tj_forplay
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tj_forplay reacted to Rudynate in Question for White (Or non-Black) clients and Black escorts: Do you think it matters?
We live in a society in which racism is institutionalized - it pervades everything. Given that, of course it will find it's way into male-on-male sex work. Perfectly well meaning clients will, by reflex, treat a black provider differently - because they have been programmed to do so, not because they have any animus toward the black provider.
My heart is completely in the right place with respect to questions on race. In spite of that, I monitor myself carefully in interactions with people of color because those unconscious biases can suddenly make themselves known - they may even seem quite innocent at the time. For example, some months ago I was talking with the branch manager of my bank - an American-born Chinese. He speaks several languages - Japanese, Mandarin and Cantonese. I commented that I really liked the sound of Mandarin when it was being spoken by an American who knew it well better than the sound of a native speaker. It occurred to me later that that was sort of a tone-deaf remark - throwing shade on an entire language that only sounded good when it was being spoken by Americans.
I hired a black provider a while ago and met him at his hotel. When I arrived, he wasn't quite ready and texted me to wait in the lobby for ten minutes. I was annoyed and would have been annoyed if a white provider had asked me to do the same thing. But later, I thought my irritation was way out of proportion to what had happened, and was willing to examine whether that was an unconscious racial bias popping up.
I was deeply affected by an episode of Geraldo that aired in the late 80s. The topic was racism. He had a panel of black guys - academics, therapists, that sort of person. The panel was taking questions from the audience and a young white guy stood up and talked about how wracked with guilt he was about his own unconscious racism and didn't know what he could do about it. One of the panelists responded, "It's not your fault. You are a product of a racist system so you can't help but be racist." He also said, "I'm a product of the same system, so I have all of those unconscious biases that you do, and I'm black." So each and every one of has the responsibility to decide whether we are going to be used by these impulsive biases or whether to exercise the self-awareness that allows us to act another way.
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tj_forplay reacted to + Lucky in Question for White (Or non-Black) clients and Black escorts: Do you think it matters?
@Jarrod_Uncut Who views Black guys as lazy because they escort?
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tj_forplay reacted to + Italiano in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
"Chubby man"?.....They are both fucking hot!
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tj_forplay reacted to Jamie21 in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
https://www.twinkvideos.com/videos/17744/two-white-guys-and-one-black-lad-are-having-a-3some/?utm_source=PBWeb&utm_medium=PBWeb&sub=100001
Here’s one I was in. It’s a 4 hands and includes me fucking the guy on the table. We’d planned that I shoot on his arse but as I was fucking him he asked me to shoot inside so I did, it’s just before the part where we kiss.
The whole vibe on that filming was hot. After we’d finished the camera man was so excited he needed to fuck me so I got a load in me as well.
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tj_forplay got a reaction from Worshipbig1s in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
Dang, I can never open these. I always get a unauthorized message.
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tj_forplay got a reaction from Phil_musc in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
Dang, I can never open these. I always get a unauthorized message.
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tj_forplay got a reaction from + db66 in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
Dang, I can never open these. I always get a unauthorized message.
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tj_forplay got a reaction from hornytwells in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
Dang, I can never open these. I always get a unauthorized message.
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tj_forplay got a reaction from Harryinny in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
Dang, I can never open these. I always get a unauthorized message.
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tj_forplay reacted to Harryinny in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
Sexy masseur, muscled client, good massage, erotic... would like that
https://www.gayporno.fm/the-masseur-could-not-restrain-himself-and-let-himself-go-completely_1806501.html
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tj_forplay got a reaction from sjmuktop in RIP Guy Fawkes/daddy
Sad news. May he rest in peace. Didn't know him like many of the others, but I've grateful to have found this site he built.
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tj_forplay got a reaction from + bigjoey in RIP Guy Fawkes/daddy
Sad news. May he rest in peace. Didn't know him like many of the others, but I've grateful to have found this site he built.
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tj_forplay got a reaction from thickornotatall in RIP Guy Fawkes/daddy
Sad news. May he rest in peace. Didn't know him like many of the others, but I've grateful to have found this site he built.
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tj_forplay got a reaction from whipped guy in RIP Guy Fawkes/daddy
Sad news. May he rest in peace. Didn't know him like many of the others, but I've grateful to have found this site he built.
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tj_forplay got a reaction from wayout in RIP Guy Fawkes/daddy
Sad news. May he rest in peace. Didn't know him like many of the others, but I've grateful to have found this site he built.
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tj_forplay got a reaction from BabyBoomer in RIP Guy Fawkes/daddy
Sad news. May he rest in peace. Didn't know him like many of the others, but I've grateful to have found this site he built.
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tj_forplay got a reaction from + Axiom2001 in RIP Guy Fawkes/daddy
Sad news. May he rest in peace. Didn't know him like many of the others, but I've grateful to have found this site he built.
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tj_forplay got a reaction from + sync in RIP Guy Fawkes/daddy
Sad news. May he rest in peace. Didn't know him like many of the others, but I've grateful to have found this site he built.
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tj_forplay reacted to AndyDandy in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
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tj_forplay reacted to fedssocr1 in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
does that count as a massage video? cute body, but headless people never do much for me
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tj_forplay got a reaction from Mjonis in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
Two of my favorite performers
https://www.myvidster.com/video/213066310/Austin_Wilde_amp_Brandon_Lewis_-_BoyFriendTVcom
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tj_forplay reacted to Harryinny in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
Found this vid tantalizing and when the dad goes for it I lost it
https://gay.bingo/video/221394173?utm_source=xdiver&utm_medium=click&utm_campaign=xdiver
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tj_forplay got a reaction from Nakedinpa in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
Two of my favorite performers
https://www.myvidster.com/video/213066310/Austin_Wilde_amp_Brandon_Lewis_-_BoyFriendTVcom
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tj_forplay got a reaction from AndyDandy in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
Two of my favorite performers
https://www.myvidster.com/video/213066310/Austin_Wilde_amp_Brandon_Lewis_-_BoyFriendTVcom
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tj_forplay got a reaction from Crisp in Hottest Massage Video Ever?
Two of my favorite performers
https://www.myvidster.com/video/213066310/Austin_Wilde_amp_Brandon_Lewis_-_BoyFriendTVcom