HornyRetiree

Bingo.
 
From your initial description of the encounter, his behavior, and your response to it all, it sounds like a lot of your sense of disappointment has more to do with your own issues and not as much with how you were treated. If you are going to continue hiring, you'll need to go into sessions with less psychic baggage and set more reasonable/achievable goals for yourself. You reacted negatively to the escort in large measure, per your description, because his physical mishap left you feeling unattractive and blaming yourself. That's a lot to put on an escort, especially one who is pleasant, looks as you expected, and tried to provide a good time. You even said you opted to cut the session short because of how you felt (embarassed?). Unless you can get past being concerned about whether you're attractive enough to the escort, that worry will overhang any future encounter. Escorts may help you/one feel better about themselves, but they're not therapists helping you work through your issues over a period of time and sessions.
 
My guess, without knowing you or who you saw, is that you are too hard on yourself and that leads you to need affirmation, and when something went wrong you projected your own issues onto the escort because he wasn't able to make you feel attractive. Try to work on whatever it is that's causing you to feel the need for affirmation. That should make much more of a positive impact than finding the "perfect" escort.

It happened one time with a regular provider (as in a couple times a month for years) and when it occurred, he was very apologetic - almost made me feel bad. He went above and beyond to make sure I was “satisfied” and tried to give back most of the “contribution”. Of course I refused because I had taken his time - it’s a no-brainer. But it does depend on the circumstances.

Rod probably doesn't remember me; I saw him for a massage only once about 10 years ago. But I still remember discussing engineering in school, and Rod bringing up the Bernoulli equation. It was eye opening to realize that these beautiful men have brains and personality in addition to technique and looks. Rod's and others' thoughtful insights on this forum remind me just how amazing these men are

After a half-dozen or so encounters with one of my favorite escorts, over a post-romp beer, I did ask. His answer was simple enough: “For the money, plus I just love to fuck.”
Duh.

Hypothetical: In the midst of holding you, my dick accidently slips into you... Repeatedly.
 
 
Asking for a friend

You can always ask. I once hired someone for a 2-3 hour session (don't recall which). I was in a "spider needs some hugging" mood, and in the middle we spooned for about half and hour - it was great! He was behind me and I first felt him holding me closer and then I felt a certain hard object in my crack - i wiggled around to let the stars align and we were off to the races. Best session ever.

For me it’s the normal fee. I’ve done shows for clients with other escorts and it usually ends up with the client wanting to join even if that wasn’t planned for at the start.
I don’t discount it because it’s time, if I wasn’t at that session I could have been seeing a client at my normal rate so why provide a discount?

I've had the opportunity to work (or play, depending on how you look at it) with other escorts. I found it prudent to lay out the difference between a threesome and a voyeur-centric session as many times things can naturally turn into the former. At no fault of the client, but if rates are to change based on a pre-arranged session type, it should be adjusted in short order. It has never been an obstacle and the clients have understood.
With voyeur-centric sessions, I have offered the client my dedicated work phone to snap photos that I would in turn edit to watermark, remove face/other details that myself or the escort I'm with wishes to have removed. A bit of a personal touch.

If I do an outcall I’m not strict on time. Say they book an hour, I start the time from the time the massage starts. It usually takes me 15 minutes to get the table set up and get undressed, then some chat etc. I’ll find a clock in the room or I set the time by my music which I play on a Bluetooth speaker from my phone. If we’re in a hotel there’s usually a clock beside the bed.
After the massage I’ll chat and spend some time cuddling or whatever he likes if we’ve moved from the massage table to the bed for example. I include sex as part of the massage so it starts on the table but guys find it more comfortable if we use different positions to move to the bed or shower sometimes. By the time things have cooled down it’s usually another 15 minutes then I start to pack up the table etc. So for an hours booked massage my whole time there is more like 2 hours.
Sometimes after we’ve finished and cuddled etc for a while guys get horny again and want some more sex. I always ask if they’d like to extend the time and this is an introduction to discussing extra payment. It’s not good form to discuss details like that at that point so I just say I’m very pleased they want some more and I’m happy to an extra half hour as I’m sure they’ll be generous. Most guys get the hint and pay a big tip. Overall if it’s an outcall therefore I always leave at least 2 hours free after the booking time has ended before I book anything else in.
For in calls I use a shared studio so I have to be much stricter on timings and can only go 5 minutes or so over unfortunately. My clients know this however when they book.

if a man hires a male escort he's either gay, bi or bicurious but straight... I doubt it. Maybe he's in denial or he likes calling himself that way.
 
An older guy married to woman because 30 or 40 years ago he had to do it for social reasons doesn't make him straight if he always had a desire for men.

Most straight guys I've seen as already said in other replies are typically curious. They enjoy mutal oral, kissing and the opportunity to be near a man. While not many want to bottom, I've found a number that want to try topping a guy. Typically have to help guide them through this to make sure they don't go in to fast and take their time. Most I've found enjoy the experience and I've have a number of repeat clients.

Yes I have, at least they said they were straight. I’m not sure a 100% straight guy would be curious enough to try though so I expect they were at least slightly bisexual or just in denial of their sexuality. Everyone is on a spectrum.
 
I see a lot of guys who want to explore their sexuality because visiting a sensual masseur is a safe way of testing things out. They can reassure themselves that they’re “just going for a massage” and that nothing sexual will happen if they don’t want it to. The least they’ll get is a nice massage. If they want to try out touching me that’s fine...they can do as much or as little as they like and I tell them this at the start.
 
Often they’ll say the areas they don’t want me to go at the start and that’s usually around their bum. Most don’t want anything internal (no fingers or cock in there) but are ok with external touch around their hole. I’d say they get blown away by rimming (usually no one has done that to them before). They also like being sucked because let’s face it, straight guys haven’t usually experienced professional sucking from a gay guy so it’s a whole next level of sucking they get, plus new cock massage techniques.
 
They are interested in touching me and playing with my cock but mostly I’d say they just enjoy me awakening their bodies. They’re usually not ready to suck me or kiss or anything “gay” like that in the first few massages. I think this is especially the case with guys who are from strict religious backgrounds or where there’s strong shame associated with being gay. It’s evident they want to explore but the religious programming has been so strong it prevents them from acting on those urges. It takes time for them to recover their humanity.
 
These ‘exploring’ clients usually book a few times and progress to wanting more each time. I’ve found that they experience a sort of sexual awakening and are eager to try out new things. Many are in marriages or relationships with women where there’s no sex of its boring so the visits to me allow them to release tension and be more relaxed. They can go at their own pace in a safe and reassuring environment. I think if you’re not sure about your sexuality it’s tough to explore this through meeting guys vis hookup apps because usually the other guy isn’t much focused on giving you a good time, he’s just looking for his own satisfaction whereas with a masseur they’re 100% focused on you.

I’m 8 inches, it should fit in any hole. It’s not so much as me being too big, it’s more the client not being relaxed enough to take it. If that’s the case then I consider it’s more my problem than the clients’ because I should be able to relax him. It’s happened a few times when guys who’ve never bottomed before try to take me. They get too anxious and tighten up. Sometimes it takes a few visits to become relaxed enough to take it. Best to start with fingers and take things slowly.

Yes. This happened with one guy and only one guy so far (thank goodness). It was with an inexperienced guy who is bi who wanted to bottom, but it would not fit the first time he booked me. Im only 9 inches but it’s thick and it was like fort knox trying to enter him, so I would not fit at all. I have never experienced anything like that. He was determined though. He booked me a second time and it still didn’t fit so I suggested he get poppers. I don’t like poppers but for him I knew he didn’t have much of a choice and the 3rd time he booked me he was prepared with poppers and i was able to get inside of him. He cannot bottom without poppers it seems or he needs a guy with a much smaller dick ?? ?

Yes agree totally! I’m advertised as a masseur because 1) it’s easier to advertise and 2) my clients are more comfortable booking a masseur than an escort. But the service is sex work, I flex what I include in the massage to meet their requirements. So if they want a massage that includes me riding them that’s what they get.
Lazy thinkers, prejudiced and small minded people use labels because it saves them having to actually explore and explain themselves and their responses. If they considered it they might understand that the work involves a lot more than ‘just’ having sex. What the client is buying can include discretion, companionship, counselling, logistics (ever considered the planning that goes into arranging a group session in a hotel?), being available almost 24/7, health expertise, deep understanding of human sexuality and attraction. Then consider the work that goes into advertising, promotion, keeping fit and healthy and sane....
I applaud anyone who is even moderately successful in this industry because it definitely takes effort and skill.

Yes escorts charge more per hour. Plus they do overnights or longer. Doing massages can be quite tiring, mostly on your hands. Important to work out your hands by strengthening grip.

regardless of whether you’re a masseur or escort if your service includes you fucking the client and ejaculation there’s a limit to how many you can see in a day. Other than that you can see as many clients as you can book.
Personally I have a limit so that I’m fresh and able to perform.

I can see where the escort is coming from but he shouldn't have said it like that. Let's say it's Noon day of appt and your session is for 7pm. He gets a text from someone else asking if he's free that evening at 7pm and before he tells that guy no I'm booked he asked you if you two were still on for that evening. But he shouldn't have said hey are we still on because if not I got other clients waiting. All he should have said was just hi, good afternoon, just wanna make sure everything is still a go for this evening.

The only thing that I can’t accept is poor hygiene. If a client isn’t fresh and clean then they simply don’t get my full service. There’s no excuse for bad hygiene.
Fortunately it’s rare, and I ask them to shower beforehand anyway. Aside from hygiene there’s nothing else that means a client is treated any differently. Of course being friendly and respectful are always good and help to make a meeting even more fun.
I’m sorry you had some bad hire experiences. You shouldn’t blame yourself, it’s more likely you hired a bad escort. They should make you feel fantastic, if they didn’t achieve that then that’s their failure not yours.

My guy is sure he did, cause after the appointment he logged into Facebook and it showed him a guy under "People You Might Know" section of his Facebook Feed.
 
He thought the face was familiar, clicked in out of curiosity, and BOOM! It was his client. There he discovered it was a Police Officer, married and father of 3, but not from the city. He was somewhat shocked because this client asked for the least expected things a " supposedly straight guy" would want to do with another guy (my buddy is a total top). But in his words: "all-in-all, very hot!". L.E. left very happy.
 
In any case, it made sense that this client was smart enough to NOT look for a random guy in his small town, but rather look for a Pro in a distant location (out of the jurisdiction?) to kill the craves he can't satisfy at home. This happened a couple of months ago, but needless to say, there weren't any problems afterward.
 
Thankfully the relationship between sex workers and L.E. in Canada seems to be friendlier than in the US.

Ah yes I got you. I’ve a few stories yes, about different clients and some of the sex parties I’ve been to. I write about some of them on my blog on my website sensualtouchco.com. Most of my work is as a masseur and I make porn so there’s a few stories about doing that on the blog.

Ha ha a good boy never tells who. The Lord was a sweet lovely guy. Mostly with clients you don’t know their real name, job or background and to be fair I don’t want to know these things anyway, although when chatting to them during the session some of these details are shared because it’s nice to connect mentally as well as physically. Discretion is absolutely paramount however so I’d never give any clues or names.

Yes, by police officers, clergy and a member of the House of Lords. Everyone needs a release.

In another “life” I was a probation officer. One summer I attended a national conference sponsored by the Department of Justice. There were at least a thousand people there. After the first day, I changed into very casual clothes, donned a ball cap and Oakleys and headed for a gay bar quite far from the hotel. I recognized a few fellow attendees mostly because they still were wearing their conference badges. I played it cool until one of them approached me with a “hey, man, aren’t you a, uh, um, with the uh, um, er ...” It turned out to be a very educational and rewarding experience.

That reminds me of a time before I did escorting/massage and I was in Spain doing a bit of travel. I was sunbathing naked on a secluded beach, just me there. It was near Mijas. I noticed a guy come along and pitch his towel nearby, just close enough to indicate interest but far enough away to be separated on the empty beach...if you know what I mean. He stripped off too and for a while we both lay there. He was older than me, I was in my 20’s and I guess he was around 45 or 50. Fit and tanned, and quite hairy.
After a while I noticed he had a semi and he kept stroking his cock so I could see it. I was laying on my front so he couldn’t see my cock but it was hard from watching him.
I don’t like to be subtle so I just turned over onto my back and showed him a full hard on and started wanking it. It worked, he was now fully hard and it looked big. I’d not been fucked for over a week and I was desperate for it. I beckoned him over and moved to the side of my blanket so he could sit next to me. Luckily he spoke some English as my Spanish for “please fuck me” is poor. Anyway after an initial hello I like your cock etc I got out my lube and smeared it in my bum so he couldn’t be under any misunderstanding about where to put it. First though he wanted a bj so I sucked him for a while then I really couldn’t wait any longer so I turned around and presented my bum doggie style. He put a condom on (I had one ready) and I’d probably got him too close because after only a few pumps he shot. Then I cum too all over my chest lol. He cleaned me up and we both lay there in the sun for a while.
Next day I had to register at the local police station (some rule whereby if you’re staying in the area for a period you had to let them know....I think it was so they could charge you a “fee” which I expect the police pocketed....I took a load of pesetas for my “fee”). Yes, you guessed it, behind the counter was my hung fuck mate from the beach. He smiled and let me off the fee....and I met him again at the beach next day for a longer session.