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@tristanbaldwin I just had a thought: what if you created a GoFundMe to recoup the $20,000 loss of equipment and have the forum members contribute to help? Given how much of a quality guy you are and how much joy and pleasure you have brought to us forum members, I for one would be happy to contribute.

I hope you’re able to recover the losses, and I’m sorry that happened to you. Do what you need to and be safe, healthy, and happy. If you need to take a break, do so and know we’ll be glad you’re taking care of yourself and that you’re all right. If you come back, know some of us will be here to greet and hug you. Stay gold, Tristan. *hugs*

@purplekow If and when you get your house in PS, if you do a housewarming party, I'll happily come if you're open for it. I can bring eggrolls or lemon bars.

Forgive me for asking but I'm confused: what's bad about Masseur Finder? Granted, they won't allow anything signifying you can do anything more than therapeutic massage, but I would assume it's another site that can draw customers for you outside of RentMasseur. So wouldn't advertising on two sites instead of one broaden your pool for customers?

Because apparently there was talk about enjoyable cookies from the last gathering, how would people feel if I brought some homemade lemon bars with blueberry compote for our enjoyment at the pool? Won "Honorable Mention" at the Orange County Fair when I submitted them in the baking competition.

@Oliver just posted the dates! Wow, the timing of these posts is uncanny. 🤔

Woo hoo! Just called Inndulge and will be there from April 9-14! Just finished booking a room! Oliver, you have no idea how glad we are that we’re doing this again.

Is this the same guy (I think I recognize the tattoos); if so, apparently he went through another name change: Axel_X - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in Los Angeles, CA | RentMen RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in Los Angeles, CA - Axel_X: Masculine | Hairy - IN LA UNTIL 9/15

Does anyone know if Tristan Baldwin is doing all right? Not only has he not logged into RM, but he also hasn't been responsive on Twitter and J4F. And no answers to texts either. Forgive me @tristanbaldwin if I'm being annoying, but just let us know if you're doing OK. Thank you.

There might be a way to see what he looks like now. Does he have Instagram or posts to Twitter regularly?

It's actually part of erotic asphyxiation (Wiki article).

I'm not an expert and will never pretend to be, but I do breathplay with several providers, so.... *cracks knuckles* If the provider it willing, after tying them spread-eagled face up, I gag them with a thick cloth gag so that the majority of their breathing is through their nose, and in intervals, I hold and press down a pillow over their face (i.e 30 seconds with a pillow, then 30 seconds to allow them to catch their breath). If they want to stop, they give the safety signal of snapping their fingers. I don't like choking because it's possible to permanently damage the voicebox or larynx. For one provider who asked me to do it, after typing him up, I simply held my thumb over a portion of his neck and that was enough for him to get high off it (there was no need to wrap him in a chokehold or wrap my hands around his throat). However, believe it or not, the pillow is effective enough where it was give off the same high but a safer alternative where it won't damage anything around the throat or neck. Said same escort simply brushed it off when he started, saying it wasn't a big deal, but by the end, he was thrashing and groaning while being muffled by the pillow and gasping when allowed a breath, so he was caught by surprise at how much the pillow pressing against his nostrils made it difficult and he couldn't really breathe or scream out because he was gagged. As for doms, here's what I suggest: 1. Look around your area for doms experienced in bondage, but then try them out for a session without breathplay. I didn't think I needed it, but thanks to advice from fellow forum members, it really makes a difference if the provider and you have established some sort of rapport and history to get to know each other better. See if this dom respects you, follows your wishes, and gives you a good feeling in the way he handles his domination. After that session or two, bring up the breathplay. 2. Consent. See if the dom respects your safeword and immediately stops. Example: I had a session with two providers as a couple and though I explained the pillow breathplay session and they agreed beforehand, one of the pair freaked out when I did it to his partner, afraid I was hurting him. Both asked to stop for their safety, and though disappointed, I agreed to cut the session short and wished them well as they both left. As much as I would have liked the continue, if the provider wants to stop, I must stop for their safety and wishes. Whoever your dom will be, ensure he does the same to you. If you change your mind in the middle of the session, you are allowed to do so and check if your dom does the same. 3. I wouldn't recommend the choking, and would suggest the being gagged with a pillow, but if you must, after seeing if the dom has had any experience with it, try having your dom simply pressed with one hand across your artery or neck, enough to give a comfortable pressure without it hurting. And ensure your dom knows CPR and is aware of any medications or allergies from you should there be a worst case where he needs to call an ambulance. Also let your dom know if you have any injuries (I had to tie one escort in another manner when he revealed he had shoulder surgery). So be safe and research, but instead of choking, see if other forms of smothering could still get you off. If you find a dom, try him out for a session or two to get a feel for him before you decide if you can trust him or not. And ensure he respects your consent and stop immedaitely if you can't take it anymore. Hope this helps.

Is your friend OK?

I'm not too surprised considering for a while he was only doing Skype meetings and no in-person meetups. Still, I do wish him well and he had a long career, so if he wishes to end his services on his terms, then I'm happy for him. I did one Skype meeting, and he was great (he was willing to do one of my fantasies in the end) so I hope he'll be content in the next phase of his life.

I just had a discussion with a friend over this when I told him that I liked muscular older guys and daddies (and yes, I had maturedmuscle stay with me during the PS event in April so you can guess my type). He brought up something interesting. He pointed out that muscle and strength are associated with youth and vitality which is usually associated with younger guys, so if I like only like older muscle bears/bodybuilders/muscle daddies like maturedmuscle and not all body types of old/older men such as fat, skinny, wrinkled, or obese, then I can't really say I like old men. He says then technically, I only like old men who have youthful qualities. I disagreed on that, telling him that I usually only hired men around my age or older (so 40s or above) because I can find more subjects to talk and discuss over, and old guys can have muscle and bodybuilding is not solely a "young gay" sport. But that got me thinking if he has a point because then if I only like muscle daddies and not all types of old guys, would that technically be an aversion?

I know there was one post in another thread, but I've recently been getting into role-playing table top games like Dungeons and Dragons (on Saturday we played a five hour session at a friend's house over homemade peanut butter brownies and pizza and I loved it). The thing that I learned is that there are multiple genres of roleplaying games that are not just Dungeons and Dragons (I played Mighty Morphin Power Rangers as the Black Ranger and Marvel Multiverse where I played Iron Fist) like Vampire the Masquerade, Call of Cthulhu, Transformers, Lord of the Rings, and even G.I. Joe and My Little Pony. And believe it or not, all ages and genders are getting into it at the comic book shop I visit for sessions; I can't tell you how many kids, teenagers, and even Moms and Dads play with their kids (we had one five year old that impressed the DM with his unique ways of solving a problem; the DM actually said "I would have never thought of that"). It's fun to not only be on a quest with others but think of versatile and unconventional ways to get goals done and fight enemies (the DM basically rewards you if you think of a solution that surprises even them). Also, you plan your history and motivations of your characters and it makes the experience so much richer, getting lost in a character and realizing your role is a part of a grand saga. Plus, there are sites like Hero Forge that you can design your characters and they can 3-D print them and color them to your exact specifications so you can play with them during the sessions. Here's my two: a human acrobat Monk and a half-Orc, half-human nomadic wizard:

Vin/Danny just sent a text to me checking up on me because he was a bit worried when he noticed I was a little subdued from the PS event. I was really touched he took the time to contact about me and noticed. Seriously he’s got one of the biggest hearts in this industry, and I look forward to when we can meet again.

I believe he was previously known here as Briccmayo I’m surprised at some of the negative reviews; he previously had good things said about him earlier.

Me and maturedmuscle/Steve had a wonderful time (PM me if you want to know more), but I'm actually tired and glad it's over (there were a few setbacks on my trip), and as always, it's the people we met that made the biggest difference and joy. Making friends and meeting new people is the highlight of the trip, and I can't thank @Oliver @azdr0710 @sam.fitzpatrick and @David-SF enough for their kindness, attention to detail, gregariousness, and all in all making this year a wonderful success.

Just got back from the PS forum event with Steve/maturedmuscle. PM me for details but he's handsome, charming, polite, an excellent talker, and has a wonderful body.

Bumping for future reference.

Bumping for future reference.

I'm sorry but his friends actually tried to justify the theft? If someone doesn't want their picture taken, the first thought that pops up in my mind isn't to steal the other person's camera. If one of my friends ran a car off the road and then shot the driver in the head just because the driver cut him off on the freeway, I'm not going to come to my friend's defense. I assume once you showed Lawson's friends proof that Lawson agreed to the pictures and that he stealthed you and gave you two STDs, did they admit what Lawson did was pretty scummy? Or did they still refuse to believe he did anything wrong?

Many thanks to you and Todd for opening your home and hosting.

If anyone is interested, there's also a Farmer's Market in Palm Springs on Saturday (I discovered it last year): Farmers Markets in Coachella Valley California CERTIFIEDFARMERSMARKETS.ORG Fresh and locally grown fruits, vegetables, flowers, meat and more. All our farmers and vendors are certified so you can trust that the produce is organic and grown in an... They had an awesome juice stand and a stand that sold pretty good tamales and a bakery stand too. Plus, fresh fruits and stuff we could get for later back at your hotel room.