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I know you guys have probably seen this a million times in the posts here, so this might not even get on the board. But here goes. I'm looking forward to my first expereince with an escort next month, and while I've had some furtive give-and-take blowjobs at XXX theatres and bathhouses, I've never bottomed or spent more than about 65 seconds with any given man. The thought of an hour with a tall, well hung escort who will converse, be sensitive to my desires, and who is willing to try and top me is keeping me too distracted to work at the office. Anyway, my question is, how difficult is it to bottom the first time? Prostate exams send me through the roof, and that's only with the doc's middle finger! Will it give me a pleasure previously unknown? Is it truly safe, if done with protection? I can't imagine not trying this, I want to try it, but am apprehensive... and I appreciate any comments you can guys give a rookie client.

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Shoe - well, there's a first time for everyone I suppose. I was in your "shoes" ;-) a couple of years ago and the experience wasn't all that great due to my inexperience. So if I had it to do all over again, knowing what I know now, I'd bullet-point it like this:

 

1. Have an idea of what you'd like the session to be like (kissing, oral, passion, etc.)

 

2. Scan the reviews to find someone as close a match to your tastes as possible, and don't forget to read the descriptions of the reviewers to see if they have similar tastes to yours.

 

3. If you are like me (two years ago), you might think that being with a big, tall, hung, muscular, model-like total top is your fantasy. It was mine. But in my case the guy didn't understand (or believe) it was my first time, and the experience was too rough and painful. It was my fault because that's the type I chose. I went by body type and figuring I was a bottom and enjoyed porn flicks showing big tops dominating smaller bottoms, I thought he'd be my guy. He would be now, but not then.

 

4. Find a kinder, gentler top who is interactive, has experience opening up inexperienced bottoms, and who doesn't advertise as a TOTAL TOP. Look for someone more versatile.

 

5. State up front that you only play safe. Bring along a pack of your own condoms just to be sure. Lube, lube, lube. Again, bring along your own just to be sure.

 

I've found through my experiences that personality and passion outweigh pure looks and body type (which is often accompanied by an equally impressive ego and attitude).

 

Depending on your location, you can probably find a number of escorts who post on this board (and give you a free preview of their personalities, techniques, and intelligence) who would love to show you the time of your life.

 

I hired about 10 escorts before I found the secret of even being able to come to orgasm - thanks to one kind and gentle masseur. Now I never have a problem no matter whom I with. Why couldn't he have been my first?

 

Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

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It a simple rule, but has worked for me in the past 8 years

 

 

If it doesnt fit in my mouth, it doesnt fit anywhere else

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Thanks for the great advice. I really appreciate hearing from someone who has been in my shoes. I'll pay attention to the reviews and be careful to pick someone who sounds like they know how to break in a first-timer.

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>It a simple rule, but has worked for me in the past 8 years

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>If it doesnt fit in my mouth, it doesnt fit anywhere else

 

Good rule, although I've surprised myself lately with how much girth my tight little hole can take comfortably when opened with proper care :7

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I think that if this is your first time, especially if you want to get fucked. Smaller is definitely better. About the 2nd escort (and 2nd man) I was with I hired because of his size and he knew how to use it but it was bigger than I could really handle and it hurt like crazy. He asked me if I want to change and be on top but I just couldn't get over my initial pain.

 

Work your way up! Your ass will thank you later! :-)

 

 

P.S. Remember to clean yourself!

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Generally speaking, 8-9 inches looks great and is lovely to hold, but 6-7 inches feels much more comfortable inside. But the smaller ones can hurt just as bad if the top is a bit too aggressive too soon, while a bigger, thick one can feel great if the top is patient and knows how to relax his bottom boy.

 

In either case, passion with ample kissing focuses the brain away from anal pain, and has the tendency to open a guy up even more (me anyway) :9

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There are two great articles by Aaron Lawrence on his site for new bottoms: one on avoiding pain, then other on how to clean properly. Check them out: http://www.aaronlawrence.com/newfiles/advice.htm

 

As you can tell my by name here, I love to bottom. No greater joy than a big cock plowing away. But the pain can be bad if the top doesn't do it right and if you as the bottom aren't properly prepared.

 

Good luck! I hope your experience is a hot one!!! }>

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The only thing that I can add to Chris' and the others' remarks is not to be afraid to communicate. I totally agree with everything else said here. My first time was painful - the guy was trying to be careful, but I felt like a wuss in telling him that it was hurting so I didn't(BIG mistake!). If it's uncomfortable, let him know! Sometimes a different position, more lube, etc. can really make a difference. Now, although I prefer to top, I can bottom with the best of them! ;) Good luck!

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>Anyway, my question is,

>how difficult is it to bottom the first time? Prostate

>exams send me through the roof, and that's only with the

>doc's middle finger! Will it give me a pleasure previously

>unknown? Is it truly safe, if done with protection? I

>can't imagine not trying this, I want to try it, but am

>apprehensive... and I appreciate any comments you can guys

>give a rookie client.

 

Trying to wipe the grin off your face should in no way impede your walk to the car :-)

 

Thunderbuns

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Guest Ant415

If you dont want to buy a dildo, perhaps can hootch one of those orange traffic cones from a highway construction site.

 

I recall seeing a film where this young man inserted into his butthole. It sure seemed to prepare him to be a most able bottom.

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All the previous advice is good. Also some prepatory homework is not a bad idea either. Buy a couple of different sized dildos and try to learn to relax with them while watching a sexy movie. That will help take out any anxiety as to what to expect.

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Guest ShoeDog

Thnaks to all you guys. This is really helpful. It amazes me that 800 guys have read my query (note correct spelling), I somehow feel not-so alone in the world. I'll let you know how my experience goes.

 

I doubt I'll go out and buy any dildoes, though. I'm basically shy, can barely stand buying condoms or renting a "preview" video. I know, lame...lame.

 

I've still got about 3 weeks before my booking, so I welcome any more advice or insight...

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Shoe - if your escort will rim (and be sure to be clean for him), that will add a measure of pleasure to your experience, while having the added benefit of relaxing you down there and opening you up.

 

Also, I've found that just after insertion, it's very important to go slow. I prefer to start out on top with the other guy lying on his back facing up to me - that way I can better control the depth and speed of the insertion, and ease my way on to it.

 

Once I'm comfortable and "used to" the feeling, I start moving slowly up and down, and the pleasure increases. I get the guy to flip me over, so we're now basically in the missionary position, with my legs on his shoulders. This way, he can (usually) lean down a bit and use his tongue on my mouth with some soft moaning added in. Now I've completely forgotten any minor pain or discomfort that may have existed and it's pure comfort all the way from there. He can ram that baby home all he wants.

 

If you get a guy that wants to shove it in right away and pound you like a selfish jerk - then I doubt your experience will be pleasant. You can control that situation, and have a right to - not just because you're the client.

 

Does the guy you're scheduled to meet describe himself, or has been described in reviews as passionate, oral, and/or versatile? If so, you're on the right track.

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If you do not want to buy dildo's, then buy a few cucumbers of different sizes. That would have the same effect. (or at least it should)

 

Just remember to thoroughly wash the cucumber and put a condom on it. There might be pesticides or insecticides on it and you do not want that going up your butt.

 

Also, plenty of lube!! I have found that Astro Glide works the best for anal sex (with actual people that is, not vegetables)

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>If you dont want to buy a dildo, perhaps can hootch one of

>those orange traffic cones from a highway construction site.

>

>I recall seeing a film where this young man inserted into

>his butthole. It sure seemed to prepare him to be a most

>able bottom.

 

Oh that's much too big for the boy x(

 

That'd be like shootin' rabbits with an elephant gun!

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Guest Thunderbuns

>>If you dont want to buy a dildo, perhaps can hootch one of

>>those orange traffic cones from a highway construction site.

>>

>>I recall seeing a film where this young man inserted into

>>his butthole. It sure seemed to prepare him to be a most

>>able bottom.

>

>Oh that's much too big for the boy x(

>

>That'd be like shootin' rabbits with an elephant gun!

 

I have, somewhere in my collection, a series that depicts that very act with a traffic cone. You would not believe just how much of the cone he is able to make disappear. If I had not seen it with my own eyes, I would not believe it!

 

Thunderbuns

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>The video was Falcon's Flashpoint. And the young man with

>the motorcycle helmet must have made close to half of that

>traffic cone disappear in his butt...repeatedly! Quite

>impressive, actually!

 

I agree - impressive indeed. But I shudder to think of what a proctoligist would say after examining him. Probably could crawl inside with a flashlight and look around. ;-)

 

Thunderbuns

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Falcon Studios and HUGE toys

 

Over the years, Falcon has put out many vids that have boys taking huge toys or huge cocks. A few months ago, I was in SF. Jimmy McGuire (the VERY hot cutie Falcon exclusive) was the headliner at Nob Hill. I went and he was awesome. Hired him for a private after the show. Went to his hotel, and there, sticking onto his headboard was one of those stick on dildos which was as big as my arm! He kind of sheepishly smiled and said, "Practicing." Filming a big scene for Falcon in Europe in the coming weeks.

 

Not sure what Falcon was planning to put up his butt that he needed to practice with that monster, but just seeing it there sure made for a hot session for us! By the way, he was still tight... the resilience of youth!

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Excellent advice

 

>Shoe - if your escort will rim (and be sure to be clean for him), that will add a measure of pleasure to your

>experience, while having the added benefit of relaxing you down there and opening you up.

 

 

And no matter how handsome, tall or well hung, if the particular appointment is established with an escort who will not rim (simply call and inquire NOW) by all means reset it with one who will. This is actually very important and will add to your comfort and enjoyment.

 

 

>Also, I've found that just after insertion, it's very important to go slow. I prefer to start out on top with the

>other guy lying on his back facing up to me - that way I can better control the depth and speed of the insertion, and

>ease my way on to it.

 

 

I give my clients who are inexperienced the option of how to start and this is excellent for the control issue. However, some people for whatever physiological reasons do not believe this is the case for them. In your instance, it may be best to simply "listen" to your body and pay attention. If this position is not that comfortable, proceed to the next one. Be certain the escort is patient and will go slow with you.

 

 

 

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>Does the guy you're scheduled to meet describe himself, or has been described in reviews as passionate, oral, and/or

>versatile? If so, you're on the right track.

 

 

Agreed, except for me personally, as to the versatile aspect. If the escort has not been reviewed, I would politely ask the man to meet you briefly for about twenty minutes or so to discuss these issues or to do so over the telephone. I have done such a "preliminary" meeting often and these clients have been among the ones who have both written me good reviews or more importantly, come back to me again AND recommended me to others.

 

Best of luck and most of all, think with your pleasure in mind!

 

Franco

 

 

If you can not be with the one you love, love the man who is patient and returns your page.

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RE: Excellent advice

 

>And no matter how handsome, tall or well hung, if the

>particular appointment is established with an escort who

>will not rim (simply call and inquire NOW) by all means

>reset it with one who will. This is actually very important

>and will add to your comfort and enjoyment.

 

Shoe - if I were you, I might consider flying to San Francisco to meet Mr. DiSanti for your first experience }>

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