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I didn't ask him to explain himself again. He had given me one when he initially apologized via text. What's important to me, and what I wanted this post to convey, is that I believe he is not a hateful person.

I didn't ask him to explain himself again. He had given me one when he initially apologized via text. What's important to me, and what I wanted this post to convey, is that I believe he is not a hateful person.

Just two weekends ago, I made a post that received a great deal of attention about an escort working under the name Reese. I recounted an unpleasant exchange I had with him, in which he used homophobic language and made reference to the AIDS epidemic. I subsequently shared that, upon seeing said post, Reese had reached out to me with an apology and attempted to explain his actions.
 
From there I took a step back from engaging further comments. While many of you were supportive, just as many were critical of my decision to share what I did, and it became clear that since I could contribute nothing further to the conversation that might sway the latter group to see my point of view, I was better off putting the whole thing behind me.
 
Reese, on the other hand, was not satisfied with where we stood. He would text me several more times in the days after his initial apology, insisting that there must be some way he could prove he wasn't the person his offending texts made him out to be. After some hesitation and much consideration, I agreed to meet him for dinner, his treat, when he got into town this week.
 
Reese and I did, in fact, have a bite to eat after I got off work today (his treat!), and what I worried would be an extremely uncomfortable outing ended up being one of the more overall positive experiences I've had in some time. For those to whom it is of interest, Reese is, indeed, a Big Guy. However, having now dined with him and spoken to him at length, I no longer believe him to be a muscle bully.
 
Do not misunderstand me: I feel just as strongly now as I did two weekends ago that the language Reese used is unacceptable. But I truly believe Reese would, and does, agree. He could have easily gone through the motions tonight - bought me dinner, said he was sorry and disappeared back into the city. Instead he made it clear he was interested, not only in having a dialogue, but in listening to what I had to say. He did a great deal to restore my faith in people, at a moment in our history where it is easy to abandon all hope. And for that, I thank him.

We all make mistakes.
 
Kudos to you for giving him a second chance.
I’m not sure I could have been that big of a man.
 
I’m impressed with you both.

I appreciate that. I made some slight edits to the initial post after you quoted it - the sentiments are the same, but I wanted to let you know in the name of full disclosure!

I appreciate that. I made some slight edits to the initial post after you quoted it - the sentiments are the same, but I wanted to let you know in the name of full disclosure!

Just two weekends ago, I made a post that received a great deal of attention about an escort working under the name Reese. I recounted an unpleasant exchange I had with him, in which he used homophobic language and made reference to the AIDS epidemic. I subsequently shared that, upon seeing said post, Reese had reached out to me with an apology and attempted to explain his actions.
 
From there I took a step back from engaging further comments. While many of you were supportive, just as many were critical of my decision to share what I did, and it became clear that since I could contribute nothing further to the conversation that might sway the latter group to see my point of view, I was better off putting the whole thing behind me.
 
Reese, on the other hand, was not satisfied with where we stood. He would text me several more times in the days after his initial apology, insisting that there must be some way he could prove he wasn't the person his offending texts made him out to be. After some hesitation and much consideration, I agreed to meet him for dinner, his treat, when he got into town this week.
 
Reese and I did, in fact, have a bite to eat after I got off work today (his treat!), and what I worried would be an extremely uncomfortable outing ended up being one of the more overall positive experiences I've had in some time. For those to whom it is of interest, Reese is, indeed, a Big Guy. However, having now dined with him and spoken to him at length, I no longer believe him to be a muscle bully.
 
Do not misunderstand me: I feel just as strongly now as I did two weekends ago that the language Reese used is unacceptable. But I truly believe Reese would, and does, agree. He could have easily gone through the motions tonight - bought me dinner, said he was sorry and disappeared back into the city. Instead he made it clear he was interested, not only in having a dialogue, but in listening to what I had to say. He did a great deal to restore my faith in people, at a moment in our history where it is easy to abandon all hope. And for that, I thank him.

Just two weekends ago, I made a post that received a great deal of attention about an escort working under the name Reese. I recounted an unpleasant exchange I had with him, in which he used homophobic language and made reference to the AIDS epidemic. I subsequently shared that, upon seeing said post, Reese had reached out to me with an apology and attempted to explain his actions.
 
From there I took a step back from engaging further comments. While many of you were supportive, just as many were critical of my decision to share what I did, and it became clear that since I could contribute nothing further to the conversation that might sway the latter group to see my point of view, I was better off putting the whole thing behind me.
 
Reese, on the other hand, was not satisfied with where we stood. He would text me several more times in the days after his initial apology, insisting that there must be some way he could prove he wasn't the person his offending texts made him out to be. After some hesitation and much consideration, I agreed to meet him for dinner, his treat, when he got into town this week.
 
Reese and I did, in fact, have a bite to eat after I got off work today (his treat!), and what I worried would be an extremely uncomfortable outing ended up being one of the more overall positive experiences I've had in some time. For those to whom it is of interest, Reese is, indeed, a Big Guy. However, having now dined with him and spoken to him at length, I no longer believe him to be a muscle bully.
 
Do not misunderstand me: I feel just as strongly now as I did two weekends ago that the language Reese used is unacceptable. But I truly believe Reese would, and does, agree. He could have easily gone through the motions tonight - bought me dinner, said he was sorry and disappeared back into the city. Instead he made it clear he was interested, not only in having a dialogue, but in listening to what I had to say. He did a great deal to restore my faith in people, at a moment in our history where it is easy to abandon all hope. And for that, I thank him.

Just two weekends ago, I made a post that received a great deal of attention about an escort working under the name Reese. I recounted an unpleasant exchange I had with him, in which he used homophobic language and made reference to the AIDS epidemic. I subsequently shared that, upon seeing said post, Reese had reached out to me with an apology and attempted to explain his actions.
 
From there I took a step back from engaging further comments. While many of you were supportive, just as many were critical of my decision to share what I did, and it became clear that since I could contribute nothing further to the conversation that might sway the latter group to see my point of view, I was better off putting the whole thing behind me.
 
Reese, on the other hand, was not satisfied with where we stood. He would text me several more times in the days after his initial apology, insisting that there must be some way he could prove he wasn't the person his offending texts made him out to be. After some hesitation and much consideration, I agreed to meet him for dinner, his treat, when he got into town this week.
 
Reese and I did, in fact, have a bite to eat after I got off work today (his treat!), and what I worried would be an extremely uncomfortable outing ended up being one of the more overall positive experiences I've had in some time. For those to whom it is of interest, Reese is, indeed, a Big Guy. However, having now dined with him and spoken to him at length, I no longer believe him to be a muscle bully.
 
Do not misunderstand me: I feel just as strongly now as I did two weekends ago that the language Reese used is unacceptable. But I truly believe Reese would, and does, agree. He could have easily gone through the motions tonight - bought me dinner, said he was sorry and disappeared back into the city. Instead he made it clear he was interested, not only in having a dialogue, but in listening to what I had to say. He did a great deal to restore my faith in people, at a moment in our history where it is easy to abandon all hope. And for that, I thank him.

Google "hyperbole," sweetheart.

So you're saying this is my fault? You guys will really twist yourselves into pretzels to defend straight, muscular men huh...

I rarely log on here anymore, for no reason other than I have not engaged with any escorts or masseurs in some time and my priorities have overall shifted. However, a text exchange I had earlier this evening angered me enough that I felt moved to stop by.
 
Several months ago, I reached out to an escort named Reese who is based in Las Vegas. I saw that his travel schedule included an upcoming NYC visit, and was intrigued by his photos and stats. I never heard back, and did not give it much thought. I figured it was the universe doing me a favor and life carried on.
 
This evening, I was out to dinner when I received a text from a 646 number alerting me to the sender's brand new OnlyFans account. He said he hoped I would follow, and attempted to sell me by describing several "hard cock videos" he'd recorded. I responded honestly: "Who is this?" In reply, he simply linked me to his RM ad: https://rentmen.eu/REESE
 
I then told him that I was not an OnlyFans subscriber, and that as he had never responded to my inquiry some months ago I wasn't particularly interested in his videos. I then deleted the thread from my phone, as I was out to dinner celebrating my birthday, so I unfortunately do not have evidence of this exchange.
 
After dinner, I checked my phone for new messages and saw I had received three from "Reese." Technically two, with one being a spelling clarification:
 

 
You can believe my story, or don't. I don't really care. If you for any reason believe a (likely straight) escort telling a complete stranger to "Go get AIDS" is deserved, we have nothing to say to each other. But if you, like me, are a gay man with an understanding of the history of AIDS and its decimation of so many of our brothers, you will understand my outrage. This man does not deserve a dime from any one of us. It's time that we stop giving cisgendered, straight men our business and our attention just because they fit a physical ideal we have been engrained to put above all else. I am tired of men like this. I am tired of being "baby" until I am determined unprofitable, until I am a "homo," a "queer." I am DONE.

I want to thank everyone who has shown their support in response to my post. Reese did in fact contact me today, claiming to be sorry and that he is "not the kind of person" he showed himself to be with those messages. He claimed that he was impaired by alcohol, and that as an escort who specializes in domination scenes he is often asked to use homophobic and/or racist language towards johns - thus why "homo" and "queer" rolled off his tongue so easily. I responded, and I maintain, that one's state of mind is no excuse for such conduct... if he was not comfortable using those words outside of client sessions, no amount of alcohol would have brought them out in that moment. Period.

I rarely log on here anymore, for no reason other than I have not engaged with any escorts or masseurs in some time and my priorities have overall shifted. However, a text exchange I had earlier this evening angered me enough that I felt moved to stop by.
 
Several months ago, I reached out to an escort named Reese who is based in Las Vegas. I saw that his travel schedule included an upcoming NYC visit, and was intrigued by his photos and stats. I never heard back, and did not give it much thought. I figured it was the universe doing me a favor and life carried on.
 
This evening, I was out to dinner when I received a text from a 646 number alerting me to the sender's brand new OnlyFans account. He said he hoped I would follow, and attempted to sell me by describing several "hard cock videos" he'd recorded. I responded honestly: "Who is this?" In reply, he simply linked me to his RM ad: https://rentmen.eu/REESE
 
I then told him that I was not an OnlyFans subscriber, and that as he had never responded to my inquiry some months ago I wasn't particularly interested in his videos. I then deleted the thread from my phone, as I was out to dinner celebrating my birthday, so I unfortunately do not have evidence of this exchange.
 
After dinner, I checked my phone for new messages and saw I had received three from "Reese." Technically two, with one being a spelling clarification:
 

 
You can believe my story, or don't. I don't really care. If you for any reason believe a (likely straight) escort telling a complete stranger to "Go get AIDS" is deserved, we have nothing to say to each other. But if you, like me, are a gay man with an understanding of the history of AIDS and its decimation of so many of our brothers, you will understand my outrage. This man does not deserve a dime from any one of us. It's time that we stop giving cisgendered, straight men our business and our attention just because they fit a physical ideal we have been engrained to put above all else. I am tired of men like this. I am tired of being "baby" until I am determined unprofitable, until I am a "homo," a "queer." I am DONE.

I rarely log on here anymore, for no reason other than I have not engaged with any escorts or masseurs in some time and my priorities have overall shifted. However, a text exchange I had earlier this evening angered me enough that I felt moved to stop by.
 
Several months ago, I reached out to an escort named Reese who is based in Las Vegas. I saw that his travel schedule included an upcoming NYC visit, and was intrigued by his photos and stats. I never heard back, and did not give it much thought. I figured it was the universe doing me a favor and life carried on.
 
This evening, I was out to dinner when I received a text from a 646 number alerting me to the sender's brand new OnlyFans account. He said he hoped I would follow, and attempted to sell me by describing several "hard cock videos" he'd recorded. I responded honestly: "Who is this?" In reply, he simply linked me to his RM ad: https://rentmen.eu/REESE
 
I then told him that I was not an OnlyFans subscriber, and that as he had never responded to my inquiry some months ago I wasn't particularly interested in his videos. I then deleted the thread from my phone, as I was out to dinner celebrating my birthday, so I unfortunately do not have evidence of this exchange.
 
After dinner, I checked my phone for new messages and saw I had received three from "Reese." Technically two, with one being a spelling clarification:
 

 
You can believe my story, or don't. I don't really care. If you for any reason believe a (likely straight) escort telling a complete stranger to "Go get AIDS" is deserved, we have nothing to say to each other. But if you, like me, are a gay man with an understanding of the history of AIDS and its decimation of so many of our brothers, you will understand my outrage. This man does not deserve a dime from any one of us. It's time that we stop giving cisgendered, straight men our business and our attention just because they fit a physical ideal we have been engrained to put above all else. I am tired of men like this. I am tired of being "baby" until I am determined unprofitable, until I am a "homo," a "queer." I am DONE.

I want to thank everyone who has shown their support in response to my post. Reese did in fact contact me today, claiming to be sorry and that he is "not the kind of person" he showed himself to be with those messages. He claimed that he was impaired by alcohol, and that as an escort who specializes in domination scenes he is often asked to use homophobic and/or racist language towards johns - thus why "homo" and "queer" rolled off his tongue so easily. I responded, and I maintain, that one's state of mind is no excuse for such conduct... if he was not comfortable using those words outside of client sessions, no amount of alcohol would have brought them out in that moment. Period.

I want to thank everyone who has shown their support in response to my post. Reese did in fact contact me today, claiming to be sorry and that he is "not the kind of person" he showed himself to be with those messages. He claimed that he was impaired by alcohol, and that as an escort who specializes in domination scenes he is often asked to use homophobic and/or racist language towards johns - thus why "homo" and "queer" rolled off his tongue so easily. I responded, and I maintain, that one's state of mind is no excuse for such conduct... if he was not comfortable using those words outside of client sessions, no amount of alcohol would have brought them out in that moment. Period.

I want to thank everyone who has shown their support in response to my post. Reese did in fact contact me today, claiming to be sorry and that he is "not the kind of person" he showed himself to be with those messages. He claimed that he was impaired by alcohol, and that as an escort who specializes in domination scenes he is often asked to use homophobic and/or racist language towards johns - thus why "homo" and "queer" rolled off his tongue so easily. I responded, and I maintain, that one's state of mind is no excuse for such conduct... if he was not comfortable using those words outside of client sessions, no amount of alcohol would have brought them out in that moment. Period.

I want to thank everyone who has shown their support in response to my post. Reese did in fact contact me today, claiming to be sorry and that he is "not the kind of person" he showed himself to be with those messages. He claimed that he was impaired by alcohol, and that as an escort who specializes in domination scenes he is often asked to use homophobic and/or racist language towards johns - thus why "homo" and "queer" rolled off his tongue so easily. I responded, and I maintain, that one's state of mind is no excuse for such conduct... if he was not comfortable using those words outside of client sessions, no amount of alcohol would have brought them out in that moment. Period.

I rarely log on here anymore, for no reason other than I have not engaged with any escorts or masseurs in some time and my priorities have overall shifted. However, a text exchange I had earlier this evening angered me enough that I felt moved to stop by.
 
Several months ago, I reached out to an escort named Reese who is based in Las Vegas. I saw that his travel schedule included an upcoming NYC visit, and was intrigued by his photos and stats. I never heard back, and did not give it much thought. I figured it was the universe doing me a favor and life carried on.
 
This evening, I was out to dinner when I received a text from a 646 number alerting me to the sender's brand new OnlyFans account. He said he hoped I would follow, and attempted to sell me by describing several "hard cock videos" he'd recorded. I responded honestly: "Who is this?" In reply, he simply linked me to his RM ad: https://rentmen.eu/REESE
 
I then told him that I was not an OnlyFans subscriber, and that as he had never responded to my inquiry some months ago I wasn't particularly interested in his videos. I then deleted the thread from my phone, as I was out to dinner celebrating my birthday, so I unfortunately do not have evidence of this exchange.
 
After dinner, I checked my phone for new messages and saw I had received three from "Reese." Technically two, with one being a spelling clarification:
 

 
You can believe my story, or don't. I don't really care. If you for any reason believe a (likely straight) escort telling a complete stranger to "Go get AIDS" is deserved, we have nothing to say to each other. But if you, like me, are a gay man with an understanding of the history of AIDS and its decimation of so many of our brothers, you will understand my outrage. This man does not deserve a dime from any one of us. It's time that we stop giving cisgendered, straight men our business and our attention just because they fit a physical ideal we have been engrained to put above all else. I am tired of men like this. I am tired of being "baby" until I am determined unprofitable, until I am a "homo," a "queer." I am DONE.

So you're saying this is my fault? You guys will really twist yourselves into pretzels to defend straight, muscular men huh...

I want to thank everyone who has shown their support in response to my post. Reese did in fact contact me today, claiming to be sorry and that he is "not the kind of person" he showed himself to be with those messages. He claimed that he was impaired by alcohol, and that as an escort who specializes in domination scenes he is often asked to use homophobic and/or racist language towards johns - thus why "homo" and "queer" rolled off his tongue so easily. I responded, and I maintain, that one's state of mind is no excuse for such conduct... if he was not comfortable using those words outside of client sessions, no amount of alcohol would have brought them out in that moment. Period.

I want to thank everyone who has shown their support in response to my post. Reese did in fact contact me today, claiming to be sorry and that he is "not the kind of person" he showed himself to be with those messages. He claimed that he was impaired by alcohol, and that as an escort who specializes in domination scenes he is often asked to use homophobic and/or racist language towards johns - thus why "homo" and "queer" rolled off his tongue so easily. I responded, and I maintain, that one's state of mind is no excuse for such conduct... if he was not comfortable using those words outside of client sessions, no amount of alcohol would have brought them out in that moment. Period.

I want to thank everyone who has shown their support in response to my post. Reese did in fact contact me today, claiming to be sorry and that he is "not the kind of person" he showed himself to be with those messages. He claimed that he was impaired by alcohol, and that as an escort who specializes in domination scenes he is often asked to use homophobic and/or racist language towards johns - thus why "homo" and "queer" rolled off his tongue so easily. I responded, and I maintain, that one's state of mind is no excuse for such conduct... if he was not comfortable using those words outside of client sessions, no amount of alcohol would have brought them out in that moment. Period.

I have no interest in hiring him, and you basically reiterated everything I've already said. Thanks just the same.