MattOSUGRAD

On 10/23/2021 at 11:23 PM, easygoingpal said:

William Ericson

https://rent.men/WilliamEricson

As mentioned a couple times above, I really miss Arpad Miklos.

I also miss Colton Ford.

I don't know anything from experience, but there are several from Chicago that I fantasize about.  I'll have to take a trip up there soon and hire one, two, or five of the local providers for a hot time.  WOOF!

Not trying to confuse things more, but figured some might want to see Parker Matson.  Here is the link:

https://rent.men/ParkerMatson

Logan Stevens

I missed him when he was on, but I don’t see his profile anymore.  😕

I have not had personal experience with any of these, just performed some search using some of the qualifications you listed.
 

https://rent.men/DARIOOWEN

https://rent.men/XicolondonXXL

https://rent.men/IAMTHEONEFOR

https://rent.men/Alithani

https://rent.men/Libermann_XXL

https://rent.men/HALIF

https://rent.men/MehdiSeedXXL

https://rent.men/ITALIANXLFF

https://rent.men/HAIRYHUNGLEB

3 hours ago, Oliver said:

From Sean Cody - Lane with Brodie (the one in back).

Thank you Oliver, I appreciate the info.  I was actually looking on Sean Cody and Chaos Men earlier as I thought he might have come from one of those studios, but I didn't recognize him during my quick searches.

On 8/29/2019 at 11:48 PM, marylander1940 said:

Wow, would love to know the names of either of these two, but especially the muscle hunk in back.

At times, I’ve seen where a provider on rentmen indicates “Safe Only”, but then see some bareback action in the videos on the profile.

I realize there may be many reasons why this happens, but I was curious what others thoughts are on this topic.

1. Has anyone else noticed this?
   
2. If you’re a provider who does this, would you mind sharing your thoughts?
   
3. If you’re a client who has seen this or asked about this or experienced this, what are your thoughts? Have you had “Safe Only” done bareback when hired?
   

The reason I ask is I may want to consider hiring someone and experiencing bareback. Heretofore, I’ve not really considered asking someone who indicates “Safe Only”, but a recent observation along with previous observations got me starting to wonder.

You and me, @aeikaryoko, just a couple of ? ? looking for that ?.

He is coming to Columbus, OH too and he looks hot … so hot he is making me thirsty! ?

Such sad news, my thoughts and sympathies are with all those near and dear to Daddy. May he rest in peace. He had an amazing positive impact on so many individuals, and he will be missed incredibly.

If I want to do a Money Order, who do I make it out to (i.e. WinkWinkNodNod or Bill Heaton)?

No, but definitely interested in hearing any experience.

@Woofiecmh

Well, unfortunately it got worse. This is verbatim back and forth today. Please don’t be too harsh of my texts, I was trying to build a bridge instead of burn it.

11:35AM (17 hours after agreed upon meeting time)

“Matt, I completely mixed my days up, and am mortified I missed our appt yesterday. I was just checking messages and saw your texts. I can call you later tonight to talk, I am so sorry you got hotel and dinner without me!”

11:52AM

“It’s ok, I know things happen. I felt pretty sad, but I honestly was worried something happened to you.”

“I’m free till 12:30 if you want to call me now (if it works for you), otherwise I’m free after 4PM.”

12:04PM

“I wish I had a better reason for why I missed you, but I will own it. ?”

“I am with my dad now he’s down at Easton Lexus getting a new one.”

“I can call you after 4 when you’re free. ?”

12:08PM

“It happened, I was sad, but I am more so happy you are ok, and I’m not one to hold a grudge.”

12:26P

“You’re an Angel. Thank you for that, it’s been a bizarre few days.”

4PM

5PM

6PM

7PM

8PM

8:44PM

“Hey, I’m probably going to head off to bed around 10:00 or 10:30 as I have an early day at work tomorrow. Was looking forward to talking with you, perhaps we could try for tomorrow if you’re not able to talk in the next hour-ish?”

8:44PM

“I can call you sure.”

Phone call ensues, very awkward as he just says hi and that he just got home from having dinner with his Dad and Brother and then is silent. I’m like, can the director please give him his line of, I’m sorry again for ghosting you ...

No such luck, just awkward silence to which I just say, so you had a bizarre last few days? Conversation lasts a few more minutes, no meaningful apology AND no attempt to say, let me make it up to you. I mean I’m not expecting something for free but can you at least try to say something.

As Detox would say, “I’ve had it!”

I don’t really want to wallow in this anymore, I need to shake the dust off my boots and move on. The lesson I’ve learned is that when you’ve been ghosted, don’t try to reach back out, because if they are truly sorry, they’ll reach out to you. And if your lucky to have someone appear sincere, buyer beware.

Take care all, I’m probably gonna take a break from the forums for a week or more. Wishing you all health and safety.

I think it's great that you're concerned about him, providers are people and we all know life can change quickly. I was planning on meeting up with this hot escort in Palm Springs one year and we texted back and forth quite a bit. When the time came to plan a time that evening to meet up he stopped responding. He messaged me later and apologized he cut his hand on broken glass and had to go to the ER!

 

And I'm sure many members on here remember what happened to poor Eric Hassan during Daddy's meet up in Palm Springs in 2018!

I saw a video of the two of them with a third ... Nate Stetson I believe. All I can say is it was an instaboner.

As promised, here is an update:

Received a text from the provider, they said they completely mixed up their days and was mortified they missed our appointment yesterday. They are willing to call and talk with me tonight and apologized that I got the hotel and dinner without them.

I said that I understand things can happen but that I was genuinely concerned for their wellbeing since I hadn't heard anything. I then said I would be free to talk either for the next 30 minutes or in about 4 hours after I am done working.

I am going to ask him if he is ok and what happened. Will let you all know what he says, but I am trying to be gracious and give them a second chance.

In case any of you were wondering, I did still eat out ... by myself, and ordered the bacon wrapped filet mignon. It was exceptional, but I wasn't really in the right frame of mind to fully appreciate it. I was upfront with the waiter (cute guy by the way) that I may have been ghosted. Even though I had already decided I would give the waiter or waitress a tip based on two nice meals, because I felt like it wasn't their fault and they were expecting two of us. Nevertheless, I was thankful to him for being so gracious and saying that he had been ghosted before.

Damn maybe he got stopped at the hotel? I've had a couple of bad Grindr meet ups like that. One guy came in, we felt each other up a bit then he asked if he had to pay to park on the street which you do so he said he was going to move his car and he never came back. OUCH! The other time was late at night and I saw the guy walking across the street towards my house while I was on the phone. He disappeared and never messaged back.

 

Maybe I should take the hint..

I am sure it is not you Woofie.

Is PNP a possible choice?

 

Does he seem to have his life together in his ad?

 

Hopefully he won't come back to you about his roommate losing his key, or having an accident, etc.

I do not profess to the best judge of character and do not have a lot of experience with this, but I did not get a sense that he was the type to PNP or that he would flake out for any given reason. It seemed like we had a good few communications back and forth. I don't want to give the impression that I was being overbearing or texting him constantly as I try to be very conscious of the provider's time. It just never occurred to me that I might be ghosted.

Happens to the those of us that have a lot of experience with this hobby...that's why you gotta have a back up just in case the plan A flakes. I've even had to contact plan D for the 3 flakes before him. The 4th guy was a charm and we had a lot of fun.

 

Don't put all your eggs in one basket and don't expect too much off the first meeting, certainly not a fancy dinner and hotel. Save that for the guy that becomes your regular.

 

Yes we all want what we want but put into perspective that if the guy is okay with treating you like that, he could care less about you or your money. Give it to someone worth your time.

I am trying to look at this as a teachable moment and I am really thankful for your and so many other's comments and insights. I value thoughts and opinions as inputs to help me sort through this, and you all have been a great help. ?

rejection is not the main issue but how untrustworthy he is and if that applies to other parts of his life, can he have his shit together if he stood up a client for 3 hours including a nice dinner? Did he just forget about it? Did he get a better last minute offer?

 

With the right looks and mindset escorting is a dream activity!

I did sort of wonder if maybe he got a better offer, and honestly while that would be a little disappointing considering we discussed things, I would've understood. It is a business transaction and to a certain degree I can understand wanting to maximize profits. I personally would have hoped if that is the case he would have stuck to our arrangements, but I would've been gracious had he communicated as such.

I’m sorry this happened to you. I’m sure you’re a nice man who could date another nice man and not resort to paid companions, ie escorts, ie sexworkers ie whores to fill this need in your life.

 

Sex workers are just that, members of the workforce who use sex as their currency. Except for special situations it’s unrealistic to expect more.

 

ok boys, let it rip, I’m sure you’ll be all over me for this one.

The challenge is I really dislike rejection, and while yes I am a very nice and thoughtful person, I am most likely nobody's "type" therefore I don't really want to put myself out there to go on dates just to be rejected time and time again.

Well, I do have some good news, I was able to get a massage. I did not go into any of the details about the ghosted date and the masseur was so delighted by my oral skills that he even offered to stay over off the clock if I wanted to continue. Of course I said yes, and he was came not too long thereafter. He commented that it felt really great and he hadn't done that with many clients. That did make me feel a little better.