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nycman nailed it.

Yes, no one would accuse Bel Ami of being very clued in to this.

There are parts of the Western Cape that remind me of coastal California, with extensive upper class suburbs, shopping malls and the exquisite Paarl wine country. That area is more racially diverse as well and the opposition party is in power there, not the ANC. 1The financial center of Sandton, outside of Johannesburg, reminds me of Irvine. There’s a lot of money in South Africa, but the disparity between rich and poor is pretty shocking. While there’s a thriving black upper middle class, some of whom I got to know, the legacy of apartheid is still pretty strong. In fact, there’s been a bit of a reverse migration of white South Africans back to SA. Really a very interesting place to visit.

I just texted him to see if he’d like to get together while I’m in Europe. Great find! I hope you get to see him and report back.

He’s making the change in his ad. Btw, he’s very efficient at follow-up.

For The Benefit Of

I agree with much of what you wrote, JJ, but in my experience I’ve developed pretty strong sexual and personal rapport with the circle of guys I’ve seen and have become friends with them. I enjoy my personal time, so I’m able to respect the lines and don’t fret about them, but this hobby has positive mental health and emotional plusses. That’s why I gravitate to weekends after an initial positive session. I can say that overnights without an initial shorter meet have been sub-optimal.

When you check providers’ descriptions they include BDSM in their descriptions. If I’m interested in something kinky, I’ll often include that in my text. A surprising number have seemed willing to try it, although my version is fairly vanilla.

I’ve done threesome three times, one with two gorgeous blonds. The laconic look on the room service guy when he brought breakfast in and set it up while we were sipping Veuve in bed was impressive. The other time was a regular and his bf, which was amazing, and the third was equally fun. Not as interested nowadays, though I’ve discussed bringing two regulars together.

It’s always depressing to see the alcohol calorie count.

Only candles. Even in hotels. Love the way the Golden lights plays off golden flesh while hiding all imperfections. Patchouli a plus.

I can’t imagine the desperate, terror-filled moments before he died. Only minutes from his house and family.

A beautiful showcase of a diverse group of young people, all humble, intelligent and balanced. Too bad their C-in-C shares none of those admirable character traits.

@purplecow, thanks for your great reportage!

I know many dismiss it as faddish, but the blood-type diet, which for me is paleo, combined with rigorous workouts, has kept me in good shape over the years. Also laying off the alcohol as much as possible will help one drop pounds.

That’s why I’m not on Facebook.

There’s always the nice man with the scalpel, syringes and lasers lol!

Dead eyes of a sociopath.

Can you post the Berlin sites? I may be there in April.

I never give the age gap any thought anymore. I’ve aged well and am gregarious and funny and even surprise guys in their early 20’s when we do something outside like a 3 mile run. In some ways age is a social construct.

I’ve been to Prague and may either end the trip there or in Warsaw. Not sure I want to visit there at the end of August, however, given the throngs of tourists. I do want to see Krakow and L’vov, though, after spending some time in Kiev. Ukraine built a high-speed rail system that connect Kiev with Kharkiv, Odessa and L’vov, then on to Poland. Has anyone been to Kiev? The Ukrainian guys look gorgeous.

Yes, there have been a number of nasty posts all over the place. I’m sure books are being planned already.

The local blogs suggest that Woodward picked him up at his house, which wasn’t far from Borrego Park near the Bernstein house. I know that area reasonably well since I lived near the beach in south OC for over 30 years. That part of OC turns pretty desolate and mountainous very quickly. It’s the Santa Ana Mountains, which the notorious Santa Ana winds are named for. I’ve gone mountain-biking there a lot.

Maybe some hiking in the Carpathians.

I’ll be spending quite some time in Eastern Europe this summer and look forward to spending time in places that fascinated me when I was a kid: Ukraine, Bulgaria, Romania, Serbia and the other former Yugoslav republics.