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I think it is because people like to understand motives. Except on very rare occasions, no one does something for nothing. Even on those times where they appear to do it for nothing, they are getting some personal satisfaction. If the site is costing someone money, then I would anticipate either (a) they have a lots of time and money to waste, (b) they have a NFP benefactor; © it is a hobby that will be dropped when the time/money gets too much, (d) it will be sold to someone (maybe with less scruples), (e) they are going to monetize it in someway, or (f) something else that I don't yet understand. I don't think I'd be "more happy if [you] start charging", but at least then I'd understand the business model. It is very hard to believe that something that is costing in perpetuity is being done altruistically. And even harder when you consider that there are multiple people involved in the site's operations/management.

Depends on what you think the purpose of onlyfans is, for me. I haven't found a frame of thought that shows a value for me, yet. It wouldn't be too onerous, except that I know that the site gets a portion of the fees, yet they do nothing for that content. When I think of it as a site to follow someone I admire and like, I don't see where it is too much different from Twitter, except that I have to pay monthly for the pleasure of seeing the content. When I think of it as a porn site for a particular person, the fee seems of lower value when compared to other sites. When I think of it as a search engine/marketing tool, I don't see the business model for it. If someone has found a good value for it, I'd love to hear about it.

Hotels also permit cash deposits for incidentals. There are ways, and ways, around dealing with the issue, if you look for solutions. And I'm not sure I buy into the argument that "not many of them have a credit card". That's a bit of a stereotype, especially when you consider that most of the ones we discuss here have ads on websites where a credit card is needed.

@LaffingBear The credit card is on file, however, it is limited to room rate only, in a prepaid format. When the 3rd party arrives (in this case the escort), he is required to check in and either use his credit card (or cash deposit) for incidentals (like the mini bar, smoking, etc...). I've never had a situation where my card was charged for anything more than the room rate. I know some of them have had incidental charges. It is more difficult when the person arriving isn't the one I originally had on file, but in those cases, as long as I give authorization while they are checking in, things have gone smoothly. It's really just prepaying for the reservation, since the person still has to go through check-in procedures.

If you are taking out a hotel room for someone else (or letting them stay), the way to handle it is to arrange for the payment of the room charges in advance. If you want to let them stay for a day or two extra, that's fine as well. When he arrives, he should put a credit card on file for incidentals. At least that's how I arrange it for people we bring in for business, whether they are customers, suppliers, or interviewees. Just a thought.

PMing you my experience.

Maybe you misunderstand, he's approached me to try and get together for NYE. But I know, from our conversations that he doesn't like to come to this area. In the past years, he's canceled visits, at least twice, due to lack of clients. So, if I accepted, I know that he'd be travelling and spending more to be here than he would recover from my one evening. Especially at travel and hotel costs higher during the holiday. Or, that he'd be tempted to cancel, again. My skepticism kicks in and I don't understand his motivation. If he does want to be here, then I feel like the expectations for me to overcompensate to make sure it is worth his trip are much greater. If I do overcompensate, then I will have greater expectations on our time together. Greater expectations = greater regret quotient. So, with all this going on, I wonder if it a good idea to accept his offer?

I don't automatically assume that a provider is lying when they say they are sick and cancel last minute. I've gotten sick and thought I'd be okay, only to feel worse as the day approached. I feel it is better to cancel then pass along my cold. I expect them to take me at face value, so I should I take them at face value. If the escort is cancelling because they got another (higher paying) job, then fine. Just because I accept they excuse, doesn't mean I ignore the fact that his reliability is not stellar.

The last couple years I've been approached by an escort I've really wanted to get together with, but for the life of me I can't understand why they'd want to travel to my city and work on NYE. I've tried to get together at other times, but his schedule doesn't usually work with mine. I've got nothing planned for this NYE. I just wonder if it is right of me to ask him to travel here and invest a holiday for just me. I feel selfish or under greater expectations. Thoughts?

The public sucks, and not in a good way. Unfortunately, the bad experiences stick out more than the good ones. Mostly because the bad ones disrupt our lives and plans. It is worse, because clients are rarely reviewed. There's the standard 80/20 rule. 10% of the people are outstanding. 10% are disaster. 80% are okay but may shift depending on the situation.

I'd be more inclined to hire only if the extra fee was for him to find and pay for the third. I'm completely okay if the escort has a guy he regularly works with and wants to collect a combined rate. As is, I don't know what value-add would justify a 67% upcharge. What service does he provide in threesome that he doesn't on a one-on-one?

True and I wouldn't think poorly of the escort had he canceled. It is just one of those things that happen. The problem I have is that he accepted the gig, showed up, and then bolted from the restaurant. He made rude, selfish, and derogatory comments/actions. And, he embarrassed his client in front of others. Cancelling would have been polite.

Who you we to judge what both sides of an agreement want and accept, when it affects no one but the two involved. If you want to be silly and take that to mean that I support self-relativism or endorse terrorism, then I have no time or patience to respond.

I see things from both perspectives. Here's the thing, though, you are starting from the presumption that the escort is entitled to the client's business. If a particular escort is not willing to go out in public (and no one is saying they MUST), then he should NOT accept the engagement. He should never had said 'yes'. But, once he said 'yes', he had an obligation to follow through or cancel *before* the event. In the OP's situation, the escort agreed weeks in advance. If a particular escort is ashamed of his work, or, afraid that friends/family may get the wrong impression, then HE has an obligation to say NO to the engagement. If a particular escort is embarrassed to be seen with a client in public, for ANY reason, then HE has the obligation to say NO and to hold firm to it, even if it costs him a particular client. It is not, and should never be, the client's responsibility to deal with the escort's personal fears and issues. During an appointment, unless very specifically agreed otherwise, the encounter is supposed to be all about the client, not the escort. Clients should respect the boundaries placed by the escort, but it is the provider's responsibility to (a) clearly communicate those boundaries before the situation occurs; (b) accept that some clients will decide not to hire them based on those boundaries. Lastly, I am going to strongly disagree with you on your comments on 'trophy' boys. You may not like it, but part of what many escorts offer is the objectification of themselves. If the escort and client are both amenable to it, then who the hell are we to judge or condemn them for it?

I have attended many functions in my life I didn't want to go, but had to for business. I made the most of the situation and did what was expected/required. At worst, the escort would have had to put on a façade of a smile and make polite small talk avoiding anything of substance. You may not agree with whether or not a client 'should' ask for a particular experience. However, whether or not he should have asked for a particular fantasy, is different from the fact that he did, and that the escort agreed to it. (As for a why, I can think of dozens of reasons why a client might ask for a social event.) The escort was engaged to pay attention to the client's needs/wants, not to be social butterfly, ignore his client, embarrass him, or make a scene, so the age of the group is irrelevant. The 'boy' was not asked to go out with 'friends'. The 'escort' was employed to go out with the client while out with 'client's friends'. Most escorts I've known are able to focus on the client's need/desire incredibly well and I have the utmost respect for the difficult work that they do with such grace. I envy their ability to be able to gel so well with so many different types of peoples and situations. It is skill I've come to admire, which in this case was lacking.

@sexymonk That would all make sense under the idea that the "boy" is a real boyfriend. Why is it wrong for a client to ask for an encounter where he wants a "trophy boy" hanging on his arm? Why does he need to have anything in common with the client's friends? Escorts are going to be invited to events (shows, sports, clubs, dinners, etc...) as a companion and probably not know anyone there. As such, they should be a chameleon and adapt. And, a good escort should not just "sa[y] yes on the flow (Generally people will say yes- yes!)." during the engagement of his client.

Absolutely there is more to the story and that we are seeing this through the lens of one person's perspective. Every story has at least three sides to it. A good escort makes sure there aren't communication breakdowns and avoids disappointing the client.

You're welcome to disagree. I have no problem with that. I read the OP's post as follows: "I recently had an extended session with a semi regular" Semi regular and an extended session. "He initially agreed to go to dinner with friends of mine" So, he knew it was a dinner with friends on an extended session. Up to this point, I might find that the escort was in an awkward situation if the dinner was more grandiose or intense than described. "but when the time came, he begged off saying that they would know something was up (“I mean look at you, and look at me”)." Right here... this suggests that the escort is more interested in what 3rd parties think, instead of focusing on the client. He might have been ashamed of what he did for a living. I don't know. But, it was self-centered and he wasn't focused on his client. Now, ... "He bolted [...] leaving me at the restaurant and wondering if he was coming back" Not 'he politely excused himself', nor 'took me aside and informed me'. Just, "He bolted". "he seemed to walk ahead or behind me, like he didn’t want to be seen with me." He knew he was going to be out in public, so why the change in behavior? Sorry, regardless of the preparation or lack of discussion. As described, this is either him being unprofessional, or, being a total drama-diva-queen. Take your pick. If you don't agree, that's okay.

True. There are varying degrees of situations. No one asked him to lie or fake a story. In fact, he isn't required to answer any questions about himself. It's about discretion. Just because the escort is asked personal questions doesn't mean he has to answer them. I've know many people who are adept of diverting the conversation to topics that aren't about me or my relationships. Saying, "I'm friends with <client> and he asked me here", and then seguing into a topic is perfectly fine. The point being, the escort handled the entire encounter inappropriately. He accepted the job/client with knowledge of the evening's plan. He wasn't professional enough to cope with it. Lastly, he was so uncomfortable, then it was incumbent upon himself to discuss what the client felt comfortable with sharing. The evening was supposed to be about the client, not the escort.

LOL Don't we all wish we had written job descriptions?

Whether a client is high maintenance or not is irrelevant. The profession is all about companionship. The escort's job is to be there for the client and provide for the experience. If the escort is embarrassed, or has personal issues about being seen with someone who doesn't fit the escort's vision, then too bad for the escort. It is their job to make that client feel important and special, or, to not accept the client at all. If they are uncomfortable with an unanticipated situation, then it is their responsibility to respectfully end the encounter and, possibly, accommodate the client for services not rendered.

And for me, if someone lists it in their profile (or as something they'd be into), it is a deal breaker. Just had that this past week. There is a difference between saying "No PNP" and just not listing it as something he's "Into". Everyone is welcome to make their own choices. I choose not to be around it anymore. (It fucked my life up before, and I don't want it fucking my life up now.) An escort may be perfectly in control while using drugs. It isn't worth my time to find out if he is or isn't. There is no one so attractive or desirable that I'd be willing to risk the potential for that erratic behavior, again.

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Don't get me wrong... I like tattoos. I find them fascinating. I, also, love the male form. I find it exhilarating. I remember being with one guy whose tattoos were really great, but that's what I was paying attention to. He had a beautiful cock, an inviting ass, and luscious lips. His amazing tattoos were a walking work of art. As a client, at the end of the session, and even today, I'm not sure what kind of experience I had. Was I a participant in the evening, or merely an observer.

I love the male form. At some point, tattoos or piercings alter my focus from the man and his masculinity, to the ink/artistry, and then I lose interest.