I recall not hearing a lap dancer, too.
It was during one of those multi-dancer sessions, with many of them working the audience in the theater-style seats. One sat on the back of the seat in front of me, and just sat there, waiting. I wasn't interested so I said, "No thank you" as best as I could over the really loud music.He said something to me, but I couldn't hear.
If I read his facial expression correctly, I think he said, "That is SO rude."
Weird.