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Maybe she meant, "who in the world would want to do THAT to HIM!"

Well, I think he is cuter clean shaven.

I would interpret her comment to mean that your relationships with people are more important than the things you can list on your CV. I would agree on that as a message to young people graduating from college.

I made a cameo appearance at the pool event, but was incognito (no wig).

I thought it looked like Japan, but I wasn't sure where (my first thought was Osaka).

There are no direct flights between PHL and PSP. Having traveled between the two cities many times, I have always found AA via DFW to be the most practical route. If one is unwilling to make a connection anywhere, then a non-stop flight PHL to PHX, and a rental car to drive to Palm Springs would be my choice. It's a longer drive than from LAX, but a lot easier, because it is a relatively uncrowded Interstate 10 across empty desert at 70-75mph for most of the distance (I did it just last week).

To elaborate on deej's comment that reviews have never been allowed on the MC: when Hooboy founded the site, he purposely had separate sections for reviews and for discussions, because the reviews were subjected to a much higher level of scrutiny than the forums. The review had to be about an actual meeting between client and escort, on a specific date, and had to include specified details about the escort. Hooboy (and later Daddy) tried to verify that the encounter actually happened, and to verify the identity of the reviewer. If the review was negative, Hooboy (and later Daddy) attempted to contact the escort, and gave him an opportunity to supply a written response which was added to the review. A review does not appear until it has been vetted in this way. The review is like a published review of a specific performance of a play, which has been read by an editor, while the forum posts are like chatter in a bar among persons who claim to know something about the play. There is no way the monitors can examine every post in the MC to make judgments about whether its contents are really a review of a paid encounter, and unless the escort is a site member and regular reader, he won't necessarily know what claims are being made against him in the MC. (In fact, the monitors depend on site members to alert them to all kinds of problematic posts.) In fairness to the escort, the reviews need to be labelled as such, and accessible by the escort.

A bit of history is in order here. The annual event is held in Palm Springs mainly because Lucky and I live here, and in 2005 Lucky said to me, "Why don't we organize a weekend event and invite people on the Hooboy site to come? We can arrange a dinner at a restaurant on Saturday night, then all go to a show at the Palm Canyon Theater afterwards. Then on Sunday afternoon I will host a party at my house." He made the theater arrangement, and I made the dinner reservation. A handful of people showed up (one of whom, BTW, was TomCal), all of them from California except for Oliver, who was staying here to escape the Midwest winter. It was fun, so we did it again the next year, and more people came. Then Oliver said, "Why don't we have the Sunday party at my place, because I have a pool?" Even more important, Oliver offered to pay for the increasingly large Sunday party. Then in 2009, Daddy finally responded to the invitation, and suddenly escorts started showing up in bigger numbers. After Lucky left the website, Oliver graciously agreed to take over all responsibility for organizing the entire event, with the help of Epigonos, including hosting and paying for the party on Sunday. And like Topsy, the event "has just growed." There is no paid entertainment, and no charge for admission. Attendees are required to RSVP to Oliver's invitation in order to take part, but they are responsible for making their own arrangements for transportation and lodging. If someone wants to go to the trouble of arranging a similar event in Orlando or anywhere else, more power to them--there is no exclusive copywright on the format. But it does require a host, who is willing to assume the duty of organizing the whole event, and paying for the costs associated with it.

Is that supposed to be a metaphor for something? Happy Birthday, Ace!

The wind has stopped. It is supposed to resume on Monday. Oliver must have paid off someone to get perfect weather for the weekend.

The wind in PS has been so bad for the last 24 hrs (gusts up to 67mph) that the planes are being diverted directly over our house to land at the airport. It is supposed to get better tomorrow.

Our dog rotates between our beds each night, and sometimes changes beds during the night. On the rare occasions when he chooses to sleep elsewhere, we wonder what is wrong. On a recent visit to my spouse's family in Texas, on the last night he disappeared from our room, and we learned the next morning that he had spent the night in my sister-in-law's bed.

I would like to see a credible scientific study on what "most teenagers" understand about sexuality, as well as definitions of "realistic" and "nuanced." (Does it mean they think like me?)

However, we are again under a "high wind alert." We are in a lull right now, but this past weekend was terrible, with steady winds as high as 50mph in my neighborhood. Oliver may need to keep his poolboy on retainer 24/7 for clean-up.

I am one of those lucky people whose weight hardly changes--I can still wear the sweaters I bought I when was in college. But I worked out at a gym for more than 40 years, in order to stay healthy and maintain muscle fitness. However, going to the gym always felt like a boring chore to me. Then, in my sixties, I discovered that I could exercise just as much by playing tennis several days per week, and have FUN doing it! I dropped my gym membership ten years ago, and at my recent annual physical, the doctor told me I was actually in better condition (especially aerobically) than I was when I started seeing him fifteen years ago, I also weigh exactly the same 155 lbs I did then, although the distribution has shifted somewhat--it seems to slide toward the middle of my body. I think that it is important for everyone to do some kind of regular exercise, but you are more likely to stick with it if it is something that you actually enjoy doing rather than something you would really rather avoid.

In my college days, one of my dorm mates was a member of the Iranian royal family. He was incredibly cute and and sweet. He expected to have a political career back in Teheran, but the revolution changed that. He ended up as a gastroenterologist in Dallas.

Snow flurries are not in the forecast for PS today: the temperature is supposed to be 102.

I certainly don't think you are harsh or out of line in any of your postings. My point was that women tend to think of sex as more natural and desirable if there is mutual attraction between the partners, whereas my experience is that most men don't care as much about whether the object of their sexual desire returns that desire. Of course, many men--perhaps most--do find the experience more pleasant when there is mutual attraction, but that is frequently less important in their calculation of sexual satisfaction than it is for most women. A man who wants to have sex with men who are not likely to be attracted to him may have a number of motivations, ranging from wanting to change the other man's attitude to wanting to punish him by making him do something he won't enjoy, to wanting to be humiliated himself, but in many cases he simply wants to use the other man for his own satisfaction. Women are more likely to see human relationships as subject to subject, while men often see relationships as subject to object, i.e., the partner is experienced as simply a detached ass, a cock, or a cunt. (I know, I know: this is oversimplified psychological analysis.)

Have you considered creating a code so that only you will understand the notes? (OK, then there is the problem that you may forget the code.)

Forgive me for saying this, QTR, but you think like a woman. Most men, including gay men, are more concerned with whether they find their sexual partner attractive than whether the sexual partner finds them attractive. It is why men are much more likely to hire sex partners than women are.

I started this thread, then immediately signed out and left the site for a couple of weeks, so I was not aware of how it developed. I was NOT trying to warn anyone that PV was any more dangerous than PS, where a gay married couple was also assaulted on the street not long ago, and one of them died as a result. What I was attempting to warn travelers about was the attitude of the Mexican police toward the incident, which was very different from the way the police in PS handled their incident. The PS couple in PV were accustomed to the PS police and local media taking a gay-bashing incident for what it is, and were not prepared for the local police and media in PV distorting the incident to make it appear not to be gay-bashing.

A married couple of gay Palm Springs realtors were vacationing in PV. In the early morning hours, they were walking back to their rental condo from a gay dance bar, holding hands, when someone yelled at them and then shot at one of them. He is hospitalized but not seriously injured. They say the Mexican police are describing the incident as an attempted robbery, during which they struggled with the assailant, but that wasn't what happened at all, although they have repeatedly told the police what actually occurred. They have told the PS media that the Mexicans are afraid of scaring off gay American tourists, so they are denying that there is any anti-gay angle to the attack.

My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer at 89, and had a mastectomy. We assumed that it was a sign that she probably wouldn't be with us much longer, so we brought her to live with us for what we expected would be a short time. She had no more medical problems than we did after that, and died at 102.

One time I hired an escort for a second time, and told him that I was doing it to celebrate my birthday. At the end of the appointment, he handed me a bottle of wine with a bow around the neck, which he had bought for me as a birthday gift.

I admit that "affect" and "effect" do disturb me, simply because their meanings are different. Most users don't realize that each of them can also be either a noun or a verb, and the way they are used affects their meaning. The written media misuse them all the time. (Which leads me to the observation that writers often don't realize that "media" and "data" require plural verbs.)