, he's writing about a real professional!

 

The most important thing is to have fun and not let it become The Major Event of Your Life. After all, there are lots of available men out there, and sampling one will not give you an accurate assessment of all there is. Be sure to let us know what happens!

[BuckyXTC]

For a first timer, I agree with TB and Dick....you want your first time to be a good experience, and the safest bet is to hire someone with a proven good record. While I took a chance and hired my first escorts who were not reviewed here, I got lucky and had good experiences. And when I have hired escorts reviewed here, the experience was generally consistent with the reviews.

 

Best wishes, here's hoping your first hire will be great! :-)

[alanalt]

There's a lot of good advice here but I'm going to add my input anyway!;-)

 

Fees: I agree that this isn't an area you should go into, especially as a first-timer. The only exception might be if the guy offers an hourly rate only and you want to do a longer session, you might ask if he has special rates for a 3 or 5 hour session.

 

First Time Trial Policies: I've noticed some escorts actually do have a 5 minute trial policy (Jake Walker in SF, Zachary Scott in Las Vegas, etc.). Personally, I don't think its too unreasonable to ask for, especially if you have no face picture of the escort. If such a policy is not discussed, then ask (politely) if the escort would consider such a policy (and don't be too surprised/disappointed if the answer is "No.").

 

Tipping: I'm a bit of a heretic on this subject because I actually 'do' believe in tipping and have done so reasonably frequently. If my expectations are exceeded, then I tip. Part of it is because this is a 'service' industry and there's nothing like a 'bonus' to tell someone that he's done a good job. Part of it is also because in most cases I'm not likely to see the escort again. Using the lawyer/accountant analogy that Will brought up, if I was satisfied with my lawyer, (s)he can expect further business from me in the future. For an escort living 1/2 a continent away, it's a different story. But tipping is a personal decision and should never be 'expected'... Oh, and when I tip, I usually tip 10-15% with a $50 minimum and $100 maximum (unless we're talking about a long weekend or something!)

 

I totally agree with what the other posters have written about using this site and the reviews to choose your escort. Good luck and enjoy!

[AaronScottDC]

Hey all,

 

Wow! I must say that I am really impressed with the advice given to the questions asked about meeting an escort for the first time. Sometimes on this message board, a sincere question is asked and either poor information is given or several jokes and teasing follow. However, I totally agree with all of the advice posted about this topic so far.

 

Although the original poster may find it interesting that he asked his question in the "Ask an Escort" section, and to my knowledge, only non-escorts have responded thus far. I certainly can't speak for all escorts (we all know there are vastly differing opionions and practices among us!) but, as an escort I would like to say that I certainly think the advice given is really great and if the original poster follows it, he should have a fantastic "first time." And hopefully, many, many more!! :9

 

Aaron Scott DC

http://www.erados.com/boys/AaronScottDC

[Guest Thunderbuns]

>However, I totally agree with all of the advice posted about this >topic so far.

 

Not to be picky, you understand - but - the above statement is not totally correct. The advise re tipping is contradictory so I don't think you can say you agree with ALL the advice. :-)

 

Thunderbuns

[Prime Muscle]

First of all, good luck with your first appointment.

 

My biggest tip is to make sure you ask the escort all these questions and more. Don't be afraid to let the escort know exactly what you are into and what you are looking for. If you have any special requests like a certain type of underwear or a jock strap -- let the escort know in advance. The more interaction you have before hand -- the better the interaction can be.

 

Don't worry about offending the escort with questions - if he can't handle the question or is offended, you probally don't want to use him anyway. Here's my thoughts on your specific questions.

 

1) Are fees for first time meetings negotiable?

 

As a general rule, rates are not negotiable. But each individual escort makes his own call. Some escorts offer a military or student discount. Long session -- over 2-3 hours -- are also generally negotiable. While I do not personally negitiate rates, I do offer a discount for week day appointments. Bottom line - every escort is different so you need to ask. And he should

 

2) Are tips always expected?

 

I never expect a tip. I make it known in advance that my fees are all-inclusive and tipping is not expected. Yes, tipping often occurs and its always appreciated but it is not required.

 

 

3) If you meet the guy the first time and after a few minutes you decide it isn't working, what are the financial obligations?

 

Once agian, this depends on the individual escort so make sure you ask upfront. For me there would be no charge if the client did not want to go through with the appointment after the first few minutes. On occassion, I've met the client before the appointment to make sure he was ok with me. This would especially be important if you were looking for a full or half day appointment.

[Matt_Vancouver]

> I've never used an escort but am beginning to think it's the only

>way.

 

 

It is never 'the only way'.

i keep telling guys that there is someone that is attracted to everyone... many overweight men think noone will find them attractive, therefore escorts are the only solution... Hello CHUBNET... there are thousands of men looking for a little squoosh to push: )

for every type there is a fanbase....

Hiring escorts is not a bad thing, in fact I think it's a good thing: ) (not just because that's how I make a living) but honestly it can be a great occasional 'treat'.

I do however think that seeing only escorts exclusively, while not always, can have a negative impact... IE, unrealistic expectations.

A good balance of casual 'real' encounters, and a few great escort encounters is better. Kinda like chocolate cake... if that's all you eat, it loses it's chocolate cakeiness: ) or something like that.... better to enjoy it on occasion.

Matt(spews forth more Ann Landers of hookerdom crap)

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Agency Escorts

 

Best of luck with your experience. As a "free lancer" who has never worked with an agency, I cannot speak to you with intelligence on that issue, but that may also be an avenue to explore for your first time, although the same cautions respecting reviews and reputations follow. The agency itself should be well-known and reputable. Additionally, as it has not been pointed out, although others have mentioned it, tipping an agency escort often seems to be the rule as the escort is sharing his fee with the agency.

[Rick Munroe]

>there are thousands of men looking for a

>little squoosh to push

 

Isn't that the little toy that Rosie O'Donnell used to throw at her audience?