Similar answer: This year, for my birthday (after not celebrating birthdays for some time)... I asked a guy I knew from RM, whom I had seen several times, to join me in Las Vegas for two days which I later extended to three days (first time doing this). (1) I was looking for compatibility with my own personality. (2) I wanted to feel that I really physically wanted this guy. (3) I wanted someone who had already showed that would enjoy my company. Those were the things that were important to me at decision time... I told myself that I wanted to remember that particular birthday for days/years to come and so far it exceeded my expectations...