I didn't want kids - didn't think it was in me to be a successful father - my wife did, so I went along with it. Thought I was off the hook when we tried for 2 years and nothing happened even with fertility help. My wife stopped all drugs and timing and Boom - suddenly there was a baby boy in our life. And then Boom - there was another baby boy. I was 39. There were many struggles for many years with both of them but with love, and patience, and guidance there are now two more, responsible, caring, loving men in the world. Wouldn't change what was, and is, for anything.