Open to all body types

[sfguy72]

Hey guys,

 

I’m a big guy, so typically when looking for a new provider I naturally gravitate to those who specify in the post that they welcome “all body types”. However, those are not very common and there are masseurs that I’m interested in who do not include this. In these cases I will ask up front if they are open to working with larger sized clients and gauge from their response.

 

Sometimes I get back a positive response and book accordingly, other times a very carefully worded lukewarm reaction and I decide to pass. Ive never had anyone blatantly reply negatively, but occasionally get no reply....which I consider a “no” response.

 

I’ve found for me this helps to avoid awkward or uncomfortable situations. The pros have seen it all and understand that part of the job is accepting different people. Those that assume all clients should fit their preference are in the wrong business. Many men (esp “hot” gay men) being unattracted to overweight people is to be expected...believe me, I get that. I’m not saying they need to change their ideas of what they consider attractive, but maybe rethink your career choice.

 

I’ve been very pleasantly surprised with masseurs who have been welcoming and kind, and who didn’t at all make me feel different. On the flip side I have experienced those who I just felt were not into it...going through the paces for a buck.

 

I would not just take a gamble and just hope for a good vibe. Being up front gives the provider an opportunity to bow out gracefully and saves me the money and my dignity in the process.

 

Curious how others handle this?

[+ FrankR]

Hey guys,

 

I’m a big guy, so typically when looking for a new provider I naturally gravitate to those who specify in the post that they welcome “all body types”. However, those are not very common and there are masseurs that I’m interested in who do not include this. In these cases I will ask up front if they are open to working with larger sized clients and gauge from their response.

 

Sometimes I get back a positive response and book accordingly, other times a very carefully worded lukewarm reaction and I decide to pass. Ive never had anyone blatantly reply negatively, but occasionally get no reply....which I consider a “no” response.

 

I’ve found for me this helps to avoid awkward or uncomfortable situations. The pros have seen it all and understand that part of the job is accepting different people. Those that assume all clients should fit their preference are in the wrong business. Many men (esp “hot” gay men) being unattracted to overweight people is to be expected...believe me, I get that. I’m not saying they need to change their ideas of what they consider attractive, but maybe rethink your career choice.

 

I’ve been very pleasantly surprised with masseurs who have been welcoming and kind, and who didn’t at all make me feel different. On the flip side I have experienced those who I just felt were not into it...going through the paces for a buck.

 

I would not just take a gamble and just hope for a good vibe. Being up front gives the provider an opportunity to bow out gracefully and saves me the money and my dignity in the process.

 

Curious how others handle this?

In my experience the reaction you can expect depends on whether the masseur is truly professional. Most guys on these sites are not doing it because it is their career. They are doing it to make some money, perhaps to tie them over until they can move on to something else. The rate of turnover (comings and goings) should support my position. A true professional is ready for all types. The others are not.

 

It is odd, I have the opposite problem. I have always been a skinny runt! I live in fear that the guy will turn to me and say: 'Dude, you are all skin and bone; there is not enough for me to work with!!!'

[+ sync]

In my experience the reaction you can expect depends on whether the masseur is truly professional. Most guys on these sites are not doing it because it is their career. They are doing it to make some money, perhaps to tie them over until they can move on to something else. The rate of turnover (comings and goings) should support my position. A true professional is ready for all types. The others are not.

 

It is odd, I have the opposite problem. I have always been a skinny runt! I live in fear that the guy will turn to me and say: 'Dude, you are all skin and bone; there is not enough for me to work with!!!'

 

The grass is always greener over there. If I had your build, I would change my mailing address to Golden Corral.

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[sfguy72]

In my experience the reaction you can expect depends on whether the masseur is truly professional. Most guys on these sites are not doing it because it is their career. They are doing it to make some money, perhaps to tie them over until they can move on to something else. The rate of turnover (comings and goings) should support my position. A true professional is ready for all types. The others are not.

 

It is odd, I have the opposite problem. I have always been a skinny runt! I live in fear that the guy will turn to me and say: 'Dude, you are all skin and bone; there is not enough for me to work with!!!'

 

Thanks for sharing this. Glad you can relate but for different reasons. Couldn’t agree with you more on your perspective about professional masseurs.

[+ Kman]

Hey guys,

 

I’m a big guy, so typically when looking for a new provider I naturally gravitate to those who specify in the post that they welcome “all body types”. However, those are not very common and there are masseurs that I’m interested in who do not include this. In these cases I will ask up front if they are open to working with larger sized clients and gauge from their response.

 

Sometimes I get back a positive response and book accordingly, other times a very carefully worded lukewarm reaction and I decide to pass. Ive never had anyone blatantly reply negatively, but occasionally get no reply....which I consider a “no” response.

 

I’ve found for me this helps to avoid awkward or uncomfortable situations. The pros have seen it all and understand that part of the job is accepting different people. Those that assume all clients should fit their preference are in the wrong business. Many men (esp “hot” gay men) being unattracted to overweight people is to be expected...believe me, I get that. I’m not saying they need to change their ideas of what they consider attractive, but maybe rethink your career choice.

 

I’ve been very pleasantly surprised with masseurs who have been welcoming and kind, and who didn’t at all make me feel different. On the flip side I have experienced those who I just felt were not into it...going through the paces for a buck.

 

I would not just take a gamble and just hope for a good vibe. Being up front gives the provider an opportunity to bow out gracefully and saves me the money and my dignity in the process.

 

Curious how others handle this?

 

I am a big as well and I used to not disclose that info to masseurs or escorts. And I wouldn't respond if they asked for my height and weight.

 

And now I inform my potential hires of my size because I would hate to have a masseur or escort not really put any effort into what they are doing...also a masseur told me he asks for peoples weight because his table had a weight limit so there is that possibility even though I've never heard that from any other masseur.

[sfguy72]

I am a big as well and I used to not disclose that info to masseurs or escorts. And I wouldn't respond if they asked for my height and weight.

 

And now I inform my potential hires of my size because I would hate to have a masseur or escort not really put any effort into what they are doing...also a masseur told me he asks for peoples weight because his table had a weight limit so there is that possibility even though I've never heard that from any other masseur.

 

I’ve assumed that the table weight limit question was either a signal that it’s a crafty way to filter out fatties or that the provider has a cheap table. lol

 

Just yesterday had a masseur ask for pics in order to discuss the content of the session. I said thanks but no thanks. I don’t need to subject myself to that scrutiny if I also have to shell out a significant amount of money. This was from MF, not a dating site for Pete’s sake.

[IntuitiveTactile]

weight because his table had a weight limit so there is that possibility even though I've never heard that from any other masseur.

 

I've had my table break in the past from a very large client.

Although I never ask weight before I see a client. My current table can handle static weight of 1000 lbs.

However there are some tables that handle half that in static weight and a little less in working weight. So I can understand why some may inquire.

 

That being said, it really shouldn't be necessary to ask, as most good tables are affordable and are capable of holding plenty of weight.

Edited August 12, 2018 by IntuitiveTactile

[+ HornyRetiree]

 

That being said, shouldn't be necessary as most good tables are capable of holding a lot.

 

Good tables hold two:) and I weigh 250# -- with Masseur on too, that means 400-425# ACTIVE weight:):)

[sfguy72]

I've had my table break in the past from a very large client.

 

Yikes that’s awkward! . Lol. My worst nightmare....

 

Just saw a masseur who was doing a technique and standing on my back. He was holding himself up on bars but at one point said he had his full weight on me. I did a rough calculation and our combined weight was around 430#. I thought to myself at the time I was glad the table was sturdy.

Edited August 13, 2018 by sfguy72

[IntuitiveTactile]

combined weight was around 430#.

That's not a lot of weight.

I don't understand why you say you're a big guy.

Two grown men at 200 each is perfectly acceptable and nowhere near big or table breaking capacity

[sfguy72]

That's not a lot of weight.

I don't understand why you say you're a big guy.

Two grown men at 200 each is perfectly acceptable and nowhere near big or table breaking capacity

 

Well, I am recently down about 60# since the beginning of the year...and he is pretty slender. Also, I’m 6’3”.

 

Where do you practice? Maybe I’ll come see you...lol

[+ sniper]

There are some tables that have a 450 lb weight limit. So if 2 200lb guys are on it yes the table can support it, but if they are "moving" with any degree of vigor, the table will at times be subjected to more than 400 lbs of force and there is risk.

[IntuitiveTactile]

450 lb weight limit.

A masseur that decides to get on top of a table that has such a low weight limit is foolish. Unless both client and masseur are twinks, most men should be able to guauge approximate weight of the two of you.

Edited August 13, 2018 by IntuitiveTactile

[Ajac]

I've had my table break in the past from a very large client.

Although I never ask weight before I see a client. My current table can handle static weight of 1000 lbs.

However there are some tables that handle half that in static weight and a little less in working weight. So I can understand why some may inquire.

 

That being said, it really shouldn't be necessary to ask, as most good tables are affordable and are capable of holding plenty of weight.

I am so glad your table is sturdy enough to hold the weight of both of us. hope to visit again soon.

[+ honcho]

Well, I am recently down about 60# since the beginning of the year...and he is pretty slender. Also, I’m 6’3”.

 

Where do you practice? Maybe I’ll come see you...lol

 

If you click on his name to bring up a summary of his profile, it says right there he practices in the San Fernando Valley (Los Angeles CA area).

[IntuitiveTactile]

If you click on his name to bring up a summary of his profile, it says right there he practices in the San Fernando Valley (Los Angeles CA area).

Thx Honcho

I responded via Private message to him

[IntuitiveTactile]

I am so glad your table is sturdy enough to hold the weight of both of us. hope to visit again soon.

 

My Master Massage table awaits, amigo

[sfguy72]

Hello again men!

 

Had to share my latest experience/response from a masseur. Contacted Ron in SF (https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/1260/) and asked about availability. First response was welcoming saying he’d love to work on me. When I provided my usual disclosure about my size and asking if he’s welcoming of different body types, I received some lame passive aggressive response that he’s nursing a hand injury and it’s difficult for him to work on “bigger guys” right now and has to work lighter than normal until he is fully healed.

 

Hmm...maybe I like lighter pressure anyway (I don’t but that’s not the point...lol). A hand injury recovery as a masseur that inhibits one’s ability to perform as normal might have been something to disclose up front, not after someone tells you their size. Gotta call BS on that one.

 

Message received. Pass, and move on. My method worked as usual to filter out these guys and save me the time, trouble, and money.

Edited September 3, 2018 by sfguy72