LGatton

I can't help but wonder at the times I have seen on remarks about being clean. That should be a given, escort or just a date. If a client or provider is not prepared for a sexual encounter, 1) the provider should not be in the business and 2) the client should not be hiring. It is just decency guys,

As others have said, communication is key.
 
Be clean all over, brush your teeth, use mouthwash, and be presentable. I can't make myself 20 years younger but I can make sure what I give you to work with is fresh and clean.

Might be a good idea not to eat 2 or 3 hours before the meeting... You don't want food to be part of the play time.

That's very interesting. My first hire I told him I wanted to go slowly because I would be very nervous. As soon as we got into his hotel room, he went right for a deep kiss. It freaked me out. It still ended up going well, but those first 10 or so minutes were really awkward for me.

To add to what I said earlier when I go to see I customer I won't initiate any contact or getting undressed. This is to protect myself just in case the customer is in fact with law enforcement. If they want to see me naked or kiss me they have to make the first move and communicate.
 
Keenan

Thanks for the replies everyone. Next time we chat I'll be sure to get into more detail with him and be more direct with my fantasies. He's done some videos and there are two in particular that real drew me to him. Maybe I can use them to give a good outline of what I want.

Completely agree with the above recommendations (communicate before, during and after).... before our first meet, an escort once asked what my top three favorite porn vids were, and which role I saw myself in... still quite memorable first (and many subsequent) meets...

A long -- very long -- time ago, I asked a similar question here. The most useful answer I received was to communicate the things I fantasize about, which would give an escort a place to start from.

“You gotta wash your ass” - Redd Foxx
 
The rest you can figure out as you go.

I’m not an escort but I’m sure @Keenan is right about communication.
 

 
What may help you have a great first date in real life is if you convey clearly what you find attractive, romantic and sexy. I’m guessing that you must have seen some gay porn at least...
 
For instance, I have a passion for handsome men and good underwear. I will be undressing a good looking man and I find it sexy if he’s in tight white briefs. I still recall fondly a blond muscleboy-bottom who noticed my passion and told me he shared it. Before each further date, he used to call me and ask what I wanted him to wear: jockstrap or briefs, coloured or white. He said it excited him on the way to me that I’d be horny at the prospect of stripping him.
 
Similarly, I enjoy lots of things but I really like foreplay with lots of kissing, using tongue, and I really enjoy being sucked off. The same goes for sexual positions; I like to top but I don’t like a guy sitting on top of me. There must be some activities that you find more arousing than others, and some sexual activities that you definitely want to explore so mention them specifically beforehand.
 
I don’t want you to miss out on something you’d enjoy simply because you’re too diffident to mention it to the guy you’ve chosen. I hope you have a wonderful time with him.

I feel communication is key. Clear details from what you are looking for makes my job easier. We can't read your mind. While we are there for you I feel both client and escort need to set the pace together. Example, when the escort arrives depending on how much time you have booked with him you may either want to sit down and talk some or you may want to offer to help the escort feel more comfortable. Overall just make sure you communicate and then things should feel less awkward.
 
Keenan

Hey guys,
 
I'm about to take my first plunge into hiring and I've been learning a lot from reading the forum here.
 
I'll be taking a trip soon and I booked a guy who is well reviewed and regarded, but I am completely inexperienced. I have disclosed this to him and he asked me what I was looking for. I told him I wanted someone who could be gentle and understanding with me but could "take charge", not in a dom/sub sort of way but just guiding me on what would be most enjoyable since, for me, it's all been theoretical fantasies to this point. We left it at that and he said we'll get in touch again as we get closer to the appointment.
 
My question to providers is, what would you want a new inexperienced client to know or communicate to you before the appointment? Would you like more clear details what they expect or would you feel comfortable guiding the experience for them?