Weekend hire: taking the plunge with a provider you don't know

[+ barullo]

I live in the middle of nowhere, where there's nothing going on. So my choices are either travel somewhere "exciting" or fly guys to my city. Last year I did it three times (fly them in, I mean). Once it was sort of a dud and the other two times it was awesome. I'm about to do it again, and I know the wisdom is to never hire someone you've never had at least a couple of hours with, but I'm willing to take the plunge again.

 

So, knowing that I'm going against common sense, what advice would you give to help me decide on the right guy? Is it possible to get a sense of that other person before meeting them WITHOUT making them feel like they are wasting their time? or am I just crazy?

 

thanks!

[+ bashful]

You're not crazy. While reviews are a good starting point, it doesn't always mean the two of you will be a good match, and it could result in an experience where he's another dud. I think we have all been there.

 

I don't have a lot of experience hiring, and I haven't ever hired as you are proposing, but I would suggest you have a few conversations over the phone to get a better sense of the person, he can get a better sense of you, and if you have specific wishes, ask him.

[RomanticRick]

I live in the middle of nowhere, where there's nothing going on. So my choices are either travel somewhere "exciting" or fly guys to my city...

Sorry, slight off-topic from the main thrust of your post. Have you ever considered flying / driving / any other means of travel to take yourself over rather than fly someone over to you?

You get to control travel, hotel and meal costs and the venue. Perhaps you can even meet one or two more guys in addition to your preferred guy, depending on your appetite, of course.

[+ barullo]

@RomanticRick yes I have, and actually later this year I'm flying to London to do just that.

 

But the reason I'd rather bring them here is that a) I prefer longer hires than one hour and even overnight b) I want to spend time getting to know the person rather than just having sex c) it's actually kind of cool, for the right kind of guy, to visit my country (it's not a mainstream destination)

 

but your suggestion is right on the money.

[MidwestCoastal]

I find that providers that are willing to engage in longer than usual exchanges via email or text is a good first indicator of potential chemistry. Be upfront about what you want and your reservations about having someone you don't know for a weekend visit. Graduate to phone calls or video chat to seal the deal. I have offered a couple hundred bucks to chat with someone after a few email/texting sessions as long as I can apply that to the weekend visit. No one accepted and they were still willing to have the conversation anyway.

 

I've only 'blind weekend hired' three times, but everyone was awesome using the method above!

Edited March 19, 2020 by MidwestCoastal

[+ Pensant]

Should be interesting to see if a provider is willing to go to an airport and fly to meet a stranger for a weekend in the age of Covid. Sorry to be a downer commenter.

[+ barullo]

@Pensant we already discussed that we would meet at least in may, after all the big mess (hopefully) fades away

[down_to_business]

Offer the escort a reasonable fee to facetime for a 30 minute or so virtual date to try and get an idea of how things might go. You can use this to try and feel each other out.

 

Also perhaps start with whatever the smallest length of time you might feel comfortable doing, just in case (i.e. overnight beats weekend). Personal experience, getting stuck on a cruise (before the coronavirus) for 7 days with an escort I did not get along with was one of the worst experiences in my life! You do learn from experience.

 

I am a strong believer in meeting for an hour prior to meeting for a weekend.

[+ barullo]

I find that providers that are willing to engage in longer than usual exchanges via email or text is a good first indicator of potential chemistry. Be upfront about what you want and your reservations about having someone you don't know for a weekend visit. Graduate to phone calls or video chat to seal the deal. I have offered a couple hundred bucks to chat with someone after a few email/texting sessions as long as I can apply that to the weekend visit. No one accepted and they were still willing to have the conversation anyway.

 

I've only 'blind weekend hired' three times, but everyone was awesome using the method above!

 

thank you! I’m glad I’m not the only one going through this haha. Your strategy is super useful

[+ peterhung85]

I live in the middle of nowhere, where there's nothing going on. So my choices are either travel somewhere "exciting" or fly guys to my city. Last year I did it three times (fly them in, I mean). Once it was sort of a dud and the other two times it was awesome. I'm about to do it again, and I know the wisdom is to never hire someone you've never had at least a couple of hours with, but I'm willing to take the plunge again.

 

So, knowing that I'm going against common sense, what advice would you give to help me decide on the right guy? Is it possible to get a sense of that other person before meeting them WITHOUT making them feel like they are wasting their time? or am I just crazy?

 

thanks!

You are absolutely sane and I am sorry about the "dud" experience.

 

As a golden rule, if you have the ability to get a feel for the companion of your choice, hire someone for a shorter period first. If you feel that there is chemistry and that the gentleman of your choice goes out of his way to make you happy, then that person would likely be a good candidate for a weekend.

 

If you do not have the ability to hire someone for a shorter period, then reviews (especially RELEVANT ones in terms of duration of hire) are definitely the way to go.

I personally make 75% of my companion income from travel arrangements and a few other highly qualified guys who have reviews of extended time being spent with clients have great potential of making the weekend hire an amazing experience for you, simply because we know what it takes to make not just an hour a fun-filled experience but an entire weekend (or then some)

 

Hope this helps and good luck with your hire!!!

[+ barullo]

You are absolutely sane and I am sorry about the "dud" experience.

 

As a golden rule, if you have the ability to get a feel for the companion of your choice, hire someone for a shorter period first. If you feel that there is chemistry and that the gentleman of your choice goes out of his way to make you happy, then that person would likely be a good candidate for a weekend.

 

If you do not have the ability to hire someone for a shorter period, then reviews (especially RELEVANT ones in terms of duration of hire) are definitely the way to go.

I personally make 75% of my companion income from travel arrangements and a few other highly qualified guys who have reviews of extended time being spent with clients have great potential of making the weekend hire an amazing experience for you, simply because we know what it takes to make not just an hour a fun-filled experience but an entire weekend (or then some)

 

Hope this helps and good luck with your hire!!!

 

peter that’s such a thoughtful response ! Thank you. Do you want to be my visit ?

[+ peterhung85]

peter that’s such a thoughtful response ! Thank you. Do you want to be my visit ?

I would be delighted to ... I have sent you a PM to discuss the details. Thank you!