Rick M

There are a couple of guys coming to town over the long weekend that I'm interested in, and I'm having the darnedest time setting something up. You'd think in this age of quick and easy communication that there would be no problem, but fluid communication just means noise propagates more freely, and (I hate to say it) deception and abuse are encouraged. Some professionals handle the overload better than others, and some can keep a fella dangling for days awaiting confirmation. I want to relieve anxiety, not increase it! End of mini-rant.

I kinda like the anonymity of m4m-forum, but... Oh, well, I'll choose...

I appreciate Tyger's POV, but as a non-paying client (who will not pay to shop anywhere, not at Costco, not on RM, ever; let the provider recoup his membership through charges to me) I can find one downside: those limited ratings prompt other clients to ask me for details, esp. when they are sitting on the fence, and I try to promote the good providers...

I just noticed this statement in the rent.men webmaster's acknowledgement of a new review: "Note that as of March 1, 2022, only Premium users will be able to submit reviews." What do we all think of this policy change?

Not my usual cup of oolong, but... I found his company immensely enjoyable. The word "frisky" comes to mind...

I'm committed already to a couple of other assignations; don't need to force this one.

If one is truly "in the market," one has to spend endless hours (and scads of dollars) advertising one's wares in bars, or cruising the internet, and then--if one happens to wrangle a date--there comes the potentially more expensive period of courtship, after which (for the pleasure of a few nights in the sack... if one's lucky!) either party determines there are greener pastures elsewhere, and the process begins anew. Yes, there are stick-to-it-boyfriends, but their terms are interspersed with YEARS of single mingling. This applies to the straight crew, too... Note all the lonely-hearted married men looking on [hookup websites] because they are unfulfilled... Or am I stating the obvious?

I just enjoyed meeting Mr. Herring(g) and rated him on RM. Contact me if you want to hear any sordid details.

Tyger, you sound like the model kind-hearted social worker! I move conversations to phone text or similar immediate means as soon as I can. In this case, the provider went silent, changed the dates on his RM page, and left me in limbo for a week. A simple "I have to reschedule" would have been polite and reassuring.

Changed his itinerary.

There was one occasion when I visited a provider in DC. He had recently moved into a small 1-bedroom unit, but he was taking pains to deck it out with a sound system, large video screens, and in the bedroom--computer-controlled mood lighting, keyed to the music. THAT was a dim environment, but not all that relaxing to me, for like a cat I became fascinated by the color changes and almost forgot about the sex! Oops, off-topic...

And now it's a no-go, so no follow-up from me here.

He finally contacted me. He's having too good a time in another city. Very well, but don't expect me to rebook you!

What do you think this means? I made an appointment in advance with a touring provider. Two weeks before our scheduled meeting, he changes (pushes back) the dates on RM. I write him asking if we need to reschedule. No response. I know he received one of my pleas because the message is marked "read." There's still a week remaining, but if he wants to cancel, why doesn't he come out and say so?

It's rarely if ever dark or even dim when I visit a provider's hotel room. Lights turned up bright, TV showing something distracting (not necessarily porn)... I guess they like to see what they are doing, but as I am a sensitive, retiring type, it can put me on edge.

Except maybe it's half the equation? For me, size in terms of muscles plays a large part in a guy's appeal, and size of his male member can often take up the other 50%. Yet let's not ignore technique! The most erotic, stimulating plowing I ever received was from a man with an average body and an average dingus to match, but he hit the right spot, whereas the bodybuilder with the enormity but no talent made me long for the session to be over.

(I tried searching for an existing discussion, but they seem to be back in the early 2000s.) Is it wrong to want this? For myself, mind you, or perhaps as a third party with a top and consenting bottom. "But that's not rape," you'll say. Okay... Simulated rape. I talked to a provider I trust and he's willing to go along with idea, whenever we can get our calendars in sync.

Will they swallow ghost peppers with me? I truly enjoy overnights with established lovers...

Oh yes! I've adored Chase from afar since my early days of watching porn on videotape. He approached sex with such ENTHUSIASM. I'd probably faint right away if I met him in person... but would want him to pleasure me even while unconscious.

So far my maximum tolerance for being with a stranger, even a sexy one, is 1.5 to 2 hours. Beyond that I wonder: what is there to do? I'm shy to begin with, and I don't lead conversations well. (Keep asking me questions, and I may turn voluble.) The idea of sleeping overnight raises concerns... What if I toss and snore? I ask both providers and clients: how do you keep yourselves entertained for 6 to 8 hours?

Seems to me that if he was truly more into sex than business that he would have "waived his usual fee." Wasn't my type, anyway.

I was on a hookup website (like most, full of people not really interested in hooking up, or only interested Right Now This Instant) and I was astonished when another user messaged me with intent. We took the discussion to phone texting, and because he had only neck-down photos on the site, I requested a face pic. He sent me one, and I recognized him from RM. "Oh, are you an escort?" I asked. "Yes," he replied. "Do you want to hire me?" I passed on that option. Then he persisted: "Have any spare cash with you?" Talk about a bold approach!

Think so? I was ready to contribute more than that, and all he had to do was send back updates. Eventual payback in person was never discussed.

I don't want to mention a name, as this isn't a criticism, just an observation, and I was wondering if others had similar situations in dealing with bodybuilders. Is this the wrong category? The topic *is* a provider, albeit an anonymous one.

A while back I contacted a provider on RM who had mentioned in his ad he was also looking for sponsorships. I proposed a certain amount a month and made the first transaction, but then he seemed to lose interest in the scheme. Our interactions online were pleasant, and I still would like to meet him some day (different ends of the country), but I wonder why he backed out. Guilt? Not wanting to commit? I don't mind, really, but it might have turned into something fun...