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Fortune cookies... Congratulations. Here is my honest-to-God true Fortune Cookie story. I was still in the early stages of coming out. I was sitting in a Chinese Restaurant, opened my fortune cookie, and it said "You will meet somebody very gay." I took courage from this and, for the first time, went by myself to a gay bar that night. I met somebody at the bar, went home with him, and we conducted a hot affair for the next several months. He was about ten years old than me (I was 25 at the time - this was the late 1970s), and he became my sexual teacher - including teaching me how to enjoy anal sex as a bottom, something I had not been able to master up to then. Although our affair ended when I moved to a different city to take up a job offer I had, we remained in touch over the years and visited back and forth a few times, until he passed away a few years ago.

wide hips Yeah!! Better to wrap his sturdy thighs around my neck as I slurp...

Had my first colonoscopy a year ago, then age 55. (Recommended to have it done at 50 - I'm a procrastinator.) The only difficult part of the thing is the preparation, and if you've got an experienced specialist doing it, you talk it over with him and get a prescription for the stuff that doesn't taste so bad - it comes in all different flavors. The stuff I had was a fruity flavor and the first few glasses weren't off-putting - but you have to drink so much of it over a rather short period of time that after a while you start to detest it... at any rate, you do have to thoroughly clean your system, otherwise it is hard for the doc to spot some of the polyps they would be looking for. On mine, the doc found and removed three polyps, and told me to come back for a repeat in three years. If they find growths, even though benign, they want to do a follow-up. From my reading, it pays to have a really experienced person who specializes in this kind of thing to do your colonoscopy - the odds of detecting and taking care of problems greatly increases if you have somebody who really knows what they are doing. And I was very satisfied with my doc and anesthesiologist. My general practitioner knows that as a gay man I would prefer to have a gay man explore my innards, so she recommended one of the most experienced gay specialists in NY on this procedure: Dr. Paulo Pacheco. I found him pleasant, informative, thorough. He prefers general anesthesia, so you sleep through the entire procedure and never feel a thing. This was a piece of cake compared to the two prostate biopsies I've endured... but that's another story entirely. By the way, Pacheco is also an authority - author of a respected book -- on how to cope with heartburn, just in case that's your problem.

My experience was long enough ago that it might not be exactly current... My impression was that he was basically straight and most interested in muscle worship. He gave a kind of rough massage, and was willing to top me, although he did not strike me as well practiced at that. He likes to wrestle about and play the tough guy, and even slapped me on the face (which I thought was pretty hot in the context of our scene). I found it a moderately satisfactory session but was not motivated to repeat with him, especially since he's on the pricey side.

I hired him once about a year or so ago. The stomach in the picture is real!! Tight, hard, smooth, ripped, corded.... Wow!

Somehow, from my earliest adolescence when I started jerking off, I figured out that pressure on my gut heightened the experience... just a small step to fantasizing having somebody work my gut as an erotic turn-on. Don't know where it came from, and I've never been a boxing fan.

No, not me. The one time a guy tried to start using a violet wand on me, I freaked totally and put a stop to it... Although now I wish I'd stuck it out a bit longer. My experience has convinced me that anything that's not doing permanent damage can end up being pleasurable if you give it enough of a chance....

Perhaps, but I doubt it. Apart from the gutpunching stuff, I think I was pretty "mainstream" if such a word can possibly be used in connection with bondage/SM! But I wish Reece hadn't retired.... Nobody out there doing this kind of escorting work in NYC has quite his overwhelmingly sensuous appeal when it comes to this stuff! By the way, some online exploration led me to youtube.com where several people have posted some real hot gutpunching videoclips... Including one guy out on Long Island who has begun documenting his exploration of this fetish... He goes out into the woods with a friend, positions the videocam, lies down and has his friend go to work. The only problem is a slight sound delay - so you see the fist connect and then a second later you hear the punch. But it's still hot to watch.

I definitely share this fetish... Both punching and taking punches (although the latter can quickly become too much for me). Back in the day, I hooked up with Devon a few times and we did the gutpunching thing - he was unbelievable in terms of the kind of punishment he could absorb to his gut. Just the tightest, hardest abs you could imagine. Another experience I fondly remember is Reece Rothmeier, now retired, bondage/SM master of NY. I wanted him to work some gp into a bondage scene, and he did a fine job with a bright red boxing glove. For some reason, he had only one glove (:-) but that worked out just fine. The problem was that I guess few clients had ever asked him to do it and he was a bit nervous about causing damage, so as soon as I verbalized some pain he stopped - that's the time to keep on, just a bit lighter and working up the force gradually.... Mike Grey in NYC (and sometime traveller). Mike's got fantastic abs and can be into receiving at times. He was a reluctant puncher, however... but did a great job of applying gut pressure during a scene... The important thing is to verbalize your desires with your escort, and to remember that if you don't exercse and work your abs regularly to attain good control, you can set yourself up for serious injury as a punch receiver ;(

Yeah, there's always something new to learn and experience. When you think you've heard and seen it all, somebody comes up with some new kink. Keeps life interesting!

GREAT bedside manner, doc! }(

But if you're doing it with a guy who knows how to use his hands, feet, tongue -- entire body -- to stimulate you, pure touch while blindfolded can be incredibly sensual. Now just laying back with a blindfold and some guy jerking on my dick and nothing else happening would probably not be so much fun -- from the sheer boredom of the repetitiousness. But working in milking activity with other stimuli would really be terrific.... maybe even some hot wax, tit clamps, clothes pins -- uh, oh, it's starting to sound more and more like the fetish forum Before you know it, I'll be introducing flogging into the fantasy and turning it into a totally different fantasy. But visuals can be great, too - now you've got me thinking about multiple fantasies!

Yeah, this is also one of my fantasies. To find some very skilled guy to blindfold me, tie me down spreadeagle, and go to work milking me for, say, about 45 minutes... So who do you have to hire in NYC to have this experience fulfilled? Has anybody had experience with an escort who knows how to provide this service?}(

Actually, I think it is very rare for a guy to hire himself out as a bondage/SM bottom, although of the handful of bondage escorts I've hired in the past, the best have been guys who later told me that during their "learning phase" they had considerable experience as bottoms. If a guy's livelihood is renting out his body, he has to take care not to damage it in ways that could endanger that livelihood, and I think getting tied up and worked over might put an escort out of commission. Perhaps more importantly, as another thread in "Ask the Escort" today pointed out, even an escort who enjoyed being an SM bottom would justifiably be leery of agreeing to be tied up and played with by a new customer! You are really putting yourself at somebody else's mercy, and no knowing what might happen with a stranger. Actually, when I think back to that first scene I had with Master Victor, I'm stunned to think that I actually did it. The pent up need in me must have been quite overwhelming by the time I hired him. But the fantasy we enacted really required extraordinary trust on my part, and I was doing it without having met the man, just reading his website, a handful of reviews on this site, and lots of email plus a few phone conversations. I guess that's where this site is so valuable. After reading his first few reviews and talking with him, I concluded he was somebody who could be trusted to thrill a novice bottom without inflicting permanent injury. He's a man who respects limits and is pretty intuitive about figuring out what they are, even without being told directly, which is what you wanted in an SM top. I guess I'm talking myself into booking another session with him, but the prior comments about Adam Faust and his reviews have certain piqued my interest... The limitation there is he only does bondage/SM and fisting but does not get into sex with clients. Master Victor is very well hung and knows how to lay pipe....

Master Victor is definitely an acquired taste... which I have acquired. The first time with him, I wanted to pursue a total fantasy that involved not seeing him until the scene was finished, so we arranged for him to unlock the door as I was coming upstairs to his walk-up apartment. When I entered, he would be hidden from view in the darkened room, give me various commands and blindfold me from behind to get the scene under way. We had plotted that part of it out through detailed email exchange and phone calls, leaving the following steps to his devising after I had explained the various fantasies I had. The result was an incredibly hot session that could never be repeated, of course, because at the end the blindfold came off and I saw what he looked like. He is a good looking guy -- better in person than in the pics -- but not if you are only turned on by muscle and darkness - he has a very fair complexion, red hair and is tall and rangy, strong but not hard-muscular. In my experience, Master Victor is an imaginative bondage artist and particularly skilled at flogging....

Yes, thanks, I checked back and saw them.... I had actually tried to set up a session with him once, but it turned out that his "ex" is a good friend of mine and he didn't feel comfortable doing it... and at the time he was using a picture of somebody else in his ads, which is why I hadn't recognized him in the ad. The pics he's using now seem genuine, to the best of my recollection. But I'm hoping guys who read these boards will have things to say about other bondage escorts in the NYC area.

Thanks, but I'm really hoping that guys who have had actual experience with a bondage escort will post here. I don't think Radar's been reviewed. Has anybody actually tried him out and had something to report?

One of the toughest things to find, in my experience, is a bondage escort who meets the following requirements: 1 - Has his own dungeon or access to a play space that is well-equipped and private. Some of the guys well reviewed on this site who are willing to do bondage with some SM say "outcalls only." 2 - Is willing to take the time in advance for a thorough discussion through email, on phone or in person, of what one is looking for in a bondage escort. My experience is that some guys are just not good conversationally. It takes a certain personality to sit a guy down and discuss what their limits are and what their fantasies are in order to construct a satisfying scene. 3 - Has the judgment and imagination to do a terrific bondage scene that is planned out but includes enough spontaneity to be exciting for both parties. This includes the ability to "read" the bottom and figure out what will work and what will not - a combination of intuition and keen powers of observation. I've had some success over the years, but also some strike-outs in terms of finding really good bondage escorts in NYC. The successes have included Master Victor (to whom I go back for a session about once a year) and Reese Rothmeier (who is, unfortunately, no longer escorting). The limitations were that Master Victor's play space is a bit cramped, and Reese's was a bit too sterile. On the other hand, Victor as great at what he does, and so was Reese. Finding guys in that league is rare and lucky. But I don't like to go back to the same guy too frequently, because even the best of bondage escorts may fall into patterns that are too predictable, and for a bondage scene to be maximally rewarding there has to be a certain element of surprise. Does anybody have information to share about who are the good bondage escorts that are worth trying to get an appointment with?

Nice hard smooth biceps connected to big rounded shoulders does it for me, especially when there are some deep hairy pits to be sucked out while that bicep is rubbing on your face.