“Sorry to have disturbed you” - PART TWO

[Dave]

FORUM READERS: This is PART TWO of a two-part post. The first post can be found at “Sorry to have disturbed you” - PART ONE

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Hmmmm... SHappiness... SHappiness... I thought I recognized that, so I searched in my own email log for SHappiness. Sure enough, I found this exchange - from two years ago! That’s right, in 2017, I had this email exchange:

• jan 15, 2017: Hello Dave, I see from your travel calendar that you will be in DC the first week of February. I would like to book a session with you on the 6th or 7th. Looking forward to hearing from you!
  
• D, jan 16, 2017: thanks for contacting me! I'd love to see you. how much time do you want to spend together? and what're the earliest and latest times you could start on both days/ also- are you looking to come to me, or have me come to you? thanks, Dave
  
• jan 16, 2017: I would like to do 2 hours with you. I can meet any time with you up until 7pm on either of those days, and I would like to come to you.
  
• D, jan 16, 2017: great. I'll call you - we can chat for a few minutes, and I'll get you on my calendar. what is your number? also, please let me know if there are certain times that I can call / shouldn't call. fyi: http://thelegendarydave.com/why/discretion
  
• jan 17, 2017: Never mind. Sorry to have disturbed you.
  
• D, jan 17, 2017: ?? What happened? Were you hoping to have an appointment without having a phone call first?
  
• jan 18, 2017: No. Just having second thoughts that you might not be what I am looking for.
  
• D, jan 18, 2017: ok - no problem. let me know if you change your mind.
  

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My note to SheerHappiness continued:

Four years later, you’re still making posts seeking advice on hiring esccrts. It seems that after all these years, you are still struggling how to do so. Now, I know that some people suffer from social situations, and others have learning disabilities that make tasks like this hard. Still others have memory challenges that result in the need to ask things several times. While I’m not putting you down if you should have anything like that, I am requesting now that you not contact me again, for an appointment.

 

The problem with all of this is twofold.

- One, it seems that you are not really booking appointments. And esccrts - no matter how gold their heart is - are working. Our work starts with appointments.

- Two, your requests for information or advice seem as if that’s not really your goal - but rather, to mentally masturbate/engage esccrts to give you attention. Remember this - and I bet you’ve heard it before: We are paid for our time. Giving time to a person to help him or her get to a place of hiring, is good. Giving time to a person who implies that he or she wants an appointment when they really don’t, is bad.

 

I have been nothing but encouraging about setting up an appointment with you, so I’m afraid that even though you’ve already written something negative about me publicly several years ago - which I feel is bogus, actually - you will not be able to do so again, in this most recent exchange. I am proud of the reputation I’ve earned, as a quality esccrt in the field - and that includes how I handle written inquiries and requests for appointments. Now, by posting this on the Forum, I’m choosing to take charge of how a person like you works this sort of thing. I suspect you have done similar negative behavior to my brothers, and after being difficult (the way you’ve been with me in our most recent message exchange, above) you then would post about how they have “wronged” you. I don’t know what your game is... I don’t know what gets you off about being so unkind to working guys who are just trying to do their jobs... but something just doesn’t smell right. Why would so many guys cancel appointments on you? Especially when what esccrts want is... appointments?

 

If I don't hear from you - by 7AM tomorrow - I will join the group of men who will not see you - and will request that you not contact me again for an appointment.

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his reply: I’m sorry. I will stop.

 

D: That’s not an explanation- which I was clearly asking for. As such, I’ll be posting this on the Forum, to help other escorts and clients understand the darker side of setting up appointments.

 

SH: It is all part of the foreplay for me. I like the passive aggressive stuff and playing the games. I always follow up with a paid session, but I use my real name so the connection is never made.

 

D: Foreplay? Interesting that you have never seen me and yet your foreplay’s been going on for over four years. I’m glad that’s exciting for you, but you ought to learn how to respect an esccrt’s time.

 

SH: How do you know you have not seen me?

 

D: You are playing games with esccrts. I guess this is fun for you, but this work is real work. Holding back your phone number and taking up esccrt’s time is rude and disrespectful behavior. Please do not contact me again. Ironically, I now join the group of men who will not see you. I rarely say this to a person, but - I am no longer interested in setting up an appointment to be with you.

 

I have removed both email addresses from my mailing list. I’m referring to the “SHappiness” email and the “SheerHappiness” email. You probably know from my past emails that I send out a message once or twice a year, which usually includes some educational info about sex, as well as my whereabouts, plus a bit about what’s been going on in my life over the previous year. I suspect that may be the reason why you’ve been contacting me so many times.

 

I hope, with all sincerity, you find what you are looking for - but can do so in the future without being the “victim”, and simultaneously, without wasting the time of good working men throughout the world. Let esccrts focus on people who really want to spend time face to face.

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In closing - SheerHappiness and SHappiness:

As you wrote back in January of 2017, “Sorry to have disturbed you.”

Yes, you have disturbed me. And now, I will accept your apology - even though I know you don’t mean it in the way it should have been said.

 

Finally, a note to my esccrt brothers:

I really hope this post helps you in identifying this person - if you, like me - conclude he is a time drain.

 

And now, I’ve got to go. Have an appointment with a client in 30 minutes. Yep - a real, materializing, honest client.

Edited January 23, 2019 by Dave

[marylander1940]

@Dave if he doesn't have time for a 2 mins phone call... move on. Your requirements weren't unusual at all.

[maninsoma]

A lot of people like to waste other people's time online, and not just escorts' time. I think it makes sense to develop a practice that's most comfortable for you -- i.e., figure out how much back-and-forth you're willing to have with someone before you cut things off because they are simply a time waster.

[FTM Zachary Prince]

Yup I’m honestly surprised if this is an uncommon occurrence in male escort bookings. Women and many trans escorts usually get MORE of these attention-seeking, time-wasting, fake inquiries than we receive real ones. Sorting thru them is part of the fun of running an escort business. I cut people off after the 2nd or 3rd inquiry that doesn’t go anywhere and mark their email address to auto-label as DO NOT SEE in my Gmail inbox.

[marylander1940]

A lot of people like to waste other people's time online, and not just escorts' time. I think it makes sense to develop a practice that's most comfortable for you -- i.e., figure out how much back-and-forth you're willing to have with someone before you cut things off because they are simply a time waster.

 

No doubt but it's more personal when you're the product.

 

Yup I’m honestly surprised if this is an uncommon occurrence in male escort bookings. Women and many trans escorts usually get MORE of these attention-seeking, time-wasting, fake inquiries than we receive real ones. Sorting thru them is part of the fun of running an escort business. I cut people off after the 2nd or 3rd inquiry that doesn’t go anywhere and mark their email address to auto-label as DO NOT SEE in my Gmail inbox.

 

Unfortunately flakiness is epidemic.

 

The most annoying thing is when they text your ass off for nothing...

[Smurof]

Looking at this from a time waster's perspective, it is most certainly a tutorial on how to NOT "attempt" to conduct donation situations.

 

I learned from my before ever hiring days what I need to do in order for a successful meet-up to go well. A man I was dying to see got tired of my long-winded fantasies I wanted to play out, and in much kinder lingo told me to fuck off and find someone else.

 

I ended up being concise using an alternate e-mail address and using a completely different name, and he's now one of my favorite people to spend donation time with for many years. I've never divulged to him how I was rejected in my first efforts (trying to talk him down to $62.50 for a half hour, telling him what porn scene to watch to re-create and memorize lines - I was laughably awful)!

[Dave]

Looking at this from a time waster's perspective, it is most certainly a tutorial on how to NOT "attempt" to conduct donation situations.

 

I learned from my before ever hiring days what I need to do in order for a successful meet-up to go well. A man I was dying to see got tired of my long-winded fantasies I wanted to play out, and in much kinder lingo told me to fuck off and find someone else.

 

I ended up being concise using an alternate e-mail address and using a completely different name, and he's now one of my favorite people to spend donation time with for many years. I've never divulged to him how I was rejected in my first efforts (trying to talk him down to $62.50 for a half hour, telling him what porn scene to watch to re-create and memorize lines - I was laughably awful)!

 

thanks, Smurof - I was actually hoping that someone who hires might find what I wrote helpful - so as not to waste other working guys' time.

[+ VictorPowers]

Looking at this from a time waster's perspective, it is most certainly a tutorial on how to NOT "attempt" to conduct donation situations.

 

I learned from my before ever hiring days what I need to do in order for a successful meet-up to go well. A man I was dying to see got tired of my long-winded fantasies I wanted to play out, and in much kinder lingo told me to fuck off and find someone else.

 

I ended up being concise using an alternate e-mail address and using a completely different name, and he's now one of my favorite people to spend donation time with for many years. I've never divulged to him how I was rejected in my first efforts (trying to talk him down to $62.50 for a half hour, telling him what porn scene to watch to re-create and memorize lines - I was laughably awful)!

I’m pleased that he was professional in how he told you kindly to F off. I tell people that working guys have check boxes. Good and bad. Once everything is reviewed, that’s when we decide to go ahead and meet or not. In the end it’s all mitigating risk.

 

I posted a very lengthy reply in Part I that I’d encourage everyone to read.

[+ HornyRetiree]

I know I was very open to the phone call - wanting it for myself as well. It helped establish a small connection before our session.

 

Sorry your time was wasted AND this guy has NO IDEA what he missed. A highlight of life that I hope to be able to experience again:):)