Aaron_Bauder

How many fairies can fit on the head of needle?
- A Dissertation

This book is, was, and always will be phenomenal. #threadwinner
 

 
I think most people's preferences are too subconcious to be described as racist in the way we think of active racism. However, it's obvious that preferences are affected by culture. Think of the doll tests, where children of all races as young as 2 describe white dolls as "pretty" and "smart" and an identical doll with brown skin as "ugly" and "stupid." That shows that our kids are bombarded with racist messages from birth in was we cannot even imgaine. American gays grow up in a racist culture. Of course, what we find attractive is going to be affected, how can it not?
 
Preferences are what they are -- are they racist in and of themselves? Probably not. But let's stop denying they aren't influeced by racism in American culture. It just is what it is.
 
Integration is the key to breaking this conditioning, but many gays are fine leading segregated lives, where they interact with one race 99% of the time. If that's your cup of tea, fine, but let's stop pretending to be so inclusive and #LoveWins and progressive when our interpersonal relationships look like a Hitler Youth meeting. I mean, come on.

And just because they say no you believe them and proceed? lol
 
I love the false sense of security people get from these kinds of questions, when fact is anybody could be lying to you at any time. Everyone should be doing what is necessary to protect his or her own health. Just because someone tells you they don't bareback or tells you they're neg or regularly tested or whatever is ocmpletely and totally meaningless.

This book is, was, and always will be phenomenal. #threadwinner
 

 
I think most people's preferences are too subconcious to be described as racist in the way we think of active racism. However, it's obvious that preferences are affected by culture. Think of the doll tests, where children of all races as young as 2 describe white dolls as "pretty" and "smart" and an identical doll with brown skin as "ugly" and "stupid." That shows that our kids are bombarded with racist messages from birth in was we cannot even imgaine. American gays grow up in a racist culture. Of course, what we find attractive is going to be affected, how can it not?
 
Preferences are what they are -- are they racist in and of themselves? Probably not. But let's stop denying they aren't influeced by racism in American culture. It just is what it is.
 
Integration is the key to breaking this conditioning, but many gays are fine leading segregated lives, where they interact with one race 99% of the time. If that's your cup of tea, fine, but let's stop pretending to be so inclusive and #LoveWins and progressive when our interpersonal relationships look like a Hitler Youth meeting. I mean, come on.

"go to Asia, go to Africa."
 
We always prefer to ignore that which does not fit with our preferred narratives, don't we?
 
Young gay black men, who are routinely devalued and invalidated by whites first beauty standards in Trump's America, should defintely travel the entire world to discover a broader pool of individuals who value them as attractive human beings with something to contribute. Absolutely 100% they should.

Anti-black racism exists in all Western cultures, but it's exponentially worse in America due to our rather strained racial history. Children are culturally conditioned by subtle messages in media and culture from birth to find whiteness and white traits more desirable and attractive, and of course anyone who grows up in a white supremacist culture is going to subconciously internalize this. So of course black guys are devalued and underappreciated in American gay culture relative to other places. Gays are not immune from this conditioning. It's very sad as, again, gays love to promote themselves as champions or freedom and equality while leading social lives that look like something out of the segregated south. It does not compute. Some places are much worse than other -- L.A. gays are probably the absolute worst of the bunch when it comes to their secret WHITES ONLY parties and gatherings while parading around publicly as champions of liberalism.
 
I recommend black guys save up and travel. Go to Europe, go to Australia, go to Asia, go to Africa. Then you can find out your true value. The same perfectly goodlooking black guy who gets shunned and ignored in Los Angeles can go to Berlin and be treated like a God. I wish all black guys could afford to travel. Many are very, very attractive but virtually ignored in the states. Please get out of this insane country as often as possible and find some gays who are actually as progressive and open-minded as American gays pretend to be, when we are really blinded, brainwashed and made stupid by white supremacist conditioning.

Anti-black racism exists in all Western cultures, but it's exponentially worse in America due to our rather strained racial history. Children are culturally conditioned by subtle messages in media and culture from birth to find whiteness and white traits more desirable and attractive, and of course anyone who grows up in a white supremacist culture is going to subconciously internalize this. So of course black guys are devalued and underappreciated in American gay culture relative to other places. Gays are not immune from this conditioning. It's very sad as, again, gays love to promote themselves as champions or freedom and equality while leading social lives that look like something out of the segregated south. It does not compute. Some places are much worse than other -- L.A. gays are probably the absolute worst of the bunch when it comes to their secret WHITES ONLY parties and gatherings while parading around publicly as champions of liberalism.
 
I recommend black guys save up and travel. Go to Europe, go to Australia, go to Asia, go to Africa. Then you can find out your true value. The same perfectly goodlooking black guy who gets shunned and ignored in Los Angeles can go to Berlin and be treated like a God. I wish all black guys could afford to travel. Many are very, very attractive but virtually ignored in the states. Please get out of this insane country as often as possible and find some gays who are actually as progressive and open-minded as American gays pretend to be, when we are really blinded, brainwashed and made stupid by white supremacist conditioning.

And just because they say no you believe them and proceed? lol
 
I love the false sense of security people get from these kinds of questions, when fact is anybody could be lying to you at any time. Everyone should be doing what is necessary to protect his or her own health. Just because someone tells you they don't bareback or tells you they're neg or regularly tested or whatever is ocmpletely and totally meaningless.

Anti-black racism exists in all Western cultures, but it's exponentially worse in America due to our rather strained racial history. Children are culturally conditioned by subtle messages in media and culture from birth to find whiteness and white traits more desirable and attractive, and of course anyone who grows up in a white supremacist culture is going to subconciously internalize this. So of course black guys are devalued and underappreciated in American gay culture relative to other places. Gays are not immune from this conditioning. It's very sad as, again, gays love to promote themselves as champions or freedom and equality while leading social lives that look like something out of the segregated south. It does not compute. Some places are much worse than other -- L.A. gays are probably the absolute worst of the bunch when it comes to their secret WHITES ONLY parties and gatherings while parading around publicly as champions of liberalism.
 
I recommend black guys save up and travel. Go to Europe, go to Australia, go to Asia, go to Africa. Then you can find out your true value. The same perfectly goodlooking black guy who gets shunned and ignored in Los Angeles can go to Berlin and be treated like a God. I wish all black guys could afford to travel. Many are very, very attractive but virtually ignored in the states. Please get out of this insane country as often as possible and find some gays who are actually as progressive and open-minded as American gays pretend to be, when we are really blinded, brainwashed and made stupid by white supremacist conditioning.

Anti-black racism exists in all Western cultures, but it's exponentially worse in America due to our rather strained racial history. Children are culturally conditioned by subtle messages in media and culture from birth to find whiteness and white traits more desirable and attractive, and of course anyone who grows up in a white supremacist culture is going to subconciously internalize this. So of course black guys are devalued and underappreciated in American gay culture relative to other places. Gays are not immune from this conditioning. It's very sad as, again, gays love to promote themselves as champions or freedom and equality while leading social lives that look like something out of the segregated south. It does not compute. Some places are much worse than other -- L.A. gays are probably the absolute worst of the bunch when it comes to their secret WHITES ONLY parties and gatherings while parading around publicly as champions of liberalism.
 
I recommend black guys save up and travel. Go to Europe, go to Australia, go to Asia, go to Africa. Then you can find out your true value. The same perfectly goodlooking black guy who gets shunned and ignored in Los Angeles can go to Berlin and be treated like a God. I wish all black guys could afford to travel. Many are very, very attractive but virtually ignored in the states. Please get out of this insane country as often as possible and find some gays who are actually as progressive and open-minded as American gays pretend to be, when we are really blinded, brainwashed and made stupid by white supremacist conditioning.

And just because they say no you believe them and proceed? lol
 
I love the false sense of security people get from these kinds of questions, when fact is anybody could be lying to you at any time. Everyone should be doing what is necessary to protect his or her own health. Just because someone tells you they don't bareback or tells you they're neg or regularly tested or whatever is ocmpletely and totally meaningless.

And just because they say no you believe them and proceed? lol
 
I love the false sense of security people get from these kinds of questions, when fact is anybody could be lying to you at any time. Everyone should be doing what is necessary to protect his or her own health. Just because someone tells you they don't bareback or tells you they're neg or regularly tested or whatever is ocmpletely and totally meaningless.

Not at all when he's already been there once before and waiting in freezing rain for 15 minutes, only to have the client no-show.
 
I fail to see what's sketchy about escort's communication. He said explicitly, "Come now or wait till 11:30?" He was told to "come now." He did that. He texted, "Here." He got no response from a dude who'd already flaked on him before. No, it's not his responsiblity any more at that point to beg and plead with the client to meet him. Sorry, but no. It's called boundaries. At some point, enough is enough.
 
As to cheerleading, I don't know James XL and don't want to know him. Not defending him based on any personal relationship. Also I don't find the veiny, cartoon muscle look attractive, so not defending him based on my loins either. My assessment is based purely on the known facts. Now if he had Pietro Boselli's body or Cam Newton's face, then maybe yeah, I'd be biased. As it is, no.

Not at all when he's already been there once before and waiting in freezing rain for 15 minutes, only to have the client no-show.
 
I fail to see what's sketchy about escort's communication. He said explicitly, "Come now or wait till 11:30?" He was told to "come now." He did that. He texted, "Here." He got no response from a dude who'd already flaked on him before. No, it's not his responsiblity any more at that point to beg and plead with the client to meet him. Sorry, but no. It's called boundaries. At some point, enough is enough.
 
As to cheerleading, I don't know James XL and don't want to know him. Not defending him based on any personal relationship. Also I don't find the veiny, cartoon muscle look attractive, so not defending him based on my loins either. My assessment is based purely on the known facts. Now if he had Pietro Boselli's body or Cam Newton's face, then maybe yeah, I'd be biased. As it is, no.

Not at all when he's already been there once before and waiting in freezing rain for 15 minutes, only to have the client no-show.
 
I fail to see what's sketchy about escort's communication. He said explicitly, "Come now or wait till 11:30?" He was told to "come now." He did that. He texted, "Here." He got no response from a dude who'd already flaked on him before. No, it's not his responsiblity any more at that point to beg and plead with the client to meet him. Sorry, but no. It's called boundaries. At some point, enough is enough.
 
As to cheerleading, I don't know James XL and don't want to know him. Not defending him based on any personal relationship. Also I don't find the veiny, cartoon muscle look attractive, so not defending him based on my loins either. My assessment is based purely on the known facts. Now if he had Pietro Boselli's body or Cam Newton's face, then maybe yeah, I'd be biased. As it is, no.

Dude, I don't know anything about your story. I've only been commenting on the original poster's story. You're the one who's conflated his story with yours, when you accused other posters of being James's cheerleaders and of running to him with the OP's story, when you asked if they also told him about "stealing" a client's money and not providing the service for which he was paid. The OP never alleged that.
 

 
You can start your own thread if you want to solicit feedback on your bad experience with James, but most of us on this thread were not talking about that until you effectively hijacked it with your repeated rants about wanting a $400 refund for an incident for which you've provided virtually no details. None of us are going to jump through hoops to research all of your past posts to gather these details. Say what you will about the OP, but at least he provided us with the relevant details of his experience before soliciting our opinions. You haven't even done that. You are getting way too riled up here, to the point that you're not even engaging in rational discussion anymore, but you're instead insulting folks and pleading for a conversation and/or resolution with someone who clearly wants nothing more to do with you. For your own sake, please just let this go, and find a way to be happy and fulfilled outside of your experiences with escorts and fighting with unknown forum members. This is not a good look.

James didn’t steel any money it was a deposit to come back and the guy flaked again
He had to pay holland tunnel toll twice to see him plus gas and drive time
I’m sure James has an easier way to make money..gas and tolls maybe $45
So he took the trip twice from nj an hour each
Way 4 hours for 2 trips to make $30
Please James was screwed with plain and
Simple

Stop. You were an ass. And you continue to trash him. You never met him. And it was all due to your own poor behavior. So just stop. It's both pitiful (you) and spiteful for you to keep degrading James.

Totally agree with this.

In the words of the young ones online: GTFOH with that nonsense. When someone's already screwed you over once before, but you give him a 2nd chance anyway, you are under no obligation to bend over backwards to give him the benefit of the doubt when it looks like he's screwed you over yet again. Contrary to what you've said before, that doesn't reflect poorly on James's character. To the contrary, standing up for one's self and not letting others take advantage of you shows strength of character.
 
I probably never would have accepted a 2nd appointment with the not-so-good doctor, but if I had, I'd have waited no more than just a few minutes after he told me to "come now." James gave him 15, which was more than enough. Could he have waited longer? Sure, but he was under no obligation to do so, especially late at night, during winter, and in an unfamiliar neighborhood in a city he doesn't live in. There's a difference between being exceedingly nice, and being a pushover. Under these circumstances it was definitely reasonable for James to conclude that he'd been taken for a ride yet again, given how the doctor acted the first time. Stop with the BS excuses.

Simple answer to your question is: no.

You are aware this was the second time this client had wasted his time? so no, I don't think it is 'sketchy" at all.

Would you even listen to yourself? You don't get to demand that someone meet you face to face, especially when you're acting so nutty on an online forum. Either you're engaging in some grade-A trolling of everyone here, or something is seriously wrong with your coping skills and emotional state. Again, for your own sake, please get some help and move on.

At the risk of beating an already dead horse, you have to also realise that your excuse makes no logical sense. If you said yes to "come now" instead of him arriving at the prescheduled time of 12 mins later, it doesnt take a genius to figure out that means he expected to be in advance of 11.30, otherwise why ask you? Also, how dirty are your teeth it took you 15 minutes to brush them......really? Am guessing he was lucky he left

Even more B.S. You cannot truthfully state, with any reasonable degree of certainty, that James "was not at my door." Why? Because you were brushing your teeth for 15 freaking minutes after you told someone to "come now" rather than wait 12 minutes until the original time you'd agreed to meet. Since you never went down in a timely manner to retrieve your guest, you cannot possibly know whether he was there at 11:17 when he texted you, 11:18 when you responded, or within a few minutes after that. All you know is that he wasn't there at 11:33 when you texted him asking where he was.
 
The notion that a professional (or anyone, really) should wait around for 15 minutes late at night in the dead of a New York winter, and then just proceed with an appointment and discount the time that you made him freeze outside in an unfamiliar neighborhood, all while he looked like a loiterer, lest he reveal (according to you and one other poster) poor character, displays such a lack of consideration, arrogance, and entitlement. The very fact that you stubbornly insist that you're in the right, here, is proof positive of this.
 
I'm not a cheerleader for James. I've never met or spoken with him, nor am I into muscle worship. So, he's not the kind of guy I'm typically into, or that I'd hire. I have no horse in this race, so to speak. This is just about right and wrong, and you, sir, are entirely in the wrong.