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I was picturing spooning I guess with the provider being the big spoon.

Took a chance on him and this guy is the real deal. Super easy to book.  Texted him and he responded right away. I had a 90-minute special session with him. He is tall, handsome, Latino, and definitely beyond blessed in all the right places. Yes…it’s big. Super welcoming from the start and really knows what he’s doing. During the special session he mixed therapeutic and sensual massage. We used the full 90 minutes in his studio. No rush, just pure presence and connection. Nice studio, clean and very relaxing. The whole experience made me want to book him for longer. 10/10

RM as in RentMasseur, the link above?
Or RM as in RentMen?
If the latter, please provide a link.

I definitely wouldn't call SW a men's spa, but you should absolutely check it out if you're curious.  If you rent a room, it does lock, and you'll have the key on an elastic band you can wear on your wrist or ankle.  Or you can get just a locker, and the same key situation applies.  In addition, they have a lockbox system at the front desk when you check in, where you can store your valuables (wallet, watch, phone, etc), so you don't have to keep anything too valuable in your locker or room.
Friday evening/night will definitely be busy.  Although I haven't been in a number of years, you can be as voyeuristic or directly engaged in the action as you'd like.  Don't be so sure no one will be interested...there's someone for everyone out there, especially on a busy night.  If a guy is not interested, respect it, and move on.  Others will do the same when you are not interested in them.  It's the nature of the place.  If you do want to do just watch/look, there's plenty of opportunity to do that in the common areas...wet area on the first floor, some common play areas on the other floors.  
If you do get a room, you won't want to just be sitting in there (although some guys will wait for action by sitting face up or down on the bed and living the door open.   But you'll see more if you cruise around  and can go back to the room if you find a match (or play in public).
Feel free to message with questions, or ask publicly.  My overall experience with SW is that it can be as much or as little as you want it to be.

This provider used to be Daviduatl. I encourage staying away from this provider. I left the massage after about 15 minutes as his behavior was strange, as was the start of the message which he began by pouring coconut oil over my back and back of legs. The little bit of "massage" I experienced made no sense, and he was not able to adequately explain what he was doing after I questioned him. Within minutes of my leaving, he blocked me on RM so I couldn't leave a review but not before sending me a strange message. 

A link would help.

https://rent.men/Pec_inspector
I thought I had seen a thread about this man a while back, but I just searched and got nothing.  I was wondering if anyone had any experience with him.

Be careful…currently a Level 3  advisory “reconsider travel” I love Tijuana, Ensenada, but times are a changing there.
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Saw him around six months ago at his place. Excellent sensual/erotic massage! Don’t expect anything therapeutic. 😁
Very similar experience to his massage videos without the full conclusion. I’m sure you can probably get that with his “boyfriend experience” rate.
He’s more stunning in person than his pictures and seems like a genuine guy who cares about his clients.
Would not hesitate to recommend. May even go for the full experience next time I’m in town!

$180 for a 60 minute strictly therapeutic massage seems kind of high 😂

Thanks. Those are average rates for San Diego.

No, those are not average rates for San Diego. 
Based on all published rates in San Diego, the average is 121.43 for 60 minutes, in call (at the masseur place) 
This is the data taken from MF site  
200 + 140 + 125 + 120 + 120 + 130 + 150 + 200 + 140 + 80 + 120 + 125 + 150 + 100 + 170 + 155 + 150 + 110 + 160 + 135 + 150 + 120 + 130 + 130 + 135 + 110 + 155 + 120 + 110 + 150 + 110 + 85 + 135 + 80 + 140 + 80 + 160 + 120 + 180 + 120 + 180 + 150 = 5100.
Now divide:
5100 ÷ 42 = 121.43 (rounded to two decimals).
✅ Average = 121.43
 

Sounds like you had a different experience. Good for you. I can only share my experience. Its a legitimate typical small spa at street level of a nice building. 

Thanks for the info! As for James could you go into specifics of how little qualms he has? You can message me about it as well!

Hey, looking for any recommendations or insights into older “dad”-types and bear masseurs in Chicago and NYC. Love muscles, but more into older and hairy men. Interested in individuals as well as locations to check out. Thanks!

I don’t think a visit to TJ these days is worth the risk. 

compared to New York, LA and Chicago?  look around dude we're not safe in our own country.  

For the uninitiated… who is “we”?

Thanks for info 200 therapeutic in boxers…no need for me to pursue   So many options for less where you get more lol

I couldn't agree with you more. And the grabbing of his crotch, for some reason, turns me off. 

Lighten up, Mary. 

I e since made three trips to TIjuana (two specifically to go out to Premier). Had a blast every time. 
 
I’ve learned that if you buy them drinks. They spend time with you. Such an easy way to tip them when they’re not moving targets!! 
 
Was able to make it to o e of their men-only nights and while I loved the crowd (it definitely rings in the locals!), I don’t hate it when the women are in the bar.  The dancers, at least the ones I was interested in, knew who was gonna, butter their bread for the evening and they were incredibly attentive, conspicuous in their stopping at my table, and generally loads of fun. 
 
I have to admit that these trips have spoiled me and I basically don’t go out to LA bars anymore just to quench my stripper thirst. Now it’s either Adonis, Tijuana, or I get on a plane!  

I can't wait to go to Tijuana sometime. I hope things have been gotten better there safety wise. I have a friend from there and he is one of the nicest guys I've ever met.

Yes, I'm a huge fan of TJ as a destination for both escort services and strip clubs. The gay equivalent of the hetero Hong Kong is Premier Men's Club. Personally, I think it's currently experiencing an ebb and isn't what it once was. They have some really hot guys but a majority of them are just average. Most of the top Premier dancers have left TJ and immigrated to the US and now work in LA bars as gogo dancers (Lalo O'Conner, Noel Alberto, Yancarlo of Club Papi). It's still a fun time especially during Solo Para Hombre nights when only men are allowed and the guys are more open to doing stuff during lap dances. There's also small gay bars that have gogo dancers. Bendito Cabron is a new bar that opened up last year that has hotter guys than Premier IMHO. I would caution that crossing the border from TJ to back to the USA is an absolute clusterfuck atm and may take more than 3 hours because of the current border situation and CBP staffing shortages. Also, ever since the pandemic ended, TJ has seen less American tourists and you're more likely to get stopped and extorted for money by the police. I never had this happen to me before the pandemic but it's happened to me twice just in 2023 alone.

I've seen this term before. Can you please explain what it means in a massage?