Putting an escort at ease

[hiJinX]

Been wondering this since my first encounter with an escort (that I actually paid for his time as opposed to the someone I was seeing who did escort work) which was so disappointing that I haven't considered escorts since...

How can a client put an escort at ease?

I met a guy for an appointment at his place, he was uniformly raved about on this site, and somehow managed to hit every red flag that made him uncomfortable. He admitted to being stoned later which may have contributed to his paranoia, but I really didn't do anything that struck me as outlandish. After setting up the appointment for an hour initially (for a *really* high rate) by phone I inquired about expanding past the hour if things were going well. And we agreed that we would see how things went. I had met him before but wouldn't expect him to remember me.

I arrive at the apartment and he is immediately uncomfortable because he thinks I look like the cop who got a friend of his locked up. He says I sounded different on the phone. I admittedly made the error of trying to discuss $$$ up front because I had only limited funds on me and didn't want to rack up a bill I couldn't pay (which would have been the case if his hour rate was in effect for multiple hours) which I'm sure set off more alarms in his head. I was careful to only mention paying for time, basically saying "if we hang out for x amount of time is x amount of Dollars okay?" but this didn't help.

I almost left several times and in retrospect should have but this was my dream guy and I was determined to surrender my virginity to him after dating someone with whom I was sexually incompatible.

The escort got more comfortable as time went on, especially after I got naked (I swear he was looking for wires and he told me I could look better-thanks) and his buzz wore off but things didn't work out o ver the 3 hours I spent with him. At one point I chalked it up to not being his type (which would be allright) but he denied that. I came away knowing a great deal about him since I got him talking to try to make him comfortable and with a fondness for him enough so I didn't post a bad review since we had discussed reviews and he was nervous about having a poor one.

 

Bottom line: What can a client do to assure the escort that "I'm not a cop" relax and let the games begin. Directness can be misinterpreted as entrapment as can vagueness. Should the client strip naked to show he's not wearing a wire? Or initiate intimate contact. Guidance desired should I ever recover from the collossal disappointmet of this disaster of an encounter.

 

Thanks.

[Guest Thunderbuns]

>Bottom line: What can a client do to assure the escort that

>"I'm not a cop" relax and let the games begin. Directness

>can be misinterpreted as entrapment as can vagueness.

>Should the client strip naked to show he's not wearing a

>wire? Or initiate intimate contact. Guidance desired

>should I ever recover from the collossal disappointmet of

>this disaster of an encounter.

 

Well - this might work.

 

Upon entering his home, immediately drop to your knees, pull his cock out and start sucking it.............

 

Or if you consider that too tacky and in bad taste, stand in the hallway outside his door (presuming he lives in an apt. building) and remove all your clothing before knocking on his door. I actually had someone do this to me once - the effect was wild!

 

Thunderbuns

[Will]

In general, I think it's the escort's job to put the client at ease, not the other way round. I admit that I'm the sort of person who tries to make someone I'm with feel at ease, even if she's an orthodontic surgeon about to open a major excavation site in my mouth. Thus, I always do my best to help my escort feel relaxed; it's not only polite, it's also important if I'm to enjoy my time with him.

 

The behavior you describe is beyond the pale. Why you didn't walk out right at first I can't imagine. And why you stayed for three hours is a real puzzle, unless you put so little value on your own human dignity that you excuse behavior towards yourself that you would never excuse for a friend. If an escort treats a client in a way that the client would never treat someone else, I say it's time to leave.

[marc anthony]

> And why you

>stayed for three hours is a real puzzle, unless you put so

>little value on your own human dignity that you excuse

>behavior towards yourself that you would never excuse for a

>friend. If an escort treats a client in a way that the

>client would never treat someone else, I say it's time to

>leave.

 

I agree with you, Will... but you are being a little harsh. It is true that this may have been unsalvagable, but the client here was trying to consummate his "dream" date... something he may have been fantasizing about and planning for months! It is not so easy to be objective and call it a day when all your blood has rushed away from your brain and into your dick!

 

I sympathize a bit with this client, although I agree in the final analysis, you are correct... he should have left earlier. My similar experience was that I was hot after Chip Noll (the pornstar cutie) when he was about 19 or 20 (a few years ago). I arranged a date, and he flat out stood me up... even after talking to me on the phone just a couple hours before. I waited hours in that hotel room, and he never showed or answered my calls. Well... like I said, all the blood was in my dick... so the next day, I called him again... forgave him, and booked him again. And guess what... I got stood up again!

 

It is true that I was a fool for not reading the warning signs with the first incident, but like I said, I forgave myself because there's surprising little reason where lust is concerned!

[hiJinX]

I am the first person to admit I was an idiot in that situation. I just *really* wanted to try to make it work out apparently even at the expense of everything else.

-Hijinx

[Bilbo]

I think that your first mistake, and you seem to see it that way, too, was to assume that he wouldn't remember you from having seen you before. We all, high or not, are nagged by it when we are with someone who can remember our face and how we met and we can't remember either one. So I would say that the first thing that you could have done in this particular instance would have been to explain to the escort how you had met before and roughly when. Since he evidently feels that recognizing everyone that he should is a survival matter, "whisper to the horse" every reason he might have to know you before you enter the room.

 

Another way, it would seem to me, would be to insist that your excorts are drug free (or heavy drug free - viagara, or poppers, or horny goat weed (Has anyone here tried that stuff?) would probably be acceptible). There are clients here, mainly Traveller, that can handle druggies, but you don't sound like one to me.

 

And, of course, you could lose your heart to more mature men. ;-)

[hiJinX]

>I think that your first mistake, and you seem to see it that

>way, too, was to assume that he wouldn't remember you from

>having seen you before.

 

We did discuss a bit our previous meeting but and he had no recollection of me as I expected since he likely meets many people in the same manner. My recounting of our initial encounter only seemed to make him more suspicious of me.

>

 

>And, of course, you could lose your heart to more mature

>men. ;-)

 

Actually, the escort in question WAS a mature man (chronologically)more than 15 years my senior.

 

Thanks for the suggestions.

Hijinx

[Rick Munroe]

Understatement of the Year

 

[h1]"In general, I think it's the escort's job to put the client at ease, not the other way round."[/h1]

 

*Will scores again!

[+ Axiom2001]

>>Bottom line: What can a client do to assure the escort that

>>"I'm not a cop" relax and let the games begin. Directness

>>can be misinterpreted as entrapment as can vagueness.

>>Should the client strip naked to show he's not wearing a

>>wire? Or initiate intimate contact. Guidance desired

>>should I ever recover from the collossal disappointmet of

>>this disaster of an encounter.

>

>Well - this might work.

>

>Upon entering his home, immediately drop to your knees, pull

>his cock out and start sucking it.............

>

>Or if you consider that too tacky and in bad taste, stand in

>the hallway outside his door (presuming he lives in an apt.

>building) and remove all your clothing before knocking on

>his door. I actually had someone do this to me once - the

>effect was wild!

>

>Thunderbuns

 

 

When I read this response--it REALLY cracked me up! Thanks Thunderbuns!!

[+ Axiom2001]

>I think that your first mistake, and you seem to see it that

>way, too, was to assume that he wouldn't remember you from

>having seen you before. We all, high or not, are nagged by

>it when we are with someone who can remember our face and

>how we met and we can't remember either one. So I would say

>that the first thing that you could have done in this

>particular instance would have been to explain to the escort

>how you had met before and roughly when. Since he evidently

>feels that recognizing everyone that he should is a survival

>matter, "whisper to the horse" every reason he might have to

>know you before you enter the room.

>

>Another way, it would seem to me, would be to insist that

>your excorts are drug free (or heavy drug free - viagara, or

>poppers, or horny goat weed (Has anyone here tried that

>stuff?) would probably be acceptible). There are clients

>here, mainly Traveller, that can handle druggies, but you

>don't sound like one to me.

 

>poppers, or horny goat weed (Has anyone here tried that

>stuff?)

 

I am at my desk right now reading and writing to this response. A bottle of Horny Goat Weed just so happens is here, too. I bought a bottle least summer for 29.99 when I was in NYC. ...used it right before I saw an escort. It works! I've used it once since then; it is, I think after reading this-- ok with poppers. (Just thought I'd address you question, for I find the thread to be humorous--a subject that I have not worried about since I began engaging escorts.)

 

One thing is: I have been amiable and myself -- just "down-to-earth" when I have seen men who escort. ...have liked the ones who've clicked with me; I thought about the ones who haven't and have kept going.

>

>And, of course, you could lose your heart to more mature

>men. ;-)

[+ Axiom2001]

RE: Understatement of the Year

 

>[h1]"In general, I think it's the escort's job to put the

>client at ease, not the other way round."[/h1]

>

>*Will scores again!

 

Yes, yes, yes, Rick! Thanks always!

:9 :9 :9 :P

[Guest jizzdepapi]

excuse me, gentlemen, but can i ask a dumb question?

 

Wouldn't Chip Noll have been around 8 or 9 when he shot his first porno if your chronology is correct?

[marc anthony]

Chip Noll is about 22 years old right now. He shot his first porno about 4 years ago when he was 18. I tried to hire him 2-3 years ago when he was 19 or 20. You might be confusing him with many of the other Nolls... Kip Noll, Scott Noll, Marc Noll, of Jeff Noll... all of whom made porno in the 80's

[hiJinX]

Thanks for the responses.

HiJinX

[Guest Joey Ciccone]

>How can a client put an escort at ease?<

 

Scratch his belly.