PrettyboyJake

Thanks mate! I make sure to disclose my status on my rentmen page; I'm specifically looking for clients who want what I have to offer so it's good for both sides of the equation.

There are other FTM escorts on this forum who probably have a different perspective about screening than me, so hopefully one or more of them will also chime in with some added perspective...

Hey guys, these were both extremely informative, thank you so much! I wasn't really sure how to phrase it as ""helpful"", I just explained as best as I could with as much information as I could think to give. Figured reaching out somewhere with other transmen who also escort would be my best bet for any kind of insight.
 
That said, yeah, I've been seeing that there wasn't any industry norms. It wasn't even until about.. maybe two years ago that I started seeing different kinds of people aside from trans women and cis people. I'm definitely seeing the huge differences in screening methods depending on gender ID, especially with these replies. I'd thought maybe it just wasn't talked about in the gay male scene - pretty much no forum/place to talk, be it reddit or tumblr or here or other m4m escorting forums had any info - but the male privilege thing definitely explains why it doesn't seem to have any set standard.
 
I'm learning (real fast lol) about how each person's got their own individual comfort levels re: screening, too. Both these responses have given me a lot more to think about in terms of what my comfort levels are & how to go about implementing whatever makes me feel okay. I have the same concern about violence because of the statistics so I think mine, too, are going to settle into being somewhat more stringent than if I was cis. I guess I'm going to have to anticipate some people just not being cool with it & passing, but that's fair. If I've learned anything now, it's that my processes are gonna be evolving as I'm in this, more.
 
I hadn't even begun to consider generational preferences, either! Damn, thank you for bringing that up. I've taken away a lot from all this information and, again, I gotta say thank you. You guys are awesome and I appreciate the time it took to write such detailed replies.

Welcome @PrettyboyJake to the forum!
 
You're right, screening with male escorts is much different than female escorts, from my understanding.
 
From my experience as a (cis) male escort seeing male clients, the screening is done through the communications and is not usually formal. But each guy has a way about it, trying to establish a comfort level through the communications and looking for red flags along the way. It's based on a lot of intuition and with practice and experience you start to see patterns of where things might go sideways.
 
From my advice, the basic questions that need to be asked and answered to set up an appointment are a variation of the old journalistic rule of thumb of answering who, what, when, where, and how. The goal is to get those figured out to a degree of comfort and certainty, and look for any trouble along the way. Who will you be meeting, where will you meet, what will you be doing together (at least a general direction), and how will you confirm the appointment. You may not be able to get everything answered, particularly the what if either side is being cautious, but you'll at least need the bulk of the info to set the date.
 
The communications technology keeps evolving, and different folks (both clients and providers) have different preferences and requirements for phone calls vs text vs email. Some people, both providers and clients, prefer or require a phone call at some point to book an appointment. This is useful for screening, and also for building some trust and bonding that will help make a better appointment. Personally I like email, since you can have a decent exchange with some substance and get a sense of who is on the other end. Until fairly recently texting was frowned upon for its perceived flake factor, but now lots of people are comfortable with texting and it's possible to have a decent exchange and get to know someone (and look for potential trouble) through texts back and forth. There are generational preferences, so be sensitive to that and try to be accommodating.
 
I can't speak to screening for FTM escorts and how it might be different, but glad to see @FTM Zachary Prince has chimed in.

As far as I can tell it doesn’t seem like gay escorts really screen their clients beyond using their intuition over the phone or whatever. So if you wanna fit into the “social norm” for gay escorts then you would probably wanna go along the lines of not requiring any “formal” screening.
 
I personally do require screening information from my clients. I used to work as a female escort and continue to feel I am exposed to the same risks of stalking and violence since I advertise in both M4M and straight-oriented ad venues (because bi & heteroflexible guys are a still a large portion of my current client base). I don’t feel comfortable giving up my screening practices. I expect any of the gay clients who want to meet me to follow my screening requirements, which probably severely limits the number of gay clients who contact me about a booking. My pricing is also really abnormally high for a gay escort too, which I’m sure is an additional factor.
 
I do feel your question is phrased in a somewhat unhelpful manner. There are absolutely no established industry norms for how FTMs operate because there is no sector of the industry specially for us. If you plan to work the gay side of the industry exclusively then you need to be asking how gay men screen, not how FTMs screen. If you plan to copy their methods. If you plan to ignore the industry norms and implement your own methods, then you can do that too. Just know that lots of gay clients will be turned off by it and probably avoid booking you.
 
My gay friends who escort have insisted that their clients are not much of a risk of stalking or violence to them. Now that I’m transitioning and seeing the difference between how people treat me as a guy compared to how people treated me when they thought I was a girl, I’d say it’s generally a male privilege thing. Men get to escort without being subject to the same level of risk regarding violence and stalking as a female escort would be. So generally Male escorts don’t seem to screen.
 
Transgender escorts are, however, subject to some of the highest levels of violence in the industry. This is mostly MTF escorts as I understand it. But at this point in my transition I’m much more likely to be booked by trans-fetishists (the same guys who are booking MTF escorts) and heteroflexible/bi/straight men, so I still consider myself to be at risk for these types of violence. If I was being booked almost exclusively by gay clients then I might feel less at risk and change my tune about requiring screening.
 
Best of luck deciding what to do!

@PrettyboyJake, there are several other FTM escorts in the forum, and they post frequently. I'm sure they will contact you either on here or separately. I won't presume to name them.

Lol...I didn't mean it to be, my mistake. But in each case, they were happy to be in their man mode, and mainly dressed up for drag shows and parties, etc. They weren't going for the transition so to speak.
 
That said...one of my bestie is a full TS, so I'm not at all phobic. Just personally...there was/is even a guy who I fucked as a boy a couple of times. Super cute. Then he would occasionally do this drag stuff and become unrecognizable. I wouldn't fuck him in his get up because that's not the person he was when he first approached me, nor do I like long hair and nails, glitter and heels. But if he turns into a boy again after the club....shit, I wouldn't say no.

Hey everyone! Baby FTM escort here. I haven't been able to find much information on this from a male escort's perspective (both cis and trans), just client-side, so I'm curious - what kind of screening information do you like to get before seeing a client, and when do you like to get it? I can see the pros and cons of early on or later on, but it feels like I might be missing some good perspectives while I'm still feeling out when and how I try to screen. I know a lot of it has to do with what makes me personally feel comfortable (which I'm still feeling out) but the standards seem to be way different vs. straight escorting.
 
Also, as an aside, I'm totally looking to connect / chat with other FTM escorts! Hit me up or I'll hit you up, whichever!

Hey everyone! Baby FTM escort here. I haven't been able to find much information on this from a male escort's perspective (both cis and trans), just client-side, so I'm curious - what kind of screening information do you like to get before seeing a client, and when do you like to get it? I can see the pros and cons of early on or later on, but it feels like I might be missing some good perspectives while I'm still feeling out when and how I try to screen. I know a lot of it has to do with what makes me personally feel comfortable (which I'm still feeling out) but the standards seem to be way different vs. straight escorting.
 
Also, as an aside, I'm totally looking to connect / chat with other FTM escorts! Hit me up or I'll hit you up, whichever!