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As SecretProvider says, it's easy to think of reasons why this situation might arise. And maybe if this was Viewing's first attempt to book, it's a red flag and that's that. I know a provider who was recently in exactly this situation, having traveled to another country to meet a client. So he knew he would be in this other country but, under obligation to his host/primary client, not knowing how much flexibility he might have to provide services to others. It still makes sense to put that trip on his profile, otherwise he might miss out on new clients, and why not advertise in a new city to test local interest for future trips? Until he's there, he may not be able to gauge his host's comfort with the provider meeting other clients.

Exactly. Why not take him at his word, and then carefully reach out again at a future date? He may very well be staying at the home of a client, and unable to get away to meet someone else, or unable to commit this early to meeting someone else. Just be respectful in your messages and always make it clear that you read his previous messages and understood them. In other words, you can wait until closer to the day and say "Hi, just checking in about your travel plans. I understand that you'll be staying with someone and might not have the flexibility to meet me" etc. Once in the past I overthought a provider's offhand comment, and decided he wasn't interested in meeting me again. After I re-read his messages sometime later, I realized I had read all of that into why he wrote. Happy I went through that because he turned out to be one of my favorite regulars, and it taught me to read carefully and not to assume intent, particularly in texting where there's so little nuance and context. Good luck!

I met with Anvar again recently, still highly recommended. I was prepared this time for his deposit request (which he will waive for same-day bookings), and since I'd seen him already I didn't mind paying it. Really enjoyed my time with him!

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That's the kind of warning I'm always eager to hear. But on a serious note, I do want to echo @ThroatCummer and say that you and @Jamie21 (and a couple others) are doing yourself a good service by spending time on here explaining your side of things, I am definitely adding you guys to my list based on your thoughtful and genuine responses, please keep it up!

FYI, there is a recent discussion of him over in the Deli:

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Agreed, and I don't usually mention those experiences here because they've never been bad so much as not great. I think this might be due to differences in expectations, for instance I prefer a proper therapeutic-only massage to a mediocre sex-pretty-much-guaranteed massage.

I agree with this. I prefer to read something positive on here before trying someone new, but this isn't always possible, particularly when traveling. So once in a while I rely on the factors Apex listed above. Maybe I've just been really lucky, or maybe copy/messages/instinct really are enough, because it's worked out great for me so far! Some cities don't seem to have a stable base of highly-rated (and thoroughly discussed on here) providers, which is surprising...

This thread got me reminiscing and I met up with Luke again. His scheduling messages are a lot more low key than they were back in 2018 when I saw him last, but he's still purely therapeutic, and unlike some providers I think he really means it. His massage skills have improved, and I always thought they were strong to begin with -- he now focuses on areas others tend to ignore (such as your chest). Also he played Sufi poetry in the background and was super enthusiastic about discussing it, for me that really elevated the experience, and a far cry from the "Wagnerian" style of music I'd heard him play when I first saw him years ago. Overall really happy I saw him again!

He's been discussed a number of times on here, although some of the discussion conflates him with NorthEastMasseur/NorthEndMasseur. I used to see him years ago and I enjoyed his massages, which were therapeutic only. I've seen repeated mentions on here of possibly racist comments or weird screening questions, I've never experienced that with him (and again those might have been related to NorthEast/NortthEnd, not Luke). He was absolutely adamant about the therapeutic only nature of his massages, and I remember receiving those texts from him. However they were only that, just clearly seeing boundaries. As mentioned elsewhere (and fondly remembered by me), Luke has a beautiful furry chest that looks nothing like NorthEnd's photos (and it's not a matter of shaving because NorthEnd shows a slightly hairy chest). Luke didn't show his face in the past, so you're already getting more information upfront than you would have back when he was discussed here.

I met xdiggity twice recently, he's great, basically exactly what you'd expect from his website copy.

I met @Daniel84 after I saw his posts on here, they made him seem down to earth and fun (which he turned out to be in real life as well).

Thanks, this is great info!

I feel like this is a common theme on here, and it might be a misunderstanding of how this business works... as others have pointed out before, you don't pay an escort to show up, you pay them to leave. That is a good start to understanding why people who don't have to pay for sex might choose to pay for sex. If you talk to providers, you'll know that they occasionally even hire each other, and they're the very definition of someone who doesn't have to pay for sex.