Trying to decide

[pierrot]

I'm trying to decide whether to cancel an appointment I've made with an escort. The guy is hot, and has done porn flix, but has no reviews here. I was very positive about it at first, then get a message from him that he wanted to be paid upfront. He also only communicates by e-mail, no phone.

What do you think? Is this bound to be a disappointment or should I give him at try?

[Epigonos]

Think with the head on your shoulders -- CANCEL!!!!!

[+ Charlie]

It depends on what "being paid upfront" means. If it means that he wants the money before the appointment, then cancel.

[Boston Guy]

1. Are you in an area where there are other escorts you would just as soon hire? Or is this the only guy around?

 

2. Would it bother you immensely if you paid him upfront and the session turned out to be a dud? Or would you just chalk it up to experience and forget it?

 

3. Is this the only escort experience you're likely to have for a while? Or just an amusement along the way?

 

4. Are you a risk-taker? Or someone who is more of a planner and more risk-averse than not?

 

5. Is the amount of money you are considering paying the escort important to you? Or is it inconsequential?

 

6. Why did you choose this guy originally? Why do you continue to be interested in him even after your concerns are great enough to write here and ask others if you should cancel? What about the guy is attractive enough that you are at least willing to considering going forward despite your stated concerns?

 

Once you've answered these questions (to yourself; you don't have to do it here), you'll have a better understanding of how you see the whole situation and whether it's a good idea to cancel or continue.

 

Just remember that the best-laid plans can lead to an unhappy end, just as a risky situation can sometimes lead to something terrific.

 

As for me, I don't hire guys who want payment in advance. I would never, ever send money to someone in advance of meeting for a short appointment (I assume we're talking about a short appointment). If someone I was interested in said that they wanted payment upfront, I would give them the choice of cancelling or receiving payment at the end.

 

If, on the other hand, you are considering hiring someone for a longer period of time or from outside your area, then the situation changes a little. If that's the case, you might want to fill in a few more details. You might also want to name the guy. No reviews doesn't always equal no knowledge of the guy.

 

Good luck.

BG

[imrthr]

Boston Guy, your response to this subject was extremely analytical and excellent. However, I would like to add one more thought to what you so eloquently wrote, which is:

 

That fact that the guy does not furnish a telephone number and he communicates only by internet is, in itself, suspicious or unusual. What assurance does the poster have that he is really communicating with the real escort he has in mind. It could be a scam merely to obtain money. This is just something else to consider.

[+ Cock Eyed Optimist]

When all is done and decided, let us know the outcome.

[Lookin]

I think it comes down to trust, and how you feel about it.

 

Basically, he’s said he doesn’t trust you - not you personally, most likely, but new clients in general. And my experience has been that people who don’t trust others are often untrustworthy themselves.

 

Trust is important to me, so I would probably pass on him. Others might find it a turn-on to be in a situation that could go any which way.

 

I think it depends on how important trust is to you - not him.

[+ deej]

Excellent point, Charlie.

 

If all he wants is the equivalent of seeing the money at the start of the session, it's not a bad situation. Certainly manageable.

 

If he wants the money via PayPal (for example) before meeting, CANCEL!

[JT Brooklyn]

pierrot. Unless you have said something or Requested "Strange Interest's" in your email,"Paying First" is never a good sign!

 

There are Guy's I have only contacted thru email, and Our Hang time was Great! The Cell# is Good though, IF a last minute Cancellation comes up?

 

I'm sure this Guy is Experienced, so Newbie Jitter's he doesn't have, So Buyer Beware! :P

[jawjateck]

cancel!

[CT Dick]

I'm agreeing with most of the other posters: cancel.

 

First is the money issue. I concur with the previous posts.

 

Second, a phone number is important to me. What if one of us needs to cancel at the last minute (illness, car trouble, family emergency, etc)? What if the one traveling gets lost or can't find the address?

 

Of the two disappointments you may face, canceling the meeting lets you keep the fantasy of a hot date and you can enjoy his DVD's in the future. The second option of an expensive and unsatisfying date is worth avoiding. x(

 

Dick