stevenkesslar

Can I get a rain check for a few months?
 
The Republican National Convention is July, and I figure there's no reason to watch TV that month since it's all gonna be about how we're getting fucked real good.
 
I figured I'd save July for watching porn and jacking off.

If your posts are to be believed, that's no different from what you do the rest of the time.

NO ASSHOLES PLEASE.
 
Those words actually never appeared in anything I ever said or wrote to promote myself as an escort, and yet my policy for 15 years is I have discriminated against assholes when I screen clients who want to hire me.
 
This may shock you, but speaking as an escort it is actually way easier to determine things like race and age than whether somebody is an asshole, and to screen out undesirable clients accordingly.
 
The reason I would never actually state "No Assholes Please" as a policy - even though it is my policy - is that saying so would make me sound tactless and judgmental. Saying "No blacks" is tactless, and arguably racist. If the guy wants to limit his business that way, including business by white guys who are offended by what they will perceive as racist language, I'd say it's a free country, and he can limit his business in any way he chooses.
 
The problem I have with tactlessness is not so much that it makes the person who makes the tactless comment look bad. It's that it makes the subject of his tactlessness feel bad. I've had more than one black escort tell me that saying "no blacks" makes them feel like their skin color is a disease. In my book, reversing it and having escorts who are paid for their services say it to clients is even more tactless.
 
My main point is that it is completely unnecessary. I personally think it's both tactless and ignorant to assume and then state that you won't enjoy having sex with someone just because of the color of their skin. Even if you say, "I tried it, and it's just not a turn on" - I'd still say there are lots of ways for escorts to screen out clients they'd rather not meet without saying "You are fat" or "You are old" or "You are black" or "You are an asshole."
 
Anyway, the nice think about tactlessness is it invites tactlessness, which is kinda fun. I just emailed the asshole and told him I'm white and thought he was the kind of asshole little prick I'd never hire.

NO ASSHOLES PLEASE.
 
Those words actually never appeared in anything I ever said or wrote to promote myself as an escort, and yet my policy for 15 years is I have discriminated against assholes when I screen clients who want to hire me.
 
This may shock you, but speaking as an escort it is actually way easier to determine things like race and age than whether somebody is an asshole, and to screen out undesirable clients accordingly.
 
The reason I would never actually state "No Assholes Please" as a policy - even though it is my policy - is that saying so would make me sound tactless and judgmental. Saying "No blacks" is tactless, and arguably racist. If the guy wants to limit his business that way, including business by white guys who are offended by what they will perceive as racist language, I'd say it's a free country, and he can limit his business in any way he chooses.
 
The problem I have with tactlessness is not so much that it makes the person who makes the tactless comment look bad. It's that it makes the subject of his tactlessness feel bad. I've had more than one black escort tell me that saying "no blacks" makes them feel like their skin color is a disease. In my book, reversing it and having escorts who are paid for their services say it to clients is even more tactless.
 
My main point is that it is completely unnecessary. I personally think it's both tactless and ignorant to assume and then state that you won't enjoy having sex with someone just because of the color of their skin. Even if you say, "I tried it, and it's just not a turn on" - I'd still say there are lots of ways for escorts to screen out clients they'd rather not meet without saying "You are fat" or "You are old" or "You are black" or "You are an asshole."
 
Anyway, the nice think about tactlessness is it invites tactlessness, which is kinda fun. I just emailed the asshole and told him I'm white and thought he was the kind of asshole little prick I'd never hire.

I'll go with your first instinct on this one, BVB. The caveats are I haven't seen the movie, and it sounds like just as a piece of film it sucks - so far it has a 35 score on Metacritic. Assuming what even a harsh critic points to - that the gay Director self-financed, it is a labor of love, and in the end it is a sympathetic portrayal of the plight of Gay youth, plus there's nice eye candy along the way, I wouldn't be too harsh.
 
In some ways, we can be happy that LGBTQ is mainstream enough that we now even get to have shitty movies made about us. And if they focus too much on the pretty but fictional White eye candy, and the eye candy boy turns out to have a sexual preference for other eye candy, is that really a shocker, especially if you assume the Gay guy who made the film might want it to at least break even?
 
One of my favorite picky bitch things to do after I see a "historical"movie is to research whether what it portrays actually happened. The amazing thing about "McFarland USA" is it was almost 100 % accurate, and the details it left out didn't change the narrative, and so can be easily explained away. I didn't like the fact that they fictionalized the white coach's history to make him look like a loser who had no choice but to take a job in a dump hole, when in fact he came to McFarland fresh out of Pepperdine when it was mostly white. It changed around him, and he obviously went with the flow to help young Mexican American kids achieve the American dream - what's wrong with that? "Selma" was tougher, in that a lot of people felt it completely misrepresented both LBJ, and the politics of inside/outside collaboration that made the civil rights movement so effective.
 
In that regard, the LGBTQ movie that really bothered me, and still does, is Dallas Buyer's Club. Here's why:
 
http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonkblog/wp/2013/12/10/what-dallas-buyers-club-got-wrong-about-the-aids-crisis/
 
I get the fact that Hollywood ought to be able to change facts for dramatic effect. So I'll go with the way they turned a Gay protagonist into a straight homophobe who ended up simply be sympathetic to Gay people. And the movie gets credit for humanizing the character Jared Leno won an Oscar for. And I'm all for the fact that Matthew McConaughey viewed it as great Oscar bait.
 
The bridge too far for me is that it turned the FDA into a villain, and that happened to occur right in the middle of the Obamacare debate, when there was a concerted national attempt by the entire Republican Party to convince people that government involvement in health care sucks. Obamacare and AIDS are apples and oranges, but coming from liberal Hollywood, I thought the message sucked. As the Post article above documents, the actual history is that the FDA went after Ron Woodruff because he sold dying people mostly useless crap. Meanwhile, while they were far from perfect, to me the FDA's efforts to fight a deadly plague that came out of nowhere were in large part commendable. The bizarre thing is that the whole movie demonized the FDA and AZT, and then in the closing credits, like an afterthought, it mentioned - oh, guess what? - AZT in an improved form ended up saving millions of lives. Never mind.
 
Unlike the Dallas Buyer's Club, Stonewall won't win Oscars. Hopefully both will open some minds. For me, given the choice between turning Jeremy Irvine into a young God boy, or turning the FDA into a villain, I'll take Jeremy Irvine in a heartbeat, wearing anything - or even nothing at all.

Thanks. But here's a warning to all of you. I actually consider myself a whore.

My actual experience for 15 years suggests the opposite.
 
The anecdote I already posted above says it all. It's just my perceptions, but what you are talking about here is basically whether you can disclose you are imperfect AND come off as self-confident. And you're right, self confidence is sexy.
 
In one case as I described above I felt like a client with a perfectly hard cock that functioned very well was desperate to cover up his lack of confidence in himself due to his age. In another case I felt like a client with a cock he himself described as nonfunctional (regarding erections) was full of self-confidence and fun and relaxing to be with. These were just my perceptions, but what we're talking about here are perceptions of sexiness. Clarity and confidence are not mutually exclusive things.
 
There's at least one poster on this site I have been hired repeatedly by who manages to combine what would clearly be considered an overweight body with a self-confident "that just means there's more of me for you to love, if I let you" attitude. I find that sexy, too.

Yes.
 
Here's one anecdote I can kind of remember from years ago. I showed up at a door of a client who was pretty seriously overweight. He explained to me that he realized at some point it made sense to tell escorts about his weight before they showed up at his door, because several times he had been rejected by escorts who showed up, took a look at him, and said the appointment was not going to work. In some ways I give credit to the escorts, who could have chosen to simply try to stay and rip him off without really providing what the client wanted.
 
To broaden the answer, here's another anecdote. I had a client who was in really good shape for his age - 70's - and liked to pride himself on looking like he was "young 60ish." Having said that, it seemed like he felt compelled to act like a 20-something sexually. He also told me that his expectations for long sessions of flip/flop anal sex so intimidated some well known escorts that they couldn't get erections around him and wouldn't let them hire him, usually after they had tried and failed to meet his expectations (at least by this client's account).
 
During this same period, I recall being hired by a client one night at his hotel who was overweight and could not get an erection due to surgery, but liked to be fucked. He said something like this to me at the start of the session: "Steven, I want you to know that I am not going to get an erection, and you are not going to see me have an orgasm, but I will really enjoy getting fucked by you." He was warm and fun and relaxing to be with, and it was a very fun appointment for me and I think him.
 
I recall thinking at the time that as I age, I hope I age as gracefully and with as much self-acceptance as the second client. And I felt sorry for the first client that he put enough expectations on himself that he often felt let down. And I do mean put expectations on himself, not the escort, because it seemed like at some deep level he really wanted to feel like he was much younger than he actually was.

????

Geez, what made you think I was referring to you? I guess you must have a lot of self-confidence or something. Anyhoo, yes I am lucky.
 
Reading this thread is kind of weird. Somewhere along the way it got reversed. It started as a simple question: should a client disclose he's overweight? I answered yes. At some point it got reinterpreted into sounding like it was a demand on the escort's part.
 
I'll stick with my original yes. I have been hired multiple times by overweight clients who made a point of stressing they were overweight in their initial contact with me, usually written. Not everyone has the self-confidence of PK. When i asked them about it, the particular clients I'm thinking of told me it was demoralizing for them to have been repeatedly rejected by escorts at the beginning of an appointment because of their weight. They responded to those experiences by going almost overboard in stressing to me before we met that they were overweight. It was their disclosure, not my demand. They did it to avoid another rejection. It was their choice. From my perspective, what they did made sense. While I don't think it makes sense for anyone to think such a thing should be a requirement, I would recommend anyone who lacks PK's self-confidence to consider it, because you likely won't feel good if some hot twentysomething won't even let you pay them to roll in the sheets with you.
 

 
Somehow the idea got mixed into here that an escort's "prejudice" = their inability to perform = blaming the client. Given that set of assumptions, I agree completely with the statement: it's completely shitty for an escort who is prejudiced to blame their inability to "perform" on the client that is the object of their prejudice. That's a no brainer. But that's not even close to what the original question asked. It was a simple question that said nothing at all about any escort's performance.
 
If the issue is about the interaction of being overweight and self-confidence, I actually really don't see how having lots of escorts plaster words like "no fatties" over their ads does anything to help anybody. The quote above actually equates this kind of statement of "preference" with "prejudice", which is in fact how I view it. I personally don't view "no fatties" or "no blacks" as disclosure. I view it as discrimination. It doesn't make sense to me that saying "no minorities" or "no fatties" can in any way be equated by anyone as "a badge of honor." It's actually kind of fucked up.
 
Does anybody really want to argue that the sign "No Irish Need Apply" ever made Irish people feel good?
 
I actually feel sorry for escorts who are largely intolerant of imperfection, because they are in the wrong line of work. Obviously they must feel a conflict between what they want - money - and what they can barely tolerate - imperfection.
 
At the height of my career, I had such an experience in a Brazilian sauna I went to with the intention of hiring. I hired the hottest stud there, who was obviously straight and probably very new to selling himself. It honestly felt like touching me made him want to crawl out of his skin. It is interesting to be considered one of the best escorts around, and to have another man feel like it is a disease to touch you. He didn't get within a mile of an erection, and I pretty quickly decided it was better for both of us to just pay him and put him out of his misery. So I get what the issue is, even though I wasn't lacking in self confidence. I actually considered the experience a good lesson in humility. Being as stubborn as I am I decided to go back the next day, and try again, except the next day I made it very clear to several escorts I rejected that I was only interested in hiring an escort that was Gay. In fact, I didn't even have to make it that clear to the guy I hired, since he made it incredibly clear as soon as he saw me that he'd be quite happy to get paid to fuck the shit out of me. Which he did. Then we went to dinner, and he fucked me again just for the fun of it after dinner.
 
Everything about my experience suggests that being able to communicate about what you want and are into, respectfully, is a set up for success. Being unable to communicate about it or being insulting when you communicate about it is a set up for failure. Everyone has different communication styles, but I think those generalities are pretty true across the board.

My actual experience for 15 years suggests the opposite.
 
The anecdote I already posted above says it all. It's just my perceptions, but what you are talking about here is basically whether you can disclose you are imperfect AND come off as self-confident. And you're right, self confidence is sexy.
 
In one case as I described above I felt like a client with a perfectly hard cock that functioned very well was desperate to cover up his lack of confidence in himself due to his age. In another case I felt like a client with a cock he himself described as nonfunctional (regarding erections) was full of self-confidence and fun and relaxing to be with. These were just my perceptions, but what we're talking about here are perceptions of sexiness. Clarity and confidence are not mutually exclusive things.
 
There's at least one poster on this site I have been hired repeatedly by who manages to combine what would clearly be considered an overweight body with a self-confident "that just means there's more of me for you to love, if I let you" attitude. I find that sexy, too.

Yes.
 
Here's one anecdote I can kind of remember from years ago. I showed up at a door of a client who was pretty seriously overweight. He explained to me that he realized at some point it made sense to tell escorts about his weight before they showed up at his door, because several times he had been rejected by escorts who showed up, took a look at him, and said the appointment was not going to work. In some ways I give credit to the escorts, who could have chosen to simply try to stay and rip him off without really providing what the client wanted.
 
To broaden the answer, here's another anecdote. I had a client who was in really good shape for his age - 70's - and liked to pride himself on looking like he was "young 60ish." Having said that, it seemed like he felt compelled to act like a 20-something sexually. He also told me that his expectations for long sessions of flip/flop anal sex so intimidated some well known escorts that they couldn't get erections around him and wouldn't let them hire him, usually after they had tried and failed to meet his expectations (at least by this client's account).
 
During this same period, I recall being hired by a client one night at his hotel who was overweight and could not get an erection due to surgery, but liked to be fucked. He said something like this to me at the start of the session: "Steven, I want you to know that I am not going to get an erection, and you are not going to see me have an orgasm, but I will really enjoy getting fucked by you." He was warm and fun and relaxing to be with, and it was a very fun appointment for me and I think him.
 
I recall thinking at the time that as I age, I hope I age as gracefully and with as much self-acceptance as the second client. And I felt sorry for the first client that he put enough expectations on himself that he often felt let down. And I do mean put expectations on himself, not the escort, because it seemed like at some deep level he really wanted to feel like he was much younger than he actually was.

Ooh, I love it when you talk that way.
 
If you come to Palm Springs again next Spring you can do it yourself.
 
Just don't tell Bozo. He might get jealous.

Yes.
 
Here's one anecdote I can kind of remember from years ago. I showed up at a door of a client who was pretty seriously overweight. He explained to me that he realized at some point it made sense to tell escorts about his weight before they showed up at his door, because several times he had been rejected by escorts who showed up, took a look at him, and said the appointment was not going to work. In some ways I give credit to the escorts, who could have chosen to simply try to stay and rip him off without really providing what the client wanted.
 
To broaden the answer, here's another anecdote. I had a client who was in really good shape for his age - 70's - and liked to pride himself on looking like he was "young 60ish." Having said that, it seemed like he felt compelled to act like a 20-something sexually. He also told me that his expectations for long sessions of flip/flop anal sex so intimidated some well known escorts that they couldn't get erections around him and wouldn't let them hire him, usually after they had tried and failed to meet his expectations (at least by this client's account).
 
During this same period, I recall being hired by a client one night at his hotel who was overweight and could not get an erection due to surgery, but liked to be fucked. He said something like this to me at the start of the session: "Steven, I want you to know that I am not going to get an erection, and you are not going to see me have an orgasm, but I will really enjoy getting fucked by you." He was warm and fun and relaxing to be with, and it was a very fun appointment for me and I think him.
 
I recall thinking at the time that as I age, I hope I age as gracefully and with as much self-acceptance as the second client. And I felt sorry for the first client that he put enough expectations on himself that he often felt let down. And I do mean put expectations on himself, not the escort, because it seemed like at some deep level he really wanted to feel like he was much younger than he actually was.

Geez, what made you think I was referring to you? I guess you must have a lot of self-confidence or something. Anyhoo, yes I am lucky.
 
Reading this thread is kind of weird. Somewhere along the way it got reversed. It started as a simple question: should a client disclose he's overweight? I answered yes. At some point it got reinterpreted into sounding like it was a demand on the escort's part.
 
I'll stick with my original yes. I have been hired multiple times by overweight clients who made a point of stressing they were overweight in their initial contact with me, usually written. Not everyone has the self-confidence of PK. When i asked them about it, the particular clients I'm thinking of told me it was demoralizing for them to have been repeatedly rejected by escorts at the beginning of an appointment because of their weight. They responded to those experiences by going almost overboard in stressing to me before we met that they were overweight. It was their disclosure, not my demand. They did it to avoid another rejection. It was their choice. From my perspective, what they did made sense. While I don't think it makes sense for anyone to think such a thing should be a requirement, I would recommend anyone who lacks PK's self-confidence to consider it, because you likely won't feel good if some hot twentysomething won't even let you pay them to roll in the sheets with you.
 

 
Somehow the idea got mixed into here that an escort's "prejudice" = their inability to perform = blaming the client. Given that set of assumptions, I agree completely with the statement: it's completely shitty for an escort who is prejudiced to blame their inability to "perform" on the client that is the object of their prejudice. That's a no brainer. But that's not even close to what the original question asked. It was a simple question that said nothing at all about any escort's performance.
 
If the issue is about the interaction of being overweight and self-confidence, I actually really don't see how having lots of escorts plaster words like "no fatties" over their ads does anything to help anybody. The quote above actually equates this kind of statement of "preference" with "prejudice", which is in fact how I view it. I personally don't view "no fatties" or "no blacks" as disclosure. I view it as discrimination. It doesn't make sense to me that saying "no minorities" or "no fatties" can in any way be equated by anyone as "a badge of honor." It's actually kind of fucked up.
 
Does anybody really want to argue that the sign "No Irish Need Apply" ever made Irish people feel good?
 
I actually feel sorry for escorts who are largely intolerant of imperfection, because they are in the wrong line of work. Obviously they must feel a conflict between what they want - money - and what they can barely tolerate - imperfection.
 
At the height of my career, I had such an experience in a Brazilian sauna I went to with the intention of hiring. I hired the hottest stud there, who was obviously straight and probably very new to selling himself. It honestly felt like touching me made him want to crawl out of his skin. It is interesting to be considered one of the best escorts around, and to have another man feel like it is a disease to touch you. He didn't get within a mile of an erection, and I pretty quickly decided it was better for both of us to just pay him and put him out of his misery. So I get what the issue is, even though I wasn't lacking in self confidence. I actually considered the experience a good lesson in humility. Being as stubborn as I am I decided to go back the next day, and try again, except the next day I made it very clear to several escorts I rejected that I was only interested in hiring an escort that was Gay. In fact, I didn't even have to make it that clear to the guy I hired, since he made it incredibly clear as soon as he saw me that he'd be quite happy to get paid to fuck the shit out of me. Which he did. Then we went to dinner, and he fucked me again just for the fun of it after dinner.
 
Everything about my experience suggests that being able to communicate about what you want and are into, respectfully, is a set up for success. Being unable to communicate about it or being insulting when you communicate about it is a set up for failure. Everyone has different communication styles, but I think those generalities are pretty true across the board.

Awesome, Daddy. I'll take that as a promise that you'll be coming out to the Palm Springs party to spank me next Spring.

Fortunately, the sweet thing can multi-task. Dane got fucked by a client, and still had energy left to cum over after and watch DWTS together. Being a little shit, I didn't even have food prepared for him. He had to stop and buy a salad. All he got from me is a glass of wine and a Snickers bar.
 
Hopefully, you guys can show Dane the proper way to treat a lady, since I have only a limited amount of popcorn and just about no class.

Thanks. But here's a warning to all of you. I actually consider myself a whore.

Be careful my dear of what you ask for. This is "Daddy" were talking about.

!!!!!!
 

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Awesome, Daddy. I'll take that as a promise that you'll be coming out to the Palm Springs party to spank me next Spring.

Geez, what made you think I was referring to you? I guess you must have a lot of self-confidence or something. Anyhoo, yes I am lucky.
 
Reading this thread is kind of weird. Somewhere along the way it got reversed. It started as a simple question: should a client disclose he's overweight? I answered yes. At some point it got reinterpreted into sounding like it was a demand on the escort's part.
 
I'll stick with my original yes. I have been hired multiple times by overweight clients who made a point of stressing they were overweight in their initial contact with me, usually written. Not everyone has the self-confidence of PK. When i asked them about it, the particular clients I'm thinking of told me it was demoralizing for them to have been repeatedly rejected by escorts at the beginning of an appointment because of their weight. They responded to those experiences by going almost overboard in stressing to me before we met that they were overweight. It was their disclosure, not my demand. They did it to avoid another rejection. It was their choice. From my perspective, what they did made sense. While I don't think it makes sense for anyone to think such a thing should be a requirement, I would recommend anyone who lacks PK's self-confidence to consider it, because you likely won't feel good if some hot twentysomething won't even let you pay them to roll in the sheets with you.
 

 
Somehow the idea got mixed into here that an escort's "prejudice" = their inability to perform = blaming the client. Given that set of assumptions, I agree completely with the statement: it's completely shitty for an escort who is prejudiced to blame their inability to "perform" on the client that is the object of their prejudice. That's a no brainer. But that's not even close to what the original question asked. It was a simple question that said nothing at all about any escort's performance.
 
If the issue is about the interaction of being overweight and self-confidence, I actually really don't see how having lots of escorts plaster words like "no fatties" over their ads does anything to help anybody. The quote above actually equates this kind of statement of "preference" with "prejudice", which is in fact how I view it. I personally don't view "no fatties" or "no blacks" as disclosure. I view it as discrimination. It doesn't make sense to me that saying "no minorities" or "no fatties" can in any way be equated by anyone as "a badge of honor." It's actually kind of fucked up.
 
Does anybody really want to argue that the sign "No Irish Need Apply" ever made Irish people feel good?
 
I actually feel sorry for escorts who are largely intolerant of imperfection, because they are in the wrong line of work. Obviously they must feel a conflict between what they want - money - and what they can barely tolerate - imperfection.
 
At the height of my career, I had such an experience in a Brazilian sauna I went to with the intention of hiring. I hired the hottest stud there, who was obviously straight and probably very new to selling himself. It honestly felt like touching me made him want to crawl out of his skin. It is interesting to be considered one of the best escorts around, and to have another man feel like it is a disease to touch you. He didn't get within a mile of an erection, and I pretty quickly decided it was better for both of us to just pay him and put him out of his misery. So I get what the issue is, even though I wasn't lacking in self confidence. I actually considered the experience a good lesson in humility. Being as stubborn as I am I decided to go back the next day, and try again, except the next day I made it very clear to several escorts I rejected that I was only interested in hiring an escort that was Gay. In fact, I didn't even have to make it that clear to the guy I hired, since he made it incredibly clear as soon as he saw me that he'd be quite happy to get paid to fuck the shit out of me. Which he did. Then we went to dinner, and he fucked me again just for the fun of it after dinner.
 
Everything about my experience suggests that being able to communicate about what you want and are into, respectfully, is a set up for success. Being unable to communicate about it or being insulting when you communicate about it is a set up for failure. Everyone has different communication styles, but I think those generalities are pretty true across the board.

Geez, what made you think I was referring to you? I guess you must have a lot of self-confidence or something. Anyhoo, yes I am lucky.
 
Reading this thread is kind of weird. Somewhere along the way it got reversed. It started as a simple question: should a client disclose he's overweight? I answered yes. At some point it got reinterpreted into sounding like it was a demand on the escort's part.
 
I'll stick with my original yes. I have been hired multiple times by overweight clients who made a point of stressing they were overweight in their initial contact with me, usually written. Not everyone has the self-confidence of PK. When i asked them about it, the particular clients I'm thinking of told me it was demoralizing for them to have been repeatedly rejected by escorts at the beginning of an appointment because of their weight. They responded to those experiences by going almost overboard in stressing to me before we met that they were overweight. It was their disclosure, not my demand. They did it to avoid another rejection. It was their choice. From my perspective, what they did made sense. While I don't think it makes sense for anyone to think such a thing should be a requirement, I would recommend anyone who lacks PK's self-confidence to consider it, because you likely won't feel good if some hot twentysomething won't even let you pay them to roll in the sheets with you.
 

 
Somehow the idea got mixed into here that an escort's "prejudice" = their inability to perform = blaming the client. Given that set of assumptions, I agree completely with the statement: it's completely shitty for an escort who is prejudiced to blame their inability to "perform" on the client that is the object of their prejudice. That's a no brainer. But that's not even close to what the original question asked. It was a simple question that said nothing at all about any escort's performance.
 
If the issue is about the interaction of being overweight and self-confidence, I actually really don't see how having lots of escorts plaster words like "no fatties" over their ads does anything to help anybody. The quote above actually equates this kind of statement of "preference" with "prejudice", which is in fact how I view it. I personally don't view "no fatties" or "no blacks" as disclosure. I view it as discrimination. It doesn't make sense to me that saying "no minorities" or "no fatties" can in any way be equated by anyone as "a badge of honor." It's actually kind of fucked up.
 
Does anybody really want to argue that the sign "No Irish Need Apply" ever made Irish people feel good?
 
I actually feel sorry for escorts who are largely intolerant of imperfection, because they are in the wrong line of work. Obviously they must feel a conflict between what they want - money - and what they can barely tolerate - imperfection.
 
At the height of my career, I had such an experience in a Brazilian sauna I went to with the intention of hiring. I hired the hottest stud there, who was obviously straight and probably very new to selling himself. It honestly felt like touching me made him want to crawl out of his skin. It is interesting to be considered one of the best escorts around, and to have another man feel like it is a disease to touch you. He didn't get within a mile of an erection, and I pretty quickly decided it was better for both of us to just pay him and put him out of his misery. So I get what the issue is, even though I wasn't lacking in self confidence. I actually considered the experience a good lesson in humility. Being as stubborn as I am I decided to go back the next day, and try again, except the next day I made it very clear to several escorts I rejected that I was only interested in hiring an escort that was Gay. In fact, I didn't even have to make it that clear to the guy I hired, since he made it incredibly clear as soon as he saw me that he'd be quite happy to get paid to fuck the shit out of me. Which he did. Then we went to dinner, and he fucked me again just for the fun of it after dinner.
 
Everything about my experience suggests that being able to communicate about what you want and are into, respectfully, is a set up for success. Being unable to communicate about it or being insulting when you communicate about it is a set up for failure. Everyone has different communication styles, but I think those generalities are pretty true across the board.

Dane Scott. Dane Scott. Dane Scott. Simply the best.