Craigslist Questions

[+ Hoover42]

There have been many postings here about Craigslist, and I'm finally considering using the local Craigslist to make a connection.

 

I don't have much experience with classified ads and the like, so I I thought I'd check with any experts available here to get some advice about how to begin.

 

1. Should I just look though the existing ads and try to find someone interesting, or might I have better luck posting my own ad asking specifically for what I want?

 

2. Should I request a photo before agreeing to meet anyone? I can think of plenty of reasons why this would be both a bad and a good idea.

 

3. Are certain times of day or certain days of week more likely to be successful? I would guess the last weekend of the month would be best, at least for paid connections.

 

4. How much lead time should I provide before making a connection? Should I plan days ahead or wait until the hour I'm ready to hire? I see tons of ads (for freebies) on CL asking for immediate hookups ("Hot Jock available for NOW!").

 

Thanks!

 

...Hoover

[JamesK840]

First off, since there's always someone:

http://www.craigslist.org

--Note this defaults to San Fransisco, CHOOSE YOUR CITY ON THE RIGHT, EVERY TIME (or bookmark your city, but remember if you're someplace else it's defaulted back to SFO!).

 

>There have been many postings here about Craigslist, and I'm

>finally considering using the local Craigslist to make a

>connection.

 

 

About time! }(

 

>I don't have much experience with classified ads and the like,

>so I I thought I'd check with any experts available here to

>get some advice about how to begin.

>

>1. Should I just look though the existing ads and try to find

>someone interesting, or might I have better luck posting my

>own ad asking specifically for what I want?

 

You should certainly get a feel for the place before you dive right in, I'm not sure which community you're about to dip your toe in, but there's a night and day difference between SFO and Boise. Also be sure to avoid the newbie mistake of posting in the wrong city, it'll just make you depressed about what could have been...

 

 

>2. Should I request a photo before agreeing to meet anyone? I

>can think of plenty of reasons why this would be both a bad

>and a good idea.

 

At some point, especially with the damn 'pic' icon in posts, pictures are going to have to be exchanged. This is really too bad because I think under the old system more people actually had fun, instead of waiting for their 'at least a 7.5 out of ten'. You shouldn't require a pic to start a conversation and you're probably better off avoiding posts that require on of you. Probably a good idea to exchange them before meeting up though.

 

Even with the pics, some are fake and sometimes you'll get a feeling that one's just wrong, the tint of the film or a hairstyle will date it from the early 80s, the picture will be composed or cropped in such a way to hide at much as possible... If you get the idea somebody's picture is just there so they can say then sent (or posted) a picture, it's worth LESS then no pic at all.

 

For your pic, try and find a flattering shot of you with friends, fully clothed, that's recent. This is the picture you send if somebody asks. (It shouldn't show your friends.) If you have a nice body or endowment maybe also get RECENT pictures of them, crop out your head (or distinctive tattoo, etc) from this picture and maybe use this as a public picture. That's all if you're trying to be kinda discreet, if not, go for it. Just remember once it's out there, it's always out there.

 

 

>3. Are certain times of day or certain days of week more

>likely to be successful? I would guess the last weekend of the

>month would be best, at least for paid connections.

 

Of course! Weekends/evenings are generally best all around, the later it is the more desperate the selection. As for hiring, you can post anytime and with the right words in your post (and if luckily you don't have a local queenie schoolmarm who's life is flagging inappropriate posts--always flag their endless whining as 'OFF TOPIC') working bois will find you. In to-hire posts you should describe yourself, what you want, where you're at, maybe what you're willing to spend. They'll send pics and any counter offers. Words to include / search for: generou generous (stupid search system, trust me on that) donation donations avail rent massage cash money massage massages --those are for the m4m/casual encounters sections. For erotic services: m4m jock stud boi boy male escort.

 

Just remember, same as rentboy, AOL Chat, corner of SMB and Orange, you are talking about the escort's time, unrelated to whatever you both may happen to enjoy sexually or anything occurring among consenting adults.

 

 

>4. How much lead time should I provide before making a

>connection? Should I plan days ahead or wait until the hour

>I'm ready to hire? I see tons of ads (for freebies) on CL

>asking for immediate hookups ("Hot Jock available for NOW!").

 

Generally the connections that take longer then a couple days to set up are just somebody's cheaper but much more boring version of phone sex (I don't bother writing out explicit details for this reason). The ones for right fucking now can be trouble too. Aim for the guys looking for 'this afternoon' or something like.

 

Remember, it's a fun place to hire but also to find free hookups. Be honest in your postings, maybe a bit creative and kinky, and you'll get offers you'd never have expected!

 

 

BE SAFE OUT THERE. Avoid the guys talking about Tina, Snow, etc, even if they'll make your day for just a spec of the crap... you don't want what they have, whether it's a disease or handcuffs.

 

 

>Thanks!

>

>...Hoover

 

You're welcome!

[seattlebottom]

I had two cool experiences last year with the San Francisco Craig's List. I hired one guy for $150 and another for $80 (yes, I did tip both well!!)...both showed up on time for our respective appointments, both were clean, sober and hung and both were concerned that I was having a good time. On the other hand, I hired a well reviewed escort from here for $250 who set up so many conditions for our meeting (no kissing, "conditional" anal, etc) that it felt more like a bank transaction rather than the pleasure that it should have been.

 

Like anything else in life, be cautious about who you correspond with and always listen to your instincts and not your penis.

[+ Hoover42]

James comes through! Thank you so much!

 

...Hoover

[+ glutes]

RE: Craigslist Advice (from escort)

 

After reading some unsavory reviews here on Craigslist (still a GREAT site!), I feel compelled, as an escort myself, to provide some basic tips on selecting a companion for a GOOD experience. Take it for what it is worth, guys...some people are pretty uninformed.

 

TIP #1: YOU GET WHAT YOU PAY FOR

Rates vary, of course--so does quality. Some escorts/masseurs offer Specials if things are quiet. Feel free to ask but do not consider this the norm. Would you like a Pinto or a Mercedes? If you are a 'bargain shopper,' quality is not yours for the taking (again, some are still a great "value"). The transaction is truly about "connection." If you are willing to pay only $50.00 of your hard-earned cash, please expect a hell-bent thug at your door to cause you misery. If you are expecting a former Titan or Falcon pornstar, expect to pay a tidy sum.

 

TIP #2: ASK FOR PICTURES

You are, in no way, obligated to send us YOUR pictures. A description of you and your needs is always nice. This enables professionals to see if WE can meet YOUR needs. If the escorts/masseurs do not have pictures, you are taking it upon yourself to be disappointed. Ask any pertinent questions as well (stats, availability, rates, health status).

 

TIP #3: DO NOT WASTE OUR/YOUR TIME

Treat your interaction like a professional business transaction. One word sentences/inquiries are not courteous and set the tone of the transaction off poorly. Curiousity seekers need to find a better way in which to fill their time. If their rates are beyond what you are willing to pay, say so, and ask to be notified if they have lower rates during slower periods perhaps. In other words, do NOT go to the car lot, unless you are serious about buying.

 

TIP #4: SAFETY

It often amazes me how at the end of the meeting, a man will whip out his wallet to pay for services rendered. Wherever you decide to meet, do NOT bring your wallet---just bring the money agreed upon! If extra time might be involved, you may buffer that sum. In most instances, credit cards, your driver's license, and your cherished family photos have NO place around this meeting. Your cell phone as well (which has a location indicator) should be left in your car or hidden. This advice is especially good if you plan a 'quick shower' afterwards...you can imagine your money gone RIGHT NOW as you bathe with your rubber ducky.

 

TIP #5: "MASSAGE"

There are many very qualified individuals on here offering massage. These men are Certified Massage Therapists. Others, too, are gifted with touch and rubdowns--BIG difference. Ask which they are and KNOW which you want. If a provider does not ask you about your physical conditions (tender spots, recent diseases/conditions, prior bodily injuries, or your current needs), they are NOT professionals. Do you want them messing your body up even more??

Some escorts provide soothing erotic touch and will be honest about their training and experience. This can lead to other happy adventures afterwards but understand they are NOT trained, per se, in this specialized field.

 

Continue the reviews (Good AND Bad) on this site. Protect your "brothers." Be a wise consumer as you shop the postings. And, as always, be careful and safe!!

[raife]

RE: Craigslist Advice (from escort)

 

Speaking for myself, I've had delightful success with the Los Angeles Craigslist. I've honed it down to an art, with a few "custom" types of response e-mails for the different types of guys I'm interested in.

 

I'll do 2 or 3 rounds of e-mail, trying to find out if they kiss/go down and do fetishes (my big interest here), money afterwards and no upcharges (I note these are instant disqualifiers...) then switch to phone. This weeds out the tweakers and the fakes.

 

I've met 6 excellent guys and 4 so-so guys with no stinkers in the last two months with followup dates for 3 of the best, an excellent track record if I do say so myself.

 

Thing is, I'm most interested in a regular weekly thing... Matt, my current regular is getting ready to move to Texas, so I'm shopping for a new weekly guy... I'm going to have the damnest time making up my mind, a nice problem to have

 

Here's to Virtual Boyfriends! :-)