Unsolicited feedback?

[Ryan Roman]

I'm curious as to how many of you feel about unsolicited feedback. Generally, I appreciate it, as being a service provider, if I do something to improve myself, my appearance, etc., I'm happy to take the suggestion. Except... That one topic (and I suspect everyone has one topic we don't want to hear about, or we've heard comments in the past, but it's a part of our identity we embrace)... This is more of a point of annoyance for me, bit I suspect we've all experienced at different points in time... Ok, rant over... ?

[hypothetically]

I'm curious as to how many of you feel about unsolicited feedback. Generally, I appreciate it, as being a service provider, if I do something to improve myself, my appearance, etc., I'm happy to take the suggestion. Except... That one topic (and I suspect everyone has one topic we don't want to hear about, or we've heard comments in the past, but it's a part of our identity we embrace)... This is more of a point of annoyance for me, bit I suspect we've all experienced at different points in time... Ok, rant over... ?

 

That one topic??

[Rudynate]

I'm curious as to how many of you feel about unsolicited feedback. Generally, I appreciate it, as being a service provider, if I do something to improve myself, my appearance, etc., I'm happy to take the suggestion. Except... That one topic (and I suspect everyone has one topic we don't want to hear about, or we've heard comments in the past, but it's a part of our identity we embrace)... This is more of a point of annoyance for me, bit I suspect we've all experienced at different points in time... Ok, rant over... ?

 

 

I rarely give anyone advice, unless I'm being paid to give advice. I would never offer an escort personal advice. I could imagine offering advice about a business process, but even that is unlikely.

[+ funguy86]

For me, I am not a fan of unsolicited feedback. I am more of the if I want your opinion I will ask for it type of person. advice of a personal nature is seldom well received

[marylander1940]

I'm curious as to how many of you feel about unsolicited feedback. Generally, I appreciate it, as being a service provider, if I do something to improve myself, my appearance, etc., I'm happy to take the suggestion. Except... That one topic (and I suspect everyone has one topic we don't want to hear about, or we've heard comments in the past, but it's a part of our identity we embrace)... This is more of a point of annoyance for me, bit I suspect we've all experienced at different points in time... Ok, rant over... ?

 

Whoever was mean to you or gave you some advice should have praised you instead.

 

[tenderloin]

Writing as a client and not a provider: Few of us are good at being "self-aware," and we are often surprised at how others view us and the things we do. If I were in this line of work, I would want to know what my clients think about what I do well and what I don't -- it would make me a better provider. If someone gave feedback in a rude and/or unproductive way, just block 'em and move on.

[+ FrankR]

I'm curious as to how many of you feel about unsolicited feedback. Generally, I appreciate it, as being a service provider, if I do something to improve myself, my appearance, etc., I'm happy to take the suggestion. Except... That one topic (and I suspect everyone has one topic we don't want to hear about, or we've heard comments in the past, but it's a part of our identity we embrace)... This is more of a point of annoyance for me, bit I suspect we've all experienced at different points in time... Ok, rant over... ?

It really depends on the topic and the context.

 

[Rudynate]

Writing as a client and not a provider: Few of us are good at being "self-aware," and we are often surprised at how others view us and the things we do. If I were in this line of work, I would want to know what my clients think about what I do well and what I don't -- it would make me a better provider. If someone gave feedback in a rude and/or unproductive way, just block 'em and move on.

 

 

one time, an escort asked me to give him feedback on how he could improve his technique

[marylander1940]

It really depends on the topic and the context.

 

 

it also depends on the way it's done and the eyes of the beholder (judgment of the client).

[+ Travis69]

A masseur told me of a client who got off the table at the end of the session and proceeded to tell him everything the masseur had done wrong. Never said a thing during the massage. Funny thing is the things the client complained about the masseur would have gladly done if only the client had spoken up during the massage.

[Ryan Roman]

It really depends on the topic and the context.

 

 

Ironically... The length of my hair is the unsolicited comment... And it doesn't come from clients; it comes from non-client gay men: "you'd be so much better looking with short hair."

 

Maybe I'd attract a wider client base, but at the same time, I like being true to me.

 

If I want feedback, I'll freely ask (which I do frequently, because I'm always looking to improve myself). But unless you're paying and you're a stylist, leave my hair in peace ?.

[Ryan Roman]

Writing as a client and not a provider: Few of us are good at being "self-aware," and we are often surprised at how others view us and the things we do. If I were in this line of work, I would want to know what my clients think about what I do well and what I don't -- it would make me a better provider. If someone gave feedback in a rude and/or unproductive way, just block 'em and move on.

 

I agree with everything you said. If you're a client, and I can do something better, tell me... I want a client to be satisfied with our time together. That's of highest importance to me.

 

It's the non-client general population of gay men who are a bit too free with their opinions (IMHO)...

[hypothetically]

Considering communication between a new client and provider is already a mine field, I wouldn’t welcome unsolicited feedback. If it were a regular, a client whom I trusted and whose opinion I valued.. absolutely, I love feedback. But a new client, i’m good.

 

I’d also welcome feedback from a seasoned escort before a client. I have an escort/porn actor “mentor” and it has really aided me in the business.