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So that's what happened to my favorite jockstrap!

How did they do it with the gyms closed?

How did they do it with the gyms closed?

@sam.hexum's avatar is well known to those of us of a certain age who used to jerk off to images of movie actors.

@sam.hexum's avatar is well known to those of us of a certain age who used to jerk off to images of movie actors.

By a strange coincidence, my mother-in-law and my aunt had the same uncommon Latin name (it was down in the 800s among names given to babies in their birth years). My aunt always wanted to be called by a more common nickname, but my mother-in-law was always called by her full multi-syllabic name, which meant that people usually asked her how she got that name. My common nickname is simply a shortening of my full name, and one can usually tell how well someone knows me by which one they use, but the difference is not what you might expect: my family and close friends use my full name, while more casual acquaintances usually use the nickname.

By a strange coincidence, my mother-in-law and my aunt had the same uncommon Latin name (it was down in the 800s among names given to babies in their birth years). My aunt always wanted to be called by a more common nickname, but my mother-in-law was always called by her full multi-syllabic name, which meant that people usually asked her how she got that name. My common nickname is simply a shortening of my full name, and one can usually tell how well someone knows me by which one they use, but the difference is not what you might expect: my family and close friends use my full name, while more casual acquaintances usually use the nickname.

When my best friend was in the military, he became friends with Glenn, a gay comrade who was a real slut. Both of them got thrown out of the Air Force in a witch hunt for gays, and my friend moved into the apartment of an acquaintance of his in NYC who had an apt with an extra bedroom who was willing to rent it to him. Then Glenn showed up in NYC, with no place to stay. My friend invited him to share his bedroom, and within hours he had dragged a number in off the street for sex. Glenn brought back several numbers within the next few days. My friend was amused by Glenn's horniness, but the guy whose name was on the lease was not. On the fourth day he and Glenn came back from lunch, and found the locks changed and their possessions on the street. It was a rude awakening for both of them.

California has just announced it is lifting the stay-at-home and 10pm-5am curfew orders. Outdoor dining will be allowed again, hotels can take "non-essential" guests, and barber shops will open again. (Damn! I shaved all my hair off just last week because I was tired of trying to cut my own hair!) Bars that don't serve food, however, must stay closed.

He sounds pretty self-centered--it all about what he wants rather than what he has to offer you--but then he is very young, after all. The elaborate tattoo on the almost non-existent pec seems like attempted compensation or distraction from the slight physical presence.

Even without the complication of a pandemic, what your friend is doing is dangerous for both of you. He has a right to endanger himself, but friendship doesn't mean you have an obligation to let him endanger you as well, nor to help him endanger himself. Your participation on this site shows signs of a kind of voyeurism: I suspect that you may be getting some vicarious pleasure from observing him doing something that intrigues you, but that you would not be willing to do yourself. Are you really asking us how to get out of this situation, or are you looking for some validation for allowing it to continue? You are smart enough to know that if his conduct bothers you, the answer is simply to tell him to stop bringing questionable strangers back to your home just to get his rocks off. Or are you afraid of losing his friendship by asserting your needs?

I haven't had any intercourse--I mean, communication--with JT in years, and am glad to be reminded of him, but unfortunately I have no info about him. Good to see you here again VDN.

When I was 22, and could still remember them all, I made a list, and there were 74. For about 20 years after that I was pretty active, because the whole gay sex scene opened up--clubs, baths, etc.--and I didn't bother with names; I would guesstimate about a hundred in an average year. Then everything came to a screeching halt with the arrival of AIDS, and after that the numbers have been pretty small, perhaps ten in a really active year, dwindling down to nothing for the past decade. Probably around 2000-2500 since #1, "Michel," who introduced me to all the basics (he claimed to be 18, but I'm now convinced that he had to be older).

It was quite common for the Romans to give their children numerical names, like Sixtus or Octavius. Your client could have named her child Septimus. If I were Italian, I might have been named Primo.

I was there in 1967, the "summer of love," and I really did see some flowers in the hair of hippies in the Haight.

When a good friend of mine named Eleanor arrived at a new school when she was an adolescent, it turned out that there were already three other Eleanors in her small class. Her last name was Martin, so the teacher said, "Well, we are just going to call you 'Marty' for now." But it stuck all through school, so that was the name she used for the rest of her long life, because she didn't really like "Eleanor" anyway. My own name is pretty far down the list for my birth year, and I rarely shared a class with anyone else with the same name. I didn't mind my name, because it was easy to pronounce and had no awkward connotations (like "Adolph" or "Dick"), but it has more than one common spelling, so I usually have to spell it for someone who wants to write it down.

A psychologist might call it something else.

Almost five decades of daily journals, which scholars will mine for information about gay life in the late 20th-early 21st centuries.

Which is why I didn't even bother to try.

A friend told me?

Public health figures in CA are saying that it could be two years before everyone in the state who wants it and qualifies can be fully vaccinated; they don't think that even the seniors will be finished before June. Considering that healthy young athletes are going to be in the lowest tier of those who are eligible for the vaccine in this country, it is unlikely that the American Olympians could be vaccinated in time for Tokyo. Japan is an island nation which has had relatively few cases, like Australia, and you have seen how rigidly the Aussies have controlled entrance for the Open, so it seems unlikely that the Japanese will relax their requirements. Of course, the US could make a special exception for their Olympians, but there would be a lot of bad feelings from those ahead of them in the line. The athletes from poorer countries which are having problems getting any doses of the vaccines at all would be disproportionately affected at the Olympics this summer.

Two master's degrees and he doesn't know the difference between "Wether your into..." and Whether you're into..."?

Anywhere above the neck.

My normal temperature for as long as I can remember is 97.5.

I actually did attend one of his matches a few years ago. He's cuter than Ryan.