Un Escort Worthy

[OceanTraveller]

I had an overnight with one of the top rated escorts around at this time . I was never treated nice . The first time I saw this guy he seemed very angry. I wore a new jacket etc. for our meal and was freshly showered and clean . When we went to dinner he wrote notes about something and when I mentioned it ; he said that he was " multitasking". I was extremely disappointed and told him so . I thought that I had found someone good to have a nice time with and to fill my needs with someone . I am not that ugly or overweight and most straight people like my personality . Anyway I feel really bad and started to email and ask what was wrong with me , but decided to just drop it and to move on . I feel now though that everyone that I meet will be like this . It makes one just want to go to bed and to cry for a couple of days because I tried so hard to look nice and to make this person feel comfortable . I would love to find someone respectful who is somewhat muscular, a top or versatile and who is really in to kissing and hugging etc. Any suggestons ? I live in the south.

[Lankypeters]

Don't take the escort's rude, insensitive behavior out on yourself. His bad manners and lack of professionalism prevailed, not your personality. You might do everyone a favor and identify the jerk so others can avoid your experience.

 

 

Lankypeters

[jawjateck]

For sure, write a review. Document the facts. I live in the south too, and I want to know who he is. Depending on where you live, we ought to compare notes about the better escorts in our beloved Dixie. Obviously, you know I live in Jawja, a peach of a state.

 

For the record, there is nothing wrong with you. He failed miserably to deliver a pleasant, satisfying client experience. I only wish that his failure would not project onto you, as if it was your failure.

[imrthr]

> I would love to find someone respectful who is

>somewhat muscular, a top or versatile and who is really in to

>kissing and hugging etc. Any suggestons ? I live in the

>south.

______________________________________________

 

Have you tried going to Brazil? There you will find great guys with no attitude. You should consider this alternative.

 

You said you live in the South. Delta Airlines has a non stop flight from Atlanta to Rio or to Sao Paulo. Other major air carriers can also take you to Brazil. Although it is a long flight, you are guaranteed to find what you seek. Look at the section of this board for Escorts South - - - -

 

If you read the postings there, you will not find anyone with serious complaints about how they were treated in Brazil.

 

There is one problem, however, with going to Brazil, going to Brazil is habit forming.

[Juan Vancouver]

Bad, bad boy!

 

Dear OceanTraveller,

 

Throughout the time I have spent in here, I have always enjoyed your presence in this board. You have often come across as a nice, warm-hearted man. You write in your post that you tried hard to "impress" the escort. And after that you tell us that you are not ugly, overweight nor disgusting...

 

May I suggest that it is not your job to impress anyone, let alone an escort? I am sure that you are a really nice guy, and all you have to do is be yourself, be kind, pay attention and be present. (Always remebering to avoid being rude, mean or demeaning.) I have the hunch that you already do all this, anyway.

 

It seems that you internalized the escort's short-comings as a fault of your own. It's not your fault that he was an ass. It is not your responsability (nor it is within your power) to make him be pleasant, present, kind and interested.

 

If he failed to do so, it is his own responsability.

 

Treat yourself to an energetic pat on your ass, lick your wounds (or have someone nice lick'em for you.), and remember that there are plenty of beautiful, warm, affectionate, muscular men that are ready to find the many ways in which you are special, lovable and delicious. There are many gorgeous men with the amazing gift of being able to connect and make you feel as Godly as you already are. Go to Brazil, go to your phone-book to look for those hotties that you know are good, or go to the new reviews section... Or go out there to a bar, visit some friends, watch a movie and remember that life is fun, beautiful and is waiting for you to squeeze it's last delicious drops.

 

Your only fault is (and I hope thay someday you will be repeatedly spanked for that), to assume that someone else was an ass because of you. People are the way they are. Some are nice, some are not. Some take turns back and forth... but it is NOT personal. It's not your fault.

 

Perk up, chin up, lube up...

[Calypso]

As someone who reads the forums frequently but rarely posts, I just had to dig up my password to ask (why in the hell!) don't you name the guy? Your post sounds sincere and if the escort in question is worth anything, it would give him a chance to reply or apologize.

I'm sort of sick of the notion that some escorts (yes - even "top rated ones") are "better than you and me" - I had a different less tasteful analogy about "gold bricks" - and reading BLIND ITEMS on an escort review site drives me crazyyyyyy!

[+ ArVaGuy]

The truth is the escort is the one that is unworthy here. You really need to submit a review of this guy. An honest one about how he made you feel.

 

Juan has summed it up better than anyone, don't internalize the escort's short comings as your own.

[Calypso]

Oh, Christ.

"submit a review submit a review"

The guy paid for an overnight and was treated like last week's garbage.

You started the thread, NAME HIM! Then submit your review.

 

What's the point of this place?

 

(I warned you blind items did this to me).

[+ glutes]

Good Heavens OT, name the guy!

Also, you are the client - and you are trying to make HIM feel comfortable???

[JT Brooklyn]

Ocean..Even though having to go thru the very UnHappy Experience in your mind...IMHO it would probably be best for you to submit a Review, for some Closure on your Part, at the very least!

 

You do seem to feel it was your fault, how it all went down? Which really most here feel, was not the case at all.

 

There are a FEW "Working Guy's" who after a period of time or even Years and many Regular Client's later, take their spending time with someone a "Privilege" they bestow on Client's, with of course a HIGH PRICE TAG!LOL

 

This Type of "Working Guy", usually isn't far from Retirement! OR SHOULD BE! IMHO of course. :P

[Epigonos]

This entire threat is surreal. Let me repeat what others have already said. You were the client -- it was the responsibility of the escort to please you NOT the other way around. What in the hell are you feeling guilty about????? In a client/escort relationship the burden of compatibility rests with the escort NOT the client. So the guy you hired is a very well reviewed escort -- SO WHAT????? In his dealings with you he was a jerk.

 

And finally, and most important of all, if you are NOT willing to name the guy why did you started all this hubbub????? Give us the god damn name so we can avoid the guy!!!!!

[Calypso]

I don't think he'll name names.

Someone who is treated badly, not indifferently, but badly ("He was never nice to me") for an entire evening to the point where he wants to take to bed and cry over is clearly in love, sad to say (and who hasn't been there at sometime?). I'm sure their have been e-mails exchanged since and it was all a misunderstanding and what a fantabulous time we had. Yep, what a beauuutiful jacket that was. So it WAS new!

 

Me, I'm moving on~~~~~

[Muscle Lover]

TRAVELLER -listen to the guys here. It's the escort you hired who is the JERK - not you.

And you asked for suggestions : Get together with RICKY STARR soon

(a) 100% professional (2) great personality (3) great muscular body

(4) Loves to hug and kisses for hours.

 

Go over to muscleservice.com and reaad his reviews.

 

Quit kicking yourself and HAVE FUN

[+ Lucky]

RE: Un Necessary

 

Although the curiosity over the name of the escort here is understandable, why can't Ocean Traveller just use this board to express his frustration over the situation without being clobbered over the head?

[Calypso]

RE: Un Necessary

 

Me, back again~~~

 

Because anyone that thoughtfully prepares for an escort, pays an overnight fee, tries to do his best to make the escort "comfortable" with him, and is treated in such a manner by this "current top-rated" escort, and then blames himself, deserves a good clobbering.

 

 

Over and OUT

[+ Lucky]

RE: Un Necessary

 

Which only proves that anyone who says anything negative about an escort here gets a clobbering! Even if he doesn't name the guy!

 

How many of these guys demanding his name so they won't hire him would actually in fact ever hire him? OT lives in the Dallas area...I certainly don't plan to hire any escorts there. I don't need this guy's name.

[Rick Munroe]

>(a) 100% professional (2) great personality (3) great

>muscular body

>(4) Loves to hug and kisses for hours.

 

I dig that crazy new numbering system: a, 2, 3, 4. It's kind of catchy, although personally I prefer: 1, b, c, d.

[+ ArVaGuy]

RE: Un Necessary

 

>Which only proves that anyone who says anything negative

>about an escort here gets a clobbering! Even if he doesn't

>name the guy!

>

>How many of these guys demanding his name so they won't hire

>him would actually in fact ever hire him? OT lives in the

>Dallas area...I certainly don't plan to hire any escorts

>there. I don't need this guy's name.

 

Lucky, I travel to Dallas somewhat frequently for business. I've hired on those occasions. During one trip I hired a guy named Anthony that turned out to be one of the worst guys I have ever hired of late. I submitted a review to that effect. To presume that others would not have need to know the escort's name is incorrect on your part. Also, OT could have been on travel when he hired this guy, his original post is unclear where the session took place.

 

 

OT should submit a reivew of the guy. The escort then has the opportunity to refute the charge formally with a response. That's it for the formal part of the process. THEN we can have the usual storm of controversy about the client's mistakes and the escort's usually inappropriate response. Negative reviews are much harder to write than positive ones and that might be OT's issue.

 

Does OT need to name the guy in his post? Likely not since it would lead to the "who said what" fights that are always so productive around here. However, it would be helpful to his fellow clients if OT would submit a review through the formal process. Readers can then judge for themselves.

 

I do most of my hiring while on travel and I am sure a significant number of others who use these type of sites do as well. The escort could also be one of the many well known traveling guys who makes a circuit. When I do hire in the DC market it's the traveling guys. (Which means I have some decions to make about September and October based on the travel notices posted. Hmmmmm.)

 

Therefore a review would be the most productive way of informing everyone about this particular guy. But ultimately that's up to Ocean Travler to decide if he's comfortable with that process.

[Calypso]

RE: Un Necessary

 

>Which only proves that anyone who says anything negative

>about an escort here gets a clobbering! Even if he doesn't

>name the guy!

 

You, my friend, are loony-tunes.

 

The clobbering is for not naming the escort when he had, what I believe was truthfully, given his account of how shabbily he was treated.

 

On this board.

 

An ESCORT REVIEW board.

 

 

(Beware, my fellow Dallas residents, there is at least one top-rated escort who IS better than you and me - and "multitasks".)

[menrus]

OCEAN, you magnificent stud :

If you live here in the Dallas area you have two great opportunities for top quality men with muscle ---

TRENT FOSTERS - he's in Dallas seeing clients every 1 to 2 months.

Excellent reviews. check him out at trentfosters.com He stays in the Oaklawn area when in town

RICKY STARR - as the other poster mentioned above you just can't do any better. I've NEVER read a bad review of Mr. Starr. IMHO at this time he is EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED. Also stays in the Oaklawn area and he will be here next weekend( I can't wait).

[Gogo_Lover7]

Wow! Well OT, I'm new to the group and just wanted to kick in my 2 cents. Please try not to feel bad. You didn't do anything wrong, and you sound like a very nice, thoughtful, beautiful person. One of the members, suggested you might be in love with the guy. I wondered if he might have hit on something there, which would explain why you're reluctant to divulge his name? I personally don't need to know the guy's name, but I noticed that several members who have been posting for years would like it, so here's a humble suggestion from a newbie:

If you're uncomfortable posting the name here, I wonder if you'd feel a little more comfortable sending a private email to those members who would like to know.

 

Anyway, it looks like you've gotten a lot of love and support from everyone, even if some of it falls into the "tough love" category and I hope you take some of the good suggestions you've gotten here, have some fun soon and forget all about your bad experience. And I'd just like to second Lucky's motion to not "clobber you over the head" whether you decide you can post the name or not. Peace, love and understanding!

[augustman]

Having been in OT's shoes I would say it is not a love situation, but one where as a client you have put a lot of effort into setting up the perfect situation that should not fail, but it did. The money and time was bad enough but the fantasy build up just doubled the pain. We all have expectations and even in the best of situations sometimes for whatever reason it does not click. In this case the not clicking was further complicated by the escorts lack of effort to make the situation right.

 

This is why we as clients sometimes need to take a step back figure exactly what it is we are looking for, if it is just sex and lust well most guys will do as long as they do not cop an attitude. And this is where we as the client must be clear and expect the physicalness of the deal. However, if we are looking for a little more, maybe to fill the void of loneliness or intimacy (as happens in my case at times) or therapy. This we have to be careful about that is where reviews and conversation with the guy is necessary.

 

It would appear in this case the escort just closed off all personal contact and simply was going to be a hired hand and no intention of interacting with the client. That said there are still plenty of great guys out there who will fill the bill and do need the red carpet treatment.

[BgMstr4u]

RE: Un Necessary

 

A couple of days ago I wrote a long and witty (or so I thought) reply to this, making the point that escorts should adhere to a code of manners. It got lost somehow, but it boiled down to 3 rules:

 

1) Turn off and put away all your communication gadgets. It is you that the client has hired, so take down the barriers.

2) Pay attention to your client. Listen to him, his life, his desires.

3) Make sure that he Has A Good Time, in every sense of the word.

 

This wretched excuse for an escort screwed our friend OT on all 3. Shame on him. May he and others live and learn and improve.