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Yes, framing is indeed the issue! And you have framed it such that the client's sense of entitlement is invisible to you. Restaurants, physicians, stores, attorneys, and all sorts of professionals regularly refuse clients/customers entirely or just certain specific requests all the time. "No shirts or sneakers = no service" Boy! That one causes teenagers' sense of entitlement to skyrocket, and feel that no "proper" sensible store in a beach town would do that when so many are just in bathing suits. Please find any of the human rights organizations who deal specifically with the social and economic ecology of sex workers (Listed above) who frame the power dichotomy as "the client is always right," "whatever happens, don't hurt the client's feelings." and the provider should just do what the client says. You won't find it, they neither carve out a category of "proper" sex workers and simply are not concerned with the hurt feelings of clients over the rights of providers.

Hmmmm...That particular carve out just doesn't appear in any of the statements from Wikipedia, National Harm Reduction Coalition, American Civil Liberties Union, Amnesty International USA, The Sex Workers Project, Human Rights Campaign, and the National Network Of Sex Workers on what a "proper" sex worker is. In fact with all their statements on risk reduction, empowerment, self-determination, codification of tights, and unionization, it seems that all these organizations favor the idea that "proper" sex workers have more power and control in the choices they make concerning what they will and will not do and with who they do them. I am sorry that all of our feelings get hurt when we get rejected. But rather than blaming the other person, could we possibly flip the explanation to recognize ta least some culpability ourseves? Maybe we are not always "proper" mature adults, that we are not as resilient as we might be as a "proper" adult, that we need to accept that we can't control so many, many things in our everyday lives but our lack of control is not simply because someone else is doing something wrong. Sex worker - Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_worker Sex Work Resources | National Harm Reduction Coalition https://harmreduction.org/issues/sex-work/ Sex Work is Real Work, and it's Time to Treat it That Way | American Civil Liberties Union https://www.aclu.org/news/lgbtq-rights/sex-work-is-real-work-and-its-time-to-treat-it-that-way Sex workers' rights | Amnesty International USA https://www.amnestyusa.org/issues/gender-sexuality/sex-work-rights/ Sex Work FAQ's - Sex Workers Project https://swp.urbanjustice.org/sex-work-faqs/ HRC | Beyond the Stereotypes: A Deep Dive Into Sex Work https://www.hrc.org/resources/beyond-the-stereotypes-a-deep-dive-into-sex-work Sex Work Overview - National Harm Reduction Coalition https://harmreduction.org/issues/sex-work/overview/ National Network Of Sex Workers http://nnswindia.org/

But it is indeed fascinating to hear at what people living in glass houses choose to cast their stones when the other choices floating around in the foreground include the "unappealingness" of capitalism, homosexuality, unequal power dynamics, sex trafficking, false disclosure of health status, poverty, high cost of higher education, lack of basic income programs, body dysmorphic disorder, abuse of plastic surgery, steroid abuse, drug abuse...

Microthrusting.

Nah. Grease, stretch, push, squeeze, shimmy, twist, re-grease, and repeat.

A white dawg -- but racially charged nonetheless. The Deputy Dawg Show (Western Animation) - TV Tropes https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/WesternAnimation/TheDeputyDawgShow The Deputy Dawg Show (1959 -1964) - YouTube https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL902XwQykER50wu15G-34RZ0b_M2QdRcJ

It's so surprising that so many escorts simply don't know what they weigh. Hahahahahaha. 😉 Maybe they just learned on Grindr that in 2025, weight shaving is mandatory even if you don't have to do it?

I totally agree with that, and what I am about to write does not mean to contradict, but offer an additional option. I've also had tremendous luck with retaining either one guy or two guys who I know well independently -- and then also retaining another that none of us know but who we've all agreed that we like his profile. (If there are two guys I know, I make sure they have never played with each other either.) This removes all sorts of "per-rehearsed" moves, and a lot of exploring and surprises ensue. I've never had a problem -- but have always assumed if the total unknown is a total dud, there still going to be a great time between me and the guy[s] I already know. (Several times, I've actually had less fun hiring people who are actual couples IRL....and seem to be in a sexual rut and say things like "we don't do that.")

Over time, with the right providers, I've had the roles of “client” and a “casual social contact” blended/commingled/hybridized (as opposed to "muddled") with generally good results, and no "strangeness." or ill effects.

Who in their equity-based mind would want a passive bottom? How insulting, condescending, and degrading to categorize a bottom that way. Both should be active partners! Roget's Thesaurus, Google, or some smart chick could help you realign your word choices.

? As in the semi-cryptic share for the future "May you lead an interesting life"? 😉

That's what you are hoping for. No sis, it's the toothbrush used to clean his mouth and was grossly placed near the Sensodyne toothpaste But Sensodyne does an absolutely amazing job of whitening grout without wearing it away.

You are a master of writing prose that makes your readers want MORE. 😉

Pretty much. Better safe than sorry!

And people who commute from Fiji say such nice things about you. 😉

Welcome to CoM, FitnSweetNYC!! (if you understand what I mean.) 😉

Definitely don't tell spouses, parents, writers in search of cheap plot devices, and the health department.

Is this true? Do most escorts have something to hide, other than the legal obvious? Privacy and discretion play no role? Are all the braver escorts who participate here treated badly? I don't know, I haven't seen the evidence. Just keep in mind that most movie stars, theatrical performers, recording stars, oral hygienists, and prep cooks stay away from this board too.

Some providers have figured out "more clients" is not always the best business plan. Why would a provider prefer to see three clients per day to make the same amount of money as just seeing two? And don't forget that there is a market of wealthy men who find a expensive provider whose business model is based on seeing fewer clients per week significantly more [hygienically] attractive than a provider who sees multiple clients a day.

It's clear you want to engage a provider who has to see multiple clients a day just to make ends meet. On the other hand, there are clients who like to engage providers who are 1.) smart enough to figure out a business plan where they see fewer guys each week/work fewer hours/collect the same weekly income and 2.) consequently have less exposure to potential STDs.

Really??? Or perhaps missed an opportunity to try something new, get out of a rut, move past their preconceived received ideas, add a new experience to their sexual exploration and awakening, and be challenged in their personal growth? But you do you.

Maybe, but in 2025, it's less tiresome and misplaced than wearing the badge of old school toxic masculinity.

I can't begin to understand why you might think it isn't as bad to say something behind someone's back as it is to say it to their face. 😞

I think you may have forgotten to weigh in the TERROR OF VAGINA DENTATA in your calculation! 😉

Why would you assume that about anyone's intentions? Should we assume that's what YOU intend to do?