Ultimately the goal is to understand that the binary was not accurate. The coming result is going to be " I am going to love who I love, have sex with another consenting adult and it doesn't define me- the consenting adult being the only thing that matters..."
I have a guy who after the massage part- more than half way through he approaches the head rest with a hard on and tells me to flip over. I get a taste, all of it. then he climbs on the table and I get it again and get to rim him as well. He is rather aggresive with enjoying me choking on it... he gets off the table and plays with my nipples to the point I am levitating off the table...all the while he has a finger in me. it is an explosive intimate ending.
When I want a sensual massage with a sexy gay man I go to Rentmassuer, when I want full on sex I go to rentmen. Maybe I am just more clear with my own wishes and desires. The whole "this may be full on ..." is annoying when hiring under the pretext of massage and I thought in this day and age with clarity of options this would be more understood.
The whole " I am straight" declaration is obnoxious. It is suggesting that "you can look but don't touch me,," kind of vibe, and at the same time, give me your money.