I find that using an enema is OK if it is very infrequent. If you are going to bottom a lot, you should learn the douche water way. However, because I bottom so little I am never sure using the water method whether I am really successful. And because I have to have colonoscopies periodically (family colon cancer history) I am used to feeling and consequences of an enema. And I start eating light the day before. Once you have accomplished your enema (it is not a quick process) get in the tub and take a nice relaxing bath and clean the area. You come out smelling fresh and clean and ready to be eaten and fucked. I think an escort is more likely to accompany you in the tub to help you (if you need that at all) then helping you with an enema/douche.