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I don’t.

Well I dont know you so I really can't say. But if you hire escorts with violent criminal records with no regard to the crime you are really throwing caution to the wind.

We all have a shape, but it's the size where some will draw the line. Stat inquiries shouldn't ever be from the person hired by us, unless the fee is waived. We aren't selling ourselves.

I get what you are saying but each escort is different and I feel that if they know what they are getting into upfront there is a better chance for the encounter to be amazing. I fear rejection and would rather be rejected early on than to invest time into something and get let down.

Let me flip the script here.

 

What should an escort do if he discovered the client has a criminal record? Does he go ahead and meet a potentially dangerous individual? Or does he decline the business and miss out on the revenue?

 

I wonder how some clients would react if they learned an escort performed a background check and learned similar sensitive information.

Depends on the crime. But if the escort goes for the revenue rather than declining business, the consequences are on him. I expect to be vetted but most rarely do.

Yep. You said BLACK escorts have criminal backgrounds:

 

"Everyone deserves a second chance, even if he is a convicted criminal, which is not the case presented by the OP, but even in that extreme case I would consider the circumstances to make a decision. Circumstances are everything.

Specially those of us who like playing with young black urban boys from the hood, you better have an open mind about criminal backgrounds."

 

I've been with plenty of white escorts, and plenty of THEM have criminal records. A few got to three strikes. But I don't recall any of the threads about them (or other criminal white escorts) talking about their race at all.

You get off on the risk and danger factor. You may not realize it but you do.

Double homicide conviction, block & ignore. Sexual misconduct for urinating in public, who cares? Its all shades of grey so it just depends on what shows up.

I draw the line at felony convictions. Theft, assault, domestic battery, rape and sexual assaults, child crimes, drug convictions, murder but not necessarily manslaughter. I knew one escort that had a manslaughter conviction that happened because he was driving drunk and hit someone.

I must be a cold hearted shit....because I know I would never say that to anyone. I look at the escorting business with a very gimlet-ed eye--in my mind, you are a contractor I am hiring to perform a technical service I cannot do for myself for whatever reason. I can enjoy your work, and compliment you on doing the task above expectations, but in my mind, you'll always be just a temporary employee. I have an obligation to provide a safe environment & to treat you with basic human respect, but I know we are not two guys who would just hang out and schmooze if money was not the foundation of our interaction. Once I were to hand over money, you go from "attractive guy" to "technician". Like I said, I can enjoy the task, but once I pay for it, to me it becomes not much different from a radiator repair or a cable modem installation.

 

Not particularly romantic, but that's how I roll...so Mike you would be free to bang me knowing that attachment is not something I really do....just saying....

Gosh, man. It seems like you treat them like human dildos. If an escort is willing to fuck me, I give as much passion and respect as I can. The escorts that are good at their jobs will sense that and will respond in kind. Money is the sacrifice I make so that I can be touched and feel desired. If I was just interested in a technician I would just use a dildo.

Every situation is different but I would just treat it as I would any other compliment. I would smile and say "that's very sweet" but I wouldn't over-do it or over-think it, or give it any more extra weight than that. A sincere acknowledgment of the compliment will suffice.

That is lovely. I like how you would handle that.

I realize all of us are different. I’m a lonely guy. But I don’t need that type of fantasy. That’s treading into a dangerous area for me. What I want from an escort is more like a friend with benefits type of relationship. And even the friend part might be asking too much. I’ve had escorts I’ve saw for several years. They always said I was pretty easy to get along with. I hope they were telling the truth. But now that I don’t hire, the only one I hear from occasionally is @Tygerscent. I thought at least one specifically (maybe a few others) actually liked me enough to occasionally check in with me. But he really hasn’t.

 

Gman

Yeah, it can be a dangerous area. I love the psychological aspects of fantasy. I can not get off unless I am mentally stimulated. Fantasies that evoke love and passion are my weakness and greatest satisfaction. I am an ugly man and have never been loved so these type of fantasies are most fulfilling.

Yes it has happened. From the small, dainty hints of poo to the full catastrophic Richter scale 10 events.

 

We are sticking our dicks in an ass, so we know the risks. If it happens, one tries as hard as one can to be light about it, and relaxed.

 

You contain the issue as best as possible. You clean yourself up, ask the bottom to clean himself. If it was only a tiny hint sometimes it is possible to continue playing after a little shower. If it is a full contingency, I recommend the bottom evacuates, showers thoroughly and then we continue doing other things.

 

If there is actual damage in the room I think it is wise to call it a day. There is no way to continue feeling sexy if walls, beds and furniture are smeared. (NO, this is not an exaggeration. People, learn to douche. It's a life saver!)

 

 

 

I would one hundred percent recommend against this. Never re-douche during a session. The ass has little corners where water hides and if you don't let water be absorbed for at least half an hour, the water WILL come out, now in a different color and texture if you stick anything in there.

 

The grossest accidents have ever happened when someone douches and jumps into playing. I can't warn you passionately enough.

 

Don't.

That is so true. My ass needs a resting period before play after cleaning. It sucks to take an hour to prepare but the alternative is dreadful.

no veggies?

Actually you want veggies. High fiber diet. Low carbs, no breads or pastas. It is about controlling the consistency of your stool and making sure it is firm and easily washed out with an enema. Metamucil is great for binding everything together.

Which website do you use?

I have a friend who is a private investigator and they do the search for me. They have access to things I dont. After nearly being murdered years ago I fully vet my potential escorts. I never ever divulge any data that I learn. I made that mistake once and they thought I was a cray cray stalker. Sometimes though it is hard to get valid info and on those I politely decline to proceed. Since vetting, the worse I have encountered were drug charges and dui.

Politely pause. Make sure no boundaries are being crossed.

Pausing breaks the fantasy. I know it is not real but if you are fucking me into utter submission I am going to say I love you. Now if you say I love you after the session has ended then boundaries have been crossed. If I wanted a passionless fuck I would just use grinder or go to the bathhouse.

Nope, not at all. There are no hard and fast rules for this, and you should do whatever you're most comfortable with, but that has never been the client norm in M4M escort hiring.

Thank you for your reply. There have been times I would have preferred to wait a bit to give that info but thought it was required. Nice to know I have options although I generally dont mind giving my stats.

I agree with jawjatech, you sound like a dream client...and whatever rate he offers, I'll undercut it by 10%.

 

As a hardcore top, I love feeling a bottom cum while I'm fucking him. Not exactly analogous to the feelings

you describe above, but damn close. It can be intense and amazing, and I think I understand what you're

trying to describe.

 

However, I don't enjoy coming in a condom. I play safe, but I've always hated the feeling. Fucking?

No problem, condoms don't bother me at all. Cumming? I don't just dislike it, I hate it. I always feel

like my balls aren't free to empty all the way. Worst part is, the more turned on I am and the harder

I cum, the worse the sensation gets. Sometimes, it's even a little painful. So the times I'm having the

most fun always end on a sour note if I try and cum in the condom.

 

So it's become almost routine for me to get as close to cumming as I can and then pull out, rip off the

condom and finish off by hand on the bottom's ass. At this point I'm so into it, it almost qualifies as a fetish.

 

Also, for much of my adult life, most bottoms wouldn't let you cum in their ass, even with a condom

on. That's changed significantly in the past decade, but at the time it was a big deal, and I got used to it.

 

I've noticed a few bottoms get disappointed by this. Some go as far as to blame themselves. As if their ass

wasn't good enough to get me off 100%....which of course is insane.

 

So there you have it. I'm not sure it helps. I thought it might be interesting to hear the story from the

side of a top, who is VERY committed to keeping his bottoms happy, but sometimes can't.

My sexual gratification depends on the tops ability to cum. If you fail to cum then I feel like I did not please you. I do not have sex to get off, I rarely cum. For me it is the intimacy with the top and getting them to cum. It is an incredible feeling to feel the cock pulsing as the top cums.

I was a horrible kisser till an escort was kind and taught me how. I miss him.

It takes me an hour to prepare to bottom. Plus a strict diet the day before. I am mortified by any leakage from me.

If you are fucking me and I say I love you, then dont say anything back, just kiss me. Dont break the fantasy.

I am an ugly man so I always treat my escorts kindly. In return they help me forget that I lost the genetic lottery.

Hello, everyone.

 

I'm in a bit of a pickle.

 

Through a photo that he posted on his escorting Twitter account, and some not-very-difficult sleuthing, I was able to find out the identity of a guy that I'm seeing next month for an overnight. By this I mean I was able to find his real social media accounts—he participates in them almost daily.

 

Our first time seeing each other was only for 2 hours, so we didn't really chat much. This time around, we'll be together for about 12 hours, and obviously not all of it will be intimate. I asked that when we're not in bed that we'd hit up a local bar and just drink and talk.

 

Because I feel relaxed around the guy, I highly doubt I'll be able to stop myself from uttering something from his not-escort life, if not at the beginning of the overnight, most definitely once I've had a few beers or wines in my system.

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On one hand, I'm pretty sure he'll be cool with it. On the other, he might freak out.

 

My question is a very broad one, but I think it's most pertinent: Should I tell him that I know or should I just let things happen and hope for the best?

Dont say a word. Keep the info to yourself. Even if they disclose to you what you already know, do not reveal that you knew. There is a very fine line between due diligence and stalking in their minds.

It is a fine line to walk. I had an escort I fell in love with once because the interactions seemed so genuine. He was just really good at his job. I stay grounded in reality now.

I never hire anyone unless I hear their voice first. There was one guy whose pictures I used to drool over. Finally, I called him. Once I heard his voice, I knew there was no way that I would be into him.

Oh my, I remember one potential escort that looked so hot but had a voice that was a huge turn off. I always chat by phone at some point before committing.

A versatile/top is a bottom that fucks when they have too. I avoid them. I only hire strict tops.

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/escorts-w-criminal-records.123449/page-2

 

What if you find out by google or any other kind of search that someone who just made an appointment with you has a criminal record. Would you stick to the appointment or come up with an excuse not to go.

I dont book an appointment until a thorough vetting and background check has been done.

I have a friend who is a PI do a search and background check before I hire any escort. I never disclose this to the escort. I want to know if you have a tendency for violence, theft or drugs. I know this freaks some out but I had a really bad experience years ago and lesson learned.

Waste of money me thinks.