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When you hire an escort, who makes the first move? Should I initiate the session if an awkward amount of time has passed and no move has been made? I usually like to hop right in not to long after they arrive but I'm unsure of the etiquette in this situation. I'm a bit reserved so I'd prefer the escort to initiate but I'm unsure if that's how most clients operate.

A very engaging read. Thank you.

bUMP. He's about to be in DC and I'm in need of that.

In a good way or bad way because he has been on my radar for months!!!!

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Literally everything you said is how I feel. I'm not attracted at all to the type pf guys that I attract so hiring is really my only option at the moment. Opting for body worship with my clothes on has also been my go to as it gives me control to be satisfied without feeling too vulnerable. We could be twins.

Damn damn damn. I can't argue with that. If I'm not upfront with them, despite my embarrassment, I could set myself up for the very thing I'm trying to prevent.

You really nailed it. This problem is definitely more me than the escorts themselves. I think I'll take the easy way out and just tell them upfront to spare myself the perceived embarrassment. I'm truly a mess but damn if I didn't appreciate being able to talk about this.

I think I really like this idea. Thank you.

I share those same feelings. I would've hired twice this week alone if it wasn't for my fear.

Thank you. Thing is, I don't want to have to tell them I'm overweight beforehand. Nobody else has to inform escorts of their physical attributes beforehand, so why should I? I know, it makes sense because if they can't perform with a overweight guy then it would mutually beneficial to let them know upfront but that experience would only add to my anxiety.

Be gentle with me because I'm sharing something that I can't share anywhere else that's rather personal for me. I'm a tall mid-30's overweight black man that probably spends more time on RM than any other site. I often fantasize about having an amazing experience with a hot guy to at least somewhat makeup for the disaster that is a my dating life. The problem is that I experience a great deal of anxiety trying to hire someone because of my weight. I've had a number of bad experiences in the free dating world because of my weight and I always feel like that experience will be similar with an escort. Mostly I tend to choose less attractive escorts to mitigate some damage but I feel so ridiculous passing up hot guys I can afford because of this fear. I just want to feel wanted and validated. Does anyone else share these feelings?

Do tell...

20 reviews you'd think someone would have seen him.

Would you hire him again?

I'm really sorry for this experience. This is actually an old trick but if your're new to this I can see how you could get caught in it. This trick was very popular among female sex workers who would set up the victims sometimes with the help of their pimps. It was also shown in that HBO sex worker doc from the 90's.

Bump. I look at his profile daily.

A...greed!