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I'm going to confess something: I've only been to a gay bar at night once years and years ago, and I didn't have a good time because I was drinking by myself. If we go in a group, I might be tempted to come along for the ride just for the experience. But why is parking tough? If it's a small parking loot, can't we just park in the street?

What about Friday afternoon? Does anyone know if the "early-bird" pool party will be this year?

Can't wait! Just two more weeks! Anyone knows any plans of any activities outside the three main ones? I don't mind going with a few to the farmer's markets and the Village-Fest.

I hate to tell you this but D.Dan passed away this year. This is from LPSG: Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.

Maybe some luck can happen for this search: anyone have a recent picture of 90s star, Luke Savage? He was popular from the late 90s/early 2000s, and was actually a Marine before he got discharged for doing gay porn. I won't invade his privacy, but I'm just wondering if anyone knows what he looks like now. Thank you!

You didn't miss it at all; it's coming this April 2025. You and your husband can still join this year in three months if you want.

Do you have a link? He's quite gorgeous.

I learned that PS also has a Villagefest on Thursday nights which is a Thursday night street fair for vendors, arts, crafts, and of course, lots of food stalls and trucks! https://villagefest.org/ Plus, there's the Farmer's Market on Saturday mornings at the Palm springs Cultural Center: Farmers Markets in Coachella Valley California CERTIFIEDFARMERSMARKETS.ORG Fresh and locally grown fruits, vegetables, flowers, meat and more. All our farmers and vendors are certified so you can trust that the produce is organic and grown in an... We can make a group visit/event to there if people are interested.

I hope 2025 will be a safe and calm year; 2024 was incredibly hectic and had a lot of bad moments, but I need to remember the blessings and good things that happened in 2024 too. Wishing everyone fun, love, friendships, and hope we meet new people at the Palm Springs Forum Gathering in April. A new friend/acquaintance is always welcome.

I wouldn't do it yet; e-mail or call RM admins and ask them if this is a valid call and that this is necessary. If it turns out it is valid, then even though it expired, you can do it again. If it isn't valid, you would have been a target of a scam because a picture of your passport is sensitive information.

We love you too, regardless if you have OnlyFans or not. Here's a suggestion: try coming to the PS event in April, it'll give you a chance to meet and make friendships and perhaps feel a little less lonely.

@tristanbaldwin I just had a thought: what if you created a GoFundMe to recoup the $20,000 loss of equipment and have the forum members contribute to help? Given how much of a quality guy you are and how much joy and pleasure you have brought to us forum members, I for one would be happy to contribute.

I hope you’re able to recover the losses, and I’m sorry that happened to you. Do what you need to and be safe, healthy, and happy. If you need to take a break, do so and know we’ll be glad you’re taking care of yourself and that you’re all right. If you come back, know some of us will be here to greet and hug you. Stay gold, Tristan. *hugs*

@purplekow If and when you get your house in PS, if you do a housewarming party, I'll happily come if you're open for it. I can bring eggrolls or lemon bars.

Forgive me for asking but I'm confused: what's bad about Masseur Finder? Granted, they won't allow anything signifying you can do anything more than therapeutic massage, but I would assume it's another site that can draw customers for you outside of RentMasseur. So wouldn't advertising on two sites instead of one broaden your pool for customers?

Because apparently there was talk about enjoyable cookies from the last gathering, how would people feel if I brought some homemade lemon bars with blueberry compote for our enjoyment at the pool? Won "Honorable Mention" at the Orange County Fair when I submitted them in the baking competition.

@Oliver just posted the dates! Wow, the timing of these posts is uncanny. 🤔

Woo hoo! Just called Inndulge and will be there from April 9-14! Just finished booking a room! Oliver, you have no idea how glad we are that we’re doing this again.

Is this the same guy (I think I recognize the tattoos); if so, apparently he went through another name change: Axel_X - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in Los Angeles, CA | RentMen RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in Los Angeles, CA - Axel_X: Masculine | Hairy - IN LA UNTIL 9/15

Does anyone know if Tristan Baldwin is doing all right? Not only has he not logged into RM, but he also hasn't been responsive on Twitter and J4F. And no answers to texts either. Forgive me @tristanbaldwin if I'm being annoying, but just let us know if you're doing OK. Thank you.

There might be a way to see what he looks like now. Does he have Instagram or posts to Twitter regularly?

It's actually part of erotic asphyxiation (Wiki article).

I'm not an expert and will never pretend to be, but I do breathplay with several providers, so.... *cracks knuckles* If the provider it willing, after tying them spread-eagled face up, I gag them with a thick cloth gag so that the majority of their breathing is through their nose, and in intervals, I hold and press down a pillow over their face (i.e 30 seconds with a pillow, then 30 seconds to allow them to catch their breath). If they want to stop, they give the safety signal of snapping their fingers. I don't like choking because it's possible to permanently damage the voicebox or larynx. For one provider who asked me to do it, after typing him up, I simply held my thumb over a portion of his neck and that was enough for him to get high off it (there was no need to wrap him in a chokehold or wrap my hands around his throat). However, believe it or not, the pillow is effective enough where it was give off the same high but a safer alternative where it won't damage anything around the throat or neck. Said same escort simply brushed it off when he started, saying it wasn't a big deal, but by the end, he was thrashing and groaning while being muffled by the pillow and gasping when allowed a breath, so he was caught by surprise at how much the pillow pressing against his nostrils made it difficult and he couldn't really breathe or scream out because he was gagged. As for doms, here's what I suggest: 1. Look around your area for doms experienced in bondage, but then try them out for a session without breathplay. I didn't think I needed it, but thanks to advice from fellow forum members, it really makes a difference if the provider and you have established some sort of rapport and history to get to know each other better. See if this dom respects you, follows your wishes, and gives you a good feeling in the way he handles his domination. After that session or two, bring up the breathplay. 2. Consent. See if the dom respects your safeword and immediately stops. Example: I had a session with two providers as a couple and though I explained the pillow breathplay session and they agreed beforehand, one of the pair freaked out when I did it to his partner, afraid I was hurting him. Both asked to stop for their safety, and though disappointed, I agreed to cut the session short and wished them well as they both left. As much as I would have liked the continue, if the provider wants to stop, I must stop for their safety and wishes. Whoever your dom will be, ensure he does the same to you. If you change your mind in the middle of the session, you are allowed to do so and check if your dom does the same. 3. I wouldn't recommend the choking, and would suggest the being gagged with a pillow, but if you must, after seeing if the dom has had any experience with it, try having your dom simply pressed with one hand across your artery or neck, enough to give a comfortable pressure without it hurting. And ensure your dom knows CPR and is aware of any medications or allergies from you should there be a worst case where he needs to call an ambulance. Also let your dom know if you have any injuries (I had to tie one escort in another manner when he revealed he had shoulder surgery). So be safe and research, but instead of choking, see if other forms of smothering could still get you off. If you find a dom, try him out for a session or two to get a feel for him before you decide if you can trust him or not. And ensure he respects your consent and stop immedaitely if you can't take it anymore. Hope this helps.

Is your friend OK?

I'm not too surprised considering for a while he was only doing Skype meetings and no in-person meetups. Still, I do wish him well and he had a long career, so if he wishes to end his services on his terms, then I'm happy for him. I did one Skype meeting, and he was great (he was willing to do one of my fantasies in the end) so I hope he'll be content in the next phase of his life.