Communication

[Maximiliam]

After the first meeting with a provider and want to be a regular , how often should you be texting to stay in contact without being annoying ? Should you text him only if you want to book again or if you seeing him weeks from last time ,occasional hi ,how r u is good . Need advice ? thanks

[TT3690]

Generally speaking, I only initiate a text conversation with a provider if I have some intention on booking in the near future, particularly if you're not a regular yet.

[jtwalker]

After the first meeting with a provider and want to be a regular , how often should you be texting to stay in contact without being annoying ? Should you text him only if you want to book again or if you seeing him weeks from last time ,occasional hi ,how r u is good . Need advice ? thanks

 

Be careful not to blur the line in your head about the relationship. He's an escort, not a boyfriend, so there isn't much reason to contact him unless you are scheduling an appointment. You may become friends after a few visits and share an occasional text, but you have to keep things in perspective. If you start to lose perspective, you are probably better off calling it off and seeing someone else.

 

I've had to stop seeing a regular in the past when I couldn't keep this straight.

[Maximiliam]

Thanks ? for the advice ,I will only contact when bookings. Did you decided to stop or did the escort said so?

[jtwalker]

Thanks ? for the advice ,I will only contact when bookings. Did you decided to stop or did the escort said so?

 

I decided to stop. I wear my heart on my sleeve, so I have to keep myself in check.

[Maximiliam]

I decided to stop. I wear my heart on my sleeve, so I have to keep myself in check.

Great decision ?, lol don't worry I won't fall in love with him + he is older than me . Thanks for the advice

[Harryinny]

During this pandemia I have contacted my regulars every two months or so checking that they are well and letting them know that I have not called them cause I am away.

[+ Coolwave35]

During this pandemia I have contacted my regulars every two months or so checking that they are well and letting them know that I have not called them cause I am away.

I have about 6 regulars. Most were radio silent in the heat of the pandemic. Two offered virtual shows and I accepted both offers. It was a nice way to support them and better than watching golden girls marathons.

[BluDay]

After the business portion (which I usually do via text), if I want to talk more, I send an open-ended question or comment. If he picks up on it, you can continue. Let the escort lead in this.

 

Texting clients, especially those who they have not yet met or have only met a few times, is an investment for the escort, don't make their investment in you so high the return is lowered for them.

[Maximiliam]

Thanks ill contact when I'm ready to meet again . The first time I contacted him we spoke for 2weeks lol and he said he don't usually do that I guess I was lucky or special but we had a great time lot of laugh and didn't feel like a transaction. Thanks for the advice guys

[+ newatthis]

Thanks ill contact when I'm ready to meet again . The first time I contacted him we spoke for 2weeks lol and he said he don't usually do that I guess I was lucky or special but we had a great time lot of laugh and didn't feel like a transaction. Thanks for the advice guys

That additional information is relevant. Escorts are humans, after all, and their conversation isn't always business-related when they meet someone interesting. Still, there's more to lose by being over-eager and annoying. After you've seen him a few times, the level of friendship he's comfortable with (if any) ought to be clear.

[Maximiliam]

That additional information is relevant. Escorts are humans, after all, and their conversation isn't always business-related when they meet someone interesting. Still, there's more to lose by being over-eager and annoying. After you've seen him a few times, the level of friendship he's comfortable with (if any) ought to be clear.

Can I atleast hit him up and say merry Xmas

[+ newatthis]

Can I atleast hit him up and say merry Xmas

Why not? Can't see that a simple greeting -- nothing more -- would make you seem like a stalker. Don't be upset if there's no reply. As I implied, the best way to go is to hire him again!

[CalTec]

For me, long time regulars (like years of knowing eachother) have access to my personal number. I always stress, "you initiate the text/call, and I'll reply". Those who I don't know as well are fine with emailing me to set up a comms uplink on Session. Works for me.

[Maximiliam]

For me, long time regulars (like years of knowing eachother) have access to my personal number. I always stress, "you initiate the text/call, and I'll reply". Those who I don't know as well are fine with emailing me to set up a comms uplink on Session. Works for me.

Are ypu friends with 1 or 2 of ur regular