Agree with those who advocate communicating up front what you want and what your boundaries are. While unfortunate (or perhaps fortunate for some), there is “gaming” and risk in all of this. Some masseurs want clients to play with, some clients want masseurs to play with, sometimes needs and deliveries align and everybody is happy. Sometimes not... and everything in between. I’ve had stuff happen to me like what happened to you although very rarely. For me it was not enjoyable, felt horrible, and I just left. So lesson learned. Don’t repeat. Just be sure you know what you want, your boundaries, and stick to it as best as you can (and I get that sometimes you just go with it even though...)