bostonman

Sometimes it's the voices. Like that horrid scratchy-voiced Rachael Ray and her dumb-sounding "Nutrish" dog food. Or that scratchy-voiced woman (or young girl? can't tell) who does the voice-overs for Panera Bread. Or, any commercial where they think it's cute to get ordinary, tone-deaf folks to try to sing. (Subaru was a huge offender of that over Christmas with all those idiots trying to squeak out a few bars of "Put A Little Love In Your Heart.") Speaking of Subaru - what the hell is their whole "love" thing all about? ("Love is what makes a Subaru a Subaru" and all that nonsense) Recurring characters - is anyone sick of Flo and her twinky idiot sidekick Jamie? (And the fact that they've all but abandoned the actual product - Progressive Insurance - in favor of stupid ads about stupid Jamie...)

I wish I could make it into NYC more often. My priorities at the moment would be the upcoming Frozen and Carousel, as I have colleagues in both. But I would indeed like to see Bernadette in Dolly as well - and also the Encores' Me And My Girl, as I've always loved that show. I'd also love to revisit Once On This Island which I saw in previews and would like to see again. But I doubt I will get to all of those.

More commonly spelled "zaftig," but since proper Yiddish isn't spelled with English letters, it's no big deal. I took a look at Conner, and might have been interested, but that 400 disqualifies me. Moving on...

I know there is always a bit of controversy about swallowing and health consequences. I don't wish to start that conversation here - I just want to say how awesome that moment is, in so many ways. To me, eating a guy's semen is likeingesting liquid testosterone - the essence of his manhood. When a guy knows I like to swallow, and/or when I know he likes to be swallowed, the moment becomes a very intense male bonding as we both share the incredible intimacy of the moment. Also, I've always been very drawn to the amazing contradictions of orgasm, in the way that it's both the most powerful, masculine moment in sex, but also the most vulnerable at the exact same time. A guy shooting his load into my mouth is a manifestation of his power, but my causing him to give up his sperm that way makes me the powerful one and him the one giving into the overwhelming pleasure. (See "succubus" lol.) Though I strongly believe that sex is (and always should be) SO much more than just getting to orgasm, I do have to admit that when I'm blowing someone, part of my desire is to end up with a mouthful of jizz. And I'd say that most guys I've been with have been very happy to oblige.

I had the same kind of experience. Great guy, very attentive to my needs and wants. Affectionate, friendly, and seemed to enjoy his profession. A class act. And sexy as fucking hell.

I don't know. I'm hoping it will indeed be added - occasionally there are rights issues (the Satyagraha HD has never been on the On Demand site - I'm assuming that was due to royalties, either by the production team or by Glass). I do expect that PBS will air the production sometime later this year, though. And there could be an encore showing in movie theatres this summer, though obviously that won't work for you.

So please stop trying. Good for you. I'm impressed. And now let's move on to another subject, thank you.

This is a pointless conversation. Suffice to say that with me, he did not act professionally. Your mileage may vary. Or, you yourself may be Collin trying to sneak a defense in (that happened once before out here, so I'm not just saying that out of the blue). I am not interested in Collin or in some kind of redemption of his honor in my eyes, for christ's sake. It seems he's doing quite well without me, and I think that's the way it should be. And as I said before, no matter how good he may be in bed does not excuse his off-the-charts childish behavior with me after I tried to politely decline my session based on the snuck-in fee. A fee you claim I should not have been asked to pay because you say he doesn't charge people that fee if they're in Boston. Something's fishy here. Enough.

Yes, but you included both of our names in your post, and clearly the "travel fee" affected both of us. But I do live in Boston. Collin was not upfront about the fee, only later telling me that trips to Boston would be more expensive.

I'm in Boston. I'm nowhere near NH.

I like doing that too. Really fun to work my tongue in between the head and the skin. Also, whenever I'm meeting up with an uncut guy who wants to get sucked, I always ask if he'll also let me stroke it for a while - and if I can watch him stroke it as well. Always just so hot to watch the skin move back and forth over and off the head.

To turn the tables for a moment - those of us who GIVE blow jobs also have our needs at times, and things that make the experience special for us. I'm sure there are plenty of guys who are happy simply to get their mouth on a nice cock, and to give the best service they can, but not expect anything much in the way of response from the guy getting sucked. Personally, I really dislike that. With very few exceptions, I don't like when the guy just lays back and receives - when that happens, I actually find myself not wanting to do as good a job. (Or, in the politics of the moment, lol, I might try to do whatever I can to get the guy off quickly, so that it's over sooner.) I find that for me, one of the most satisfying and erotic responses back is for them to reach out and start caressing my head. Stroking my hair, gently guiding my head up and down, having their hand rubbing my face or chin or neck, or shoulders, etc. Or my nipples, which drives me wild. A guy who naturally likes to give that sort of reciprocal touch is a guy that I would blow anytime, lol. Vocal response is also key. I tend not to like too much "porn script" talk, but even that can be kinda fun when it feels truly honest and not just a guy saying what he thinks he's supposed to say. Or, wordless grunts/moans/breathing, etc - all so sexy. Plus, of course, any reactions like that give me a clue as to the particular things I'm doing that feel the best to him. I'm sure other "givers" out here can add to this list.

And really, no matter what any of us may think about any given show, THAT is what theatre is all about.

I can see well enough, in this context, without mine, and they just get in the way. Plus, there's just something about that moment when you're starting to get into it with a guy - maybe some hot making out, etc - and then the slight stop to take off the glasses - it's almost like taking off that first bit of clothing - that admission that yes, this is going somewhere...

I tried once. After talking for a bit and setting things up, he suddenly threw in that extra travel fee - something I really think he should be much more upfront about. (I don't necessarily object to the extra fee, just that he snuck it in as an afterthought - at that point even his ad didn't make it clear that he wasn't actually in the Boston area, but in the farther "metrowest" area.) I politely declined the meeting. He then started sending me all sorts of freak-out angry emails. Who the fuck needs that? He even started badmouthing another escort out of the blue (he had seen I had written this other escort a review). I'm done. He may be cute, he may even be great in bed if I'm to believe reports out here. But he totally fucked up that first impression, and he can't get that back.

I've had this happen. A guy who used to (and sometimes still does) advertise on backpage in Boston (see, some guys on BP really are legit and worth it, lol), who I know as a colleague in his non-escort life. I wound up chatting with him (legit-wise) online one day, and let him know I had seen, and admired, his ads, and wanted to know if he ever got hired by friends or colleagues. He was very flattered, and very open to talking about it all - but he did say that he preferred to keep his escort life separate from his friends, etc. And I respect that, so I didn't try to push him further lol. It was all for the good - he was very gracious about it, and is still quite friendly with me when I see him in public. But oh, sometimes I wish he would have said yes, lol. Once I did have an odd (but good) "escort-like" transaction with a colleague - someone I had once worked with and was still friendly with, who I then saw on Manhunt. I took the plunge and said hi - we talked and over time, he admitted he might be interested in something casual. But schedule and other logistics kept getting in the way. Then, one day he got in touch for legit professional reasons, hoping to use MY services. We joked that hey, maybe we should include sex in the deal. And we wound up doing just that. He wound up paying me part of my legit fee, and in return, I gave him a bj (which is what I was hoping for lol). We wound up doing that deal twice actually. I think it worked out well. He got the professional advice he needed, I got to suck him off. Everyone was happy. I've had a few other potential situations that I've steered clear from. Once on rentboy, I saw a familiar face but couldn't place him - I figured maybe I had seen his ad somewhere else. I contacted him, and he sent me an email back from his personal account - his real name included. It was then that I realized that he was a former student of mine - and not one that I'd say was at the head of his class lol. I did think about pursuing it momentarily, but ultimately realized it just wouldn't be a good idea. I never let him know that we actually knew each other.

And, the way I feel about it - if he doesn't reply, he might as well have blocked you (or you might as well go ahead and block him), because what's the point in continuing to talk to him anyway?

Context understood. But look at the full lyrics. So unbelievably unspecific. It could really fit any number of stories and characters. If you’re really going to write a song about people from disparate backgrounds falling in love against the odds, then write it. This isn’t a song that does that. The subject has to resonate in something other than the title.

And it's funny that I can't quite extend this part of the comparison to Lloyd Webber as well. Sarah Brightman, who was so "uniquely qualified" to play Christine in the American premiere of The Phantom Of The Opera (remember that ploy?) tends to be such a bland singer. Eder is infinitely more enjoyable.

Much like Andrew Lloyd Webber, I feel that Wildhorn is a deft tunesmith who often gets brought down by ineffective lyric writing. "Someone Like You" is credited to both Wildhorn and the certainly talented Leslie Bricusse (i.e. they may have collaborated on the lyric instead of it having only been Bricusse) - but I feel this is a prime example of the problem. The tune soars easily in "popera anthem" fashion - but what about the rather obtuse use of "someone" in the lyric? I think it's one thing to say, colloquially, "I've always wanted to meet someone like you," and we know what is meant by that. But to extend the phrase and have "someone like you" love "someone like me" seems to me way too cutesy and also, literally, nonsensical. It's a case of a sweeping tune carrying the sentiment of a song that really has very improbable lyrics. (It's also full of cliches, which also get covered over in the rich sauce of Wildhorn's tune. A good sauce can disguise lots of bad meals, lol.)

I've always been under the impression that "Q" is more of a politically/socially charged term (think back to "Queer Nation" etc) than just one of sexual orientation. One can be "gay" but not necessarily feel like part of the "queer" movement, etc.

I can't quite get on board with "yinz" but I won't complain about it either. I have a Texan friend who told me that "y'all" can also be used as a singular pronoun - and that "all y'all" is for a group.

Also, in the academic situation I presented above, when our department meets to talk about how classes are going and how the students are doing, it can at times get very confusing to know if we're talking about the student I mentioned above ("they") or the full class of students ("they"). Which only tends to lead us to refer to the student as "he" (or the first name instead of a pronoun) so that we understand who we're talking about.

And, I cannot think of an incident where I have referred to a woman as "Ms" and she has objected, even if she is married. But perhaps this is also because Miss, Ms, and Mrs all sound very close to each other in casual conversation. I have a student (college senior, actor) who has, just this year, decided to start identifying as "they." That's fine. But since we've known him as "he" for the last 3 years, it's a tough adjustment to make. He - um, they - has also slightly changed their first name in a way that they most probably perceives as less male, though I would disagree that it does - it just feels like more of a nickname to me. It's also been tricky to always remember this new form of name. (Actually, there were TWO name changes - one last year, to an alternate spelling of the original name, and now, this new shortened version.) Outwardly, this student seems to be ok with our lapses as we try to adjust. But in course evaluations from last semester, I got a comment that I seemed not to be sensitive to pronoun issues - and I have to suspect that it was a comment from this student. (This student also has kind of set themselves apart from the rest of the class, personality-wise, so I tend to doubt it was anyone else sticking up for them.) Many of us still use "un-PC" gender terms in a colloquial/conversational sense - I have certainly addressed a mixed-gender class or theatre cast as "guys" (i.e. "you guys really sang great today" or "hey, guys - we need to go over this section again" etc). I don't tend to feel that that bothers the female students - if it does, they don't say so. Also in theatre, we still have a tendency to use "boys" and "girls" in cast terms (i.e. "the chorus boys" or "the dancing girls") though I do try to use "ladies" and "men" when I think about it. But again, most actors don't tend to equivocate much about all of that. But oh, in a recent department-wide forum on diversity issues (which is becoming, rightfully, a hot button topic everywhere, but it's very much an issue on our campus right now), every student who had something to say introduced themselves with their name AND their pronoun chain. And in 99% of the cases, it was the expected "he/him/his" or "she/her/hers" - which honestly, made it all seem very pretentious and superfluous. I do understand why this is important to the students, and I don't want to trivialize it, but on the other hand, I find it a rather tedious and masturbatory exercise. My apologies for that. I will always continue to give my students the utmost respect, which includes recognizing any changes in the expected gender terms. But I also wonder if this is really being misused as some new fad, some new method of attention-getting, for most of them, instead of reserving it as a true sign of respect for those people who do have valid gender identity issues. I would much rather be politely corrected by a student if I have their nomenclature wrong, than to constantly have pronoun chains recited at me.

Did you ever see the filmed (by MTV) showing of Legally Blonde? I swear it was more about the endlessly whoop-whooping screaming girls in the audience than it was about the show itself, lol. Now, granted - I certainly prefer audiences to express themselves in joyful/involved ways when it's appropriate - but yeah, there's wasy to show appropriate enthusiasm without going way over the top for the sake of going way over the top...