There is a little bit of so much that has been discussed, at least for me. The first thing is that I want to please him and to know that I am pleasing him. I want to hear him moan and to rim harder and deeper. And then I am so pleased because I have pleased him. I do not necessarily have to fuck him but in general I think that at this point he figures that is what I want to do so he does those things that get me ready to fuck him. But if I really want it to go the other way, I just rim and suck him. And then go to just sucking him and that usually revs him up so that he gets ready to fuck him. (Hope it is not too explicit.) At any rate, for me, it really is not about power because he has a lot of control over the situation. I suppose in a way it is a versatile control but a mutual pleasure. And, of course, I would have asked him before we even got together if he enjoyed it because it is so much of my enjoyment that I do not think I would want to force him into that situation.