Q for providers re fee etiquette

[desertguy1954]

The don’t haggle mentality is a forum poster mentality, not a general hirer mentality. One of the people I see most often “haggles” every time in the sense that we negotiate my rate. I could care less.

 

4, enumerate the list of providers providing xxx and xyy assuming the providers are amenable to that info being disclosed. If you don’t give numbers right off the bat, it’s too much effort for providers to invest time negotiating downwards. Give your best and final from the getgo. Concomitantly provide creative non-monetary compensation to offset the difference between your budget rate and the provider’s standard rate.

When contacting an escort, I have usually found out their hourly rate by looking at their rate or checking out their website. My question about their rates is going to be for multiply hours. I book for two and am looking to see if the second hour is discounted.

[+ DrownedBoy]

I use, "Thank you for your time."

 

That is polite, but also establishes that I consider any communication to be over.

 

I don't haggle. I'll make an offer, or I'll let them make a counteroffer, but I will never make a counteroffer myself.

[Ryan Roman]

3. "My budget is $XXX." I'd then suggest if there was a way to negotiate a middle price point you both can agree too... I think most of us, if given a reasonable offer, would consider it. But you'd need to be willing to meet 1/2 way... IMHO...

 

I'll try it again a different way....

 

Given that RM does not permit the posting of fees, when a potential client asks you for your fees and those fees are higher than what the client is prepared to pay, what do you think is the appropriate response from the client?

 

1. No response. Radio silence. Move on.

2. "No thanks" No further explanation

3. "My budget is $XXX. Any chance you are willing to meet it?"

4. "My budget is $XXX, and I get lots of guys for that price. I would be prepared to go to $XYY if...."

5. Something else...?

[Ryan Roman]

Many of us will have a reduced 2 hour rate... Just ask... I'm up front up the first hour + each additional hour, and that seems to work for me with my clients. ?

 

When contacting an escort, I have usually found out their hourly rate by looking at their rate or checking out their website. My question about their rates is going to be for multiply hours. I book for two and am looking to see if the second hour is discounted.

[Ryan Roman]

As my bf says... It's all transactional ?

 

Are you opening the door to bargaining? Btw your ad expired a few weeks ago. Would you do an incall in exchange for someone paying ad for 2 months?

[Ryan Roman]

Many possible clients are fine with hearing "that doesn't work with my schedule for this trip, but stay in touch so we can plan something only next trip." Being polite costs nothing and can build you up in the eyes of a client... IMHO...

 

Fear of haggling is another of example of these forums being a self-selected minority sample that differs from the majority of clients/escorts who don't post here.

 

Most of my clients don't have a problem with it. I feel it's best, if you have a budget, to be upfront. But I think it's best to give as much info as reasonable in the first 1-2 texts: "Married, discreet, 60s here. Looking for bf experience, you top. Available tonight 9pm, my hotel in Tribeca? Can do 280 roses for hr of your time. Privacy/discretion important. Thanks."

 

The who/what/when/where/how is thus out of the way, and now you can do the personality and compatibility dance for a bit before confirming. Don't understand why w can't just save everybody's time and energy by being direct, clear, concise, and complete.

 

Radio silence is perhaps the worst form of this poor communication, both rude and unclear at the same time. I block clients who do it, and have had some circle back months to years saying, "Been texting and calling, can't get through." When I tell them they were blocked because of having ghosted, then it's "Oh, didn't mean to, something came up." Okay, well just send a text saying "No longer interested, maybe another time" or "No longer available, will check you next trip." How hard is that?

[mattr]

Here is a response I recently sent

 

Thanks <name>. That's a bit more than I was looking to spend although you may be worth the extra expense. I'll think about it though and let you know.