This is common, unless you’ve developed a sexual rapport with them that amplifies the erotic experience over time. I’ve been seeing a young local who will accommodate most of my desires and is a deep kisser, but he’s a little out there in his presentation and I’d be hesitant to be seen with him in public. A taller and more emo provider has now taken up my interests and we are passionate with each other and enjoy being out in public as well. He’s androgynous and even wore a pair of high black riding boots over skinny black jeans to a nice restaurant with me the other night, so I’m certainly not nervous about any flamboyance. He also has a sparkling smile and personality.
You’re best advised to let the so-so local provider recede into your rear-view mirror and take a chance on someone new and exciting. Refreshing one’s wardrobe is essential.
I’ll be heading up there in April and I’m astounded by how many hotties there are. Far superior to Seattle and Portland. I have my eye on at least three!
No provider ever mentioned it to me, although one seemingly “disturbed” guy threatened to when he started insisting that I pay more for a planned session which never occurred. What was odd is that we’d had a charming discussion before he initiated a frantic flurry of IM’s asking for 50% more than we’d agreed on. Bizarre.
I’ve been doing so much hiking, biking, kettle bell swings, kettle bell squats and reverse lunges over the past 10 years that I finally have the ass I’ve always wanted. As @BenjaminNicholas noted, there’s no such thing as a quick fix.