JudasKane

Check out Judas's new web site... props for the design and sexy content!
 
http://www.kinkyboyfriend.xyz/

Because some guys like to bareback!
 
Are you using condoms for blowjobs? Because if not, you can easily contract and spread all the STIs you mentioned from oral sex. That's not a risk SPECIFIC to bareback anal sex.
 
If guys are asking you to bareback when your profiles clearly state that you DON'T, then I certainly empathise with you though. It's never acceptable for a client to push your boundaries when you've already said NO.
 
But at the end of the day, your safer sex preferences are not superior to anyone else's. We all make choices about which risks we want to take and which we don't. You can justify your choices and condemn someone else's by citing STI risks, but in reality no penetrative sex (including oral) is truly safe. The best we can do is choose the types of protection that make us feel at peace with our choices.
 
And you are NOT competing with escorts who bareback for clients who are exclusively interested in barebacking. Those clients will find what they want regardless. If you don't provide the service that they are looking for, they will move onto someone else because that's what people do.
 
If the exchanges are annoying you then I would recommend making it exceedingly clear in all your marketing that you don't BB and don't want to be asked about it. Consider anyone who asks you to reconsider to be a boundary-pusher and delete them without responding. Problem solved.

Out of curiosity, I created a profile. Very sparsely populated, but it is a new site and I noticed one familiar face from the area.
 
However, there is an additional red flag that I don't believe has been discussed. Escorts have two options for additional verification....
1. Approve by Skype - (that seems reasonable enough)
Or
2. Approve by Meeting - "give a FREE sample session to our representative to get his trusted comment in your profile" --- this is setting off all sorts of alarms for me personally.

Out of curiosity, I created a profile. Very sparsely populated, but it is a new site and I noticed one familiar face from the area.
 
However, there is an additional red flag that I don't believe has been discussed. Escorts have two options for additional verification....
1. Approve by Skype - (that seems reasonable enough)
Or
2. Approve by Meeting - "give a FREE sample session to our representative to get his trusted comment in your profile" --- this is setting off all sorts of alarms for me personally.

Hey! Sorry I just got your message. I am going to share some thoughts here because I'm sure there might be other lurkers and it could be useful for posterities sake. I think people have shared really good general advice and support here, which I would absolutely agree with. I'm going to go into the specificities of things that may or may not be relevant to your situation. In my tone I want to be encouraging but also realistic, so hopefully that comes across
 
I've been an FTM escort for what I imagine is longer than most on here, I transitioned on the job as it were in 2010. When I was earlier on in my transition the market for gay men interested in a man with a gender ambiguous body wasn't very big and so I worked as a woman until hormones made it too awkward to do that, and I got top surgery soon after. Now, times have changed. I think as a whole cis gay men are much more interested in people with different types of bodies, including trans bodies, now. Now, I'm not going to make any assumptions about what you look like (although your headshot is super cute) but since you said you don't always pass, I'm going to give advice kind of in response to that
 
How you want to advertise yourself has totally to do with the following things:
The amount of clients you want to see
The cultural literacy in the region you live in (do people know what trans is?)
What your body looks like and how you present yourself
Your comfort with how you like your body touched, referred to, safe sex practices
 
Cis women, including butchy tomboy gender weirdo cis women generally see more clients than trans guys, at a higher rate and with more ability to navigate boundaries. If it is not the situation that you can either pass as female or you don't want to, marketing will be more difficult - but as you've seen from the friendliness you've received here there will absolutely be gay and bi men who are excited to hire you, but the pool will be smaller and the rate you can charge might be lower as well. If you are doing sex work to try it out or to have side money to support yourself through transition thats totally fine though - there are free or cheaper sites you can advertise on (hourboy, craigslist dating, backpage) and you can put up an ad and wait for the perfect person to come to you. I do feel like rentmen is also the site that has brought me the best, most trans competent, clients although it costs more.
 
I honestly suggest to people new to the sex industry that they try different types of work before going to escorting, especially trans people. There are a lot of power dynamics that arise during sessions, especially when you are new and anxious about doing well - and while some people will be kind to you others may take advantage of any nervousness about maintaining boundaries. Getting used to the practice of engaging with strangers sexually for pay through something that inherently restricts physical connection can be a good way to learn how to communicate firmly and welcomingly.
 
Sometimes trans guys approach me with the assumption that once you open up shop the crowds come rushing in. Unfortunately that isn't true. As a trans guy whose pretty well established in the porn industry, with regulars, living in NYC it still takes me continuous work and marketing to find the clientele I need to have it be my only, comfortable form of income. Don't quit your day job until you really have a groove, sex work can be amazing fun and wonderful but when you are doing it because you are dead ass broke it is much less likely to be any of those things.
 
For trans people sex work can be a landmine of both validation and insecurity. Doing sex work through transition gave me some really deeply healing experiences and relationships that made me as confident as I am today. I also fretted over other people getting more clients, felt (and feel) jealous when I look at other peoples bodies, had clients say some really wacky shit that haunted me for a long time. It is important to develop a habit of validating yourself and approving of your body outside of the sex industry, because if you exist only at its whims its gonna hurt.
 
Good luck and if you have any specific questions please let me know. This forum is a great place to learn and make relationships with some solid people, I'm glad you are here.

Welcome to the forum, Orion!
 
I second what @latbear4blk and @Keith30309 have to say. I also want to add a few things:
 
1. Your body is great. It's fair to say there are things that you would like to change and to work on making those changes. You might be tempted - hell, we're all tempted - to compare our bodies to other people and especially to generally accepted beauty standards. But, remember that just because people think something is true doesn't make it so. A lot of people believed the world was flat. And a lot of people think 6 pack abs or big muscles are what's "beautiful." It's all just made up shit that enough people agree with but that doesn't mean you have to agree. It's not bad, it's just helpful to remember that reality is nothing more than enough people agreeing to it, but it doesn't mean everyone agrees, and it doesn't mean you have to agree, either.
 
2. Your physical appearance will have an impact on your business, but the bigger impact is going to be made by the kind of person you are. Here's a personal anecdote: I have a beard and I shave my balls. I have had people tell me that I should grow my beard much longer and I have had guys say they won't hire me unless I shave my beard off. I've had guys request that I shave my whole crotch area smooth and others lament the fact I don't have a full bush and hairy balls. I've also had guys tell me that they wouldn't have hired me based on my looks, but when they read my blog or my posts on here, they chose to hire me. You could drive yourself nuts trying to perfect a look that will garner approval from everyone and it's still not gonna happen. Who you are matters way more than what you look like. Some will find you attractive, some will not. Your looks will attract some people to hire you - but it's what you share about yourself, the professional behaviour you demonstrate, and how you make people feel that will have people come back to you, or consider you beyond your looks.
 
3. I've personally met and spent time with [uSER=12528]@FTM_Twink[/uSER] and [uSER=15773]@Boy w/ the Phoenix Tattoo[/uSER] and advise you, as other have, to message them and say hello. I also advise you to participate in these forums with all of us. There are many different voices here and there's a lot of value in participating in this community.
 
4. You ARE beautiful. Not because I said so. Not because anyone says so. Just because you are.
 
If there's anything I can do, please feel free to message me. Otherwise, peruse the forums, join in some conversations, and have fun!

To add on to @latbear4blk 's comments, I think that there are some elements of professionalism that bear some thought regardless of niche. Based on the contents of lots of reviews and discussions here, I think that a few things differentiate good companions from great ones.
 
Some of the common sense things that are mentioned in reviews:

Clear timely communications in scheduling and confirming meetings and setting expectations (be it text, email, voice, etc). What is obvious to you may include unstated assumptions your client doesn't know
 
Being on time and ready when you meet (I've arrived at apartments at the same time as an unshowered companion carrying grocery bags.) For incalls, maintain a reasonably neat, clean, relaxing environment. (I love dogs but not in the bed with me, stepping over piles of dirty laundry on the floor sucks, cigarette smoke makes me sneeze and my wallet pucker, I'm not fond of thrash-metal turned up to '10', etc)
 
Have whatever supplies that may be needed for a likely meeting (I've been asked to go to the drug store more times than I prefer); include fresh towels, bottled water and whatever else a reasonable person might find pleasant.
 
For an incall make your client aware of any location-specific things that would be helpful: Parking, building security procedures, roommates I may meet, large dogs I may encounter, very clear directions for finding your apartment if in a complex. I recently spend 30 minutes dealing with a building security staff explaining who I was and why I was there when visiting a companion while he was oblivious sitting in his apartment; I almost walked away.
 
Be 'present' mentally and focused on the client for your time together. (Everyone has stories of escorts texting and phoning during meets or focused on lots of things other than the person they are with.)
Being 'mentally present' includes both you and your client agreeing in advance to abstain from any chemicals unless otherwise agreed to in advance. (Again, lots of stories about meth'ed-out tweakers and scary high clients).
Get a sense in the middle of your time of your client's enjoyment of your company thusfar. I hear of lots of instances of a client describing a poor experience and the companion had no idea things went badly. Ask "are things going as you expected". Conversely, it's not fair for a client to remain mute about dissatisfaction while face-to-face and later submit a negative review/comments.
 
Have the safer-sex discussion in advance (most recently, thank you @JudasKane, @IronMaus and @Eric Hassan!)
Send a brief 'thank you' text after. The lack of this completely mystifies me... if I've just left $600 on your kitchen counter then it would make allot of sense to take 20 seconds and send me a 'it was nice meeting you' text message

 
I'm sure other clients have their own suggestions.

Out of curiosity, I created a profile. Very sparsely populated, but it is a new site and I noticed one familiar face from the area.
 
However, there is an additional red flag that I don't believe has been discussed. Escorts have two options for additional verification....
1. Approve by Skype - (that seems reasonable enough)
Or
2. Approve by Meeting - "give a FREE sample session to our representative to get his trusted comment in your profile" --- this is setting off all sorts of alarms for me personally.

Out of curiosity, I created a profile. Very sparsely populated, but it is a new site and I noticed one familiar face from the area.
 
However, there is an additional red flag that I don't believe has been discussed. Escorts have two options for additional verification....
1. Approve by Skype - (that seems reasonable enough)
Or
2. Approve by Meeting - "give a FREE sample session to our representative to get his trusted comment in your profile" --- this is setting off all sorts of alarms for me personally.

Just saying
 
All this gripe about the site "scamming" escorts for a free session and all the exact details hadn't yet been mentioned. Truly, if someone wants to be verified and is letting a software update prevent them from using Skype, then how badly do you want to be verified?

http://ilikepinga.com/2017/10/12/rentboy-pro/

Wrong equivalency.
An audition cannot be used to make the movie. It has no value to the receiver except to select the actor.
The massage has actually relaxed the receiver.

Well, you do whatever unfairness you like, I am no CHEAPO.
 
I don’t hire interns for a $0 per month, like so many do, just because “they are learning on the job, it is good for them”.
In civilised countries, that is actually illegal.

Furthermore, the people giving out Michelin stars to restaurants always pay for their meal, and make sure no one knows who they are so that they never get an exceptional treatment. That is how you get global respect for your reviews.

Out of curiosity, I created a profile. Very sparsely populated, but it is a new site and I noticed one familiar face from the area.
 
However, there is an additional red flag that I don't believe has been discussed. Escorts have two options for additional verification....
1. Approve by Skype - (that seems reasonable enough)
Or
2. Approve by Meeting - "give a FREE sample session to our representative to get his trusted comment in your profile" --- this is setting off all sorts of alarms for me personally.

Well, that is just as wrong. It should have been a 1 hour paid massage.

Still giving the "tryout" idea the sideeye.

Out of curiosity, I created a profile. Very sparsely populated, but it is a new site and I noticed one familiar face from the area.
 
However, there is an additional red flag that I don't believe has been discussed. Escorts have two options for additional verification....
1. Approve by Skype - (that seems reasonable enough)
Or
2. Approve by Meeting - "give a FREE sample session to our representative to get his trusted comment in your profile" --- this is setting off all sorts of alarms for me personally.

Out of curiosity, I created a profile. Very sparsely populated, but it is a new site and I noticed one familiar face from the area.
 
However, there is an additional red flag that I don't believe has been discussed. Escorts have two options for additional verification....
1. Approve by Skype - (that seems reasonable enough)
Or
2. Approve by Meeting - "give a FREE sample session to our representative to get his trusted comment in your profile" --- this is setting off all sorts of alarms for me personally.

Wow!
This is basically a bunch of guys who want free sex and found a way to get it.
 
Everyone should pay the advertised price. No freebies against a “good review” or something like this, that is not fair to our beloved escorts. This also means that that “trusted comment” is meaningless.
 
I now hope this site fails.

Out of curiosity, I created a profile. Very sparsely populated, but it is a new site and I noticed one familiar face from the area.
 
However, there is an additional red flag that I don't believe has been discussed. Escorts have two options for additional verification....
1. Approve by Skype - (that seems reasonable enough)
Or
2. Approve by Meeting - "give a FREE sample session to our representative to get his trusted comment in your profile" --- this is setting off all sorts of alarms for me personally.

Out of curiosity, I created a profile. Very sparsely populated, but it is a new site and I noticed one familiar face from the area.
 
However, there is an additional red flag that I don't believe has been discussed. Escorts have two options for additional verification....
1. Approve by Skype - (that seems reasonable enough)
Or
2. Approve by Meeting - "give a FREE sample session to our representative to get his trusted comment in your profile" --- this is setting off all sorts of alarms for me personally.

HEY! You told me you were 18!

OnlyFans is not for me - but part of that is that I already have my website that I update several times a month with new videos.
 
I can say I could really do without the announcements on Twitter from OnlyFans. If I only cared that you have a new fan ....

I always spend the full time with my clients, and usually allow at least an extra 10-15 minutes. My sessions only end early if it's the desire of the client. Some guys are ready to dress and go as soon as they've cum. I had a client yesterday with whom we made out, he fucked me, came and was out the door in 15 minutes. He remarked that it was exactly what he needed and had an amazing time. I was gonna offer to give him massage for the rest of the time, but he was happy with exactly how things were.

I can't decide if @JudasKane looks impishly flirtatious or provocatively sexy but either way I love the look !